Don't feel bad Lisa, you'll find alot of us who feel the same way u do. I too am 5'10''-5'11", and i'm @ 290. I have joint pains, knee problems, gurd ect... I too should be @ 170-180lbs. After going to the seminars and researching and talking to people who have had the band, I know this is the best thing I could ever do for me. Like u I have a family and get caught up with what THEY need and want. Well this is for me, I want to play volly-ball again, go hiking and just shop for cute clothes again.
Good luck and I hope you find what's best for YOU. The seminars, support groups and this sight are the best way to get answers.