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PG...The reason I interpret it like that is because the death penalty is not taking care of a prisoner. Thank you, BJean! This is totally off topic, but I love your name. Only because I show American Saddlebred show horses and Road Ponies, and my favorite Road Pony is named Beaulah Jean (who is the current and 2 time World Grand Champion, the highest title you can get). Random..I know lol

A person nor government can tell a woman what to do to her own body. Now...abortion should NOT be a birth control. Just because a girl gets pregnant, and doesn't want the child for no reason, she shouldn't just get an abortion. But on the other hand, if I was a victim of rape or incest, and I cannot say that I wouldn't think twice about an abortion. I couldn't live with myself knowing I had a child growing inside of me that was forced (rape) on me. And yes, I am against the death penalty because Jesus said that He will condemn those who did not take care of the hungered, naked, thirsty, sick and in prison. (Matthew 25:35-46) "For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison and ye came unto me. Then shall the righteous answer him saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked and clothed thee? Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? And the King shall answer and say unto them, 'Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of my brethren, ye have done it unto me.' Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, 'Depart from me, ye cursed into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels." Now..I know everyone can interpret that different, but that's just my view. Nor am I trying to persuade anyone to agree with me. Just my 2 cents...

Just wanted to drop in and say hello!! :thumbup:

That's awesome!!!!! I am definitely keeping him in my prayers...along with everybody else in Haiti!

I have not been following the threads with every post at all. Just every now and then, and I just happened upon this one this morning. Like I said, I'm not a confrontational person at all, that's why I haven't been following. I apologize if I took your post the wrong way, BJean. But I do really believe that a true Christian will not ever act superior to others, no matter the situation (I'm not trying to defend anyone). And BJean, I'm not the type of person to condemn or judge anyone. I try very very hard to never judge anybody, especially by what they put on a message board. Cleo's Mom, you're right. Every person does have their own interpretation of the Bible. No one person is right. We have our opinions, and should not push them on anybody else who does not agree. To me...I may be wrong...there is a difference in trying to get someone to agree with you and pushing them to agree with you. I sure hope that made sense. lol So...again, I apologize for not reading thoroughly.

I talked with my husband's step-dad today (who has really been his dad), and he had a good point. Every time he gets down on himself, this happens. He hasn't brought up divorce in a couple of days, but he's still sleeping upstairs on the couch. I have definitely been helping him try to find a job. And never ever ever will/have I said anything about me making enough money for the both of us. And he is definitely a handy man! He fixes everything around the house. We are lucky that he can because it sure does save a lot of money! Last time this happened (him wanting a divorce) he was down in the dumps about not having a job. And I'm afraid he is too much of a man (sorry, men if you're reading this..no offense!) to own up to the depression and go to the doctor...not a therapist, just his primary care doctor!

I have avoided some of these threads because I am not a confrontational person. But what you said was wrong. I am a Christian and from what I have read of Patty's posts, she does not think that everything she does is right because of her beliefs. And if a Christian thinks and acts that way, they are not a true Christian, and God knows that. Please do not start bringing religion into things because that is wrong. Belittling someone for being a Christian is just as bad as belittling a person who is a different race than you. I'm not sure if that's the best comparison in the world, but it's the only thing I could come up with right now.

I didn't realize a primary care doctor could prescribe medicine for depression. Thank you for that info! I am very glad he didn't just leave, but then again, I do want to know what's going to happen between us.

Thank you, blaze! My emotional eating is trying to kick in. I haven't given in. All I want is a dang pizza! Ugh...I'm fighting the urge very very very hard. I've lost 14 pounds, and I don't want to mess it up with pizza. But man, this hard!!!

Blaze...I had a friend tell me the same thing. There are 5 people that know what is going on. None of them seem to think he will leave. And to be quite honest, I think if he was going to leave, he would have left. I may be wrong. I was talking to God today about all of this, and I had a very calming feeling when talking. I'm so afraid that my emotions take over, and I'm not really listening. Maybe God was trying to tell me that he's not leaving. I sure hope so.

Cathy...I really think he is battling depression as well. I am not trying to make excuses for him. He doesn't have a job (yet is trying to find one and applying). His friends give him a hard time by saying "Well, your wife will buy you this...your wife will buy you that." I know that's not fun because I grew up having people say "Your parents buy you everything". His mom asked him today how things are and he said "I'm just taking my time" and she said "No..either you're in or you get out!" I don't understand why he's taking his time.

Thanks, kellu. I am trying so hard to stay strong. I just can't imagine him never walking through the door again...or him not being the first one I talk to and see in the morning and him not being the last one I talk to and see at night. I know that sounds stupid. I seriously am at a loss as to what I'm supposed to do. He talked to a very good friend of ours (who is a female and I have talked to too) and she said she can see that he really is torn. I don't understand why he would be this torn. I mean, he either wants me or not. I cry every night when he goes upstairs to our bonus room to sleep on the couch.

Jess....I know God has so much in store for me. I have been praying about this for a week. There's times he acts like everything is ok, and then he will get depressed and "doesn't know what he wants". I just don't have the guts to give up and file for divorce yet. Cathy...I offered counseling. He said that he would go, but it would be a waste of money because he doesn't talk about things. Which is true...he is the type to hold it all in. I am the same way, even though I am willing to talk to a professional.

Well...I don't know what's going to happen. He keeps telling me he doesn't know what he wants. He told me yesterday he had decided he did want a divorce. But then he said "I don't know what I want, but I am seriously leaning towards leaving." I feel like my world is crashing down on me. He hasn't slept in the bed with me in 2 weeks. I offered to separate before just giving up, but he says he has no where to go. I didn't even want to get out of bed this morning. I just wish he would make up his mind. I either want to be happy and work on things...or I want to just go ahead and be completely heart broken. This in the middle thing is killing me.

I woke up this morning so excited because I have been cleared to start walking 30 minutes a day. Well, I don't have a treadmill, and I have an appointment this morning so instead of going to the gym, I decided to use my elliptical. I got all pumped to do 30 minutes while watching Good Morning America. I couldn't even do it for 5 minutes without my legs starting to feel weak and I'm completely out of a breath! So, now I'm upset that I can't even do the elliptical. I'm not looking for pity. I'm looking for tips to start this whole working out! I'm not allowed to lift anything yet, just slight cardio. I can walk 30 minutes on a treadmill. I'm hoping to be able to eventually run (I"m going to do the couch to 5k when I get 6 weeks out). Please give me some tips!

Thanks, blaze. For some reason I thought since I could walk 30 minutes, I could do 30 minutes on the elliptical. Boy, was I wrong. lol

I am trying to take in 1000-1200 calories but I just can't eat that much at a meal. I don't know if I'm so scared of getting stuck now or what. I know I don't have restriction because my doctor does not put any Fluid in the band at surgery. We went and ate Japanese food tonight. I got salmon, and didn't eat the rice or noodles, but I did eat some zucchini because it mushed really well. I know I didn't eat half a cup, but here I am hungry again. So I ate some SF pudding. I'm at a stall at 232, so I'm starting slight cardio tomorrow.

That's discouraging. lol But it makes sense! I'll be 2 weeks out on Wednesday, but the doctor has cleared me for the treadmill starting tomorrow. Luckily, I get my first fill on the 27th!! I'm sure we will all hit a point where our weight loss slows down, I just dread when it happens because you can't help but get discouraged.

I know we aren't supposed to gulp our liquids. Exactly just how big of sips are we supposed to take? Are they supposed to be tiny or medium size?? I'm so confused.

Just a quick thing about Alli. I had my gallbladder taken out, and was told never to take Alli! That came straight from my surgeon who took out my gallbladder. And I know 2 people that tried it (who do not have their gallbladder) and it caused severe abdominal pain and caused the dumping syndrome for days.

Dr. Jamie Ponce with the Gastric Band Institute in Chattanooga, TN costs $14,900. That does not cover pre op blood work testing or fills. My insurance covered the pre op blood work. And fills are $50 each.

Blaze, that is what his mom thinks is this is possibly coming from knowing that I will get skinny and get prettier. And I am not going to leave him when I do lose my weight. He came home, and we had another talk. He told me that he was not going anywhere, but that he did need to work on some stuff with himself. And I know that to be true. He is jobless right now, and feels like a failure. My income is enough to support both of us comfortably, and it makes him feel like he's a freeloader. But he is trying so hard to get a job. We discussed starting to go to church regularly. I think that would be a big help in our relationship. I have cried and prayed all morning, so maybe my prayers are starting to be answered!

I have been praying. And I know God works in His own time. My husband started asking me something this morning while we were having a talk, and I said "You can ask me whatever because nothing you can ask will hurt me more than you saying you want a divorce." And I didn't say it with a smart attitude. I was bawling my eyes out when I said it. He got so mad that he got ready and left. I can't figure out why it made him so mad. I don't know if it hit home that I truly am hurting or if he just doesn't care.

I know you're not being mean, and I truly do appreciate you talking to me! I have only talked to one of my best friends and his mom about what's going on. Last time, I talked to more than that. I can't figure out what set this off. I mean, Wednesday morning, everything was great! We were laughing and cutting up. And when I got done with my 1 week check up from my surgery, he was wanting a divorce. His mom seems to think he will come around, and if he does, I will be soooo happy. But how long do I have to sit here and cry? I've been cuddled up in my snuggie all morning crying. Luckily my dogs are asleep in the recliner because I really don't feel like dealing with them. I can't make myself get up to just put in my contacts and straighten my hair. I'm so scared. I have some wedding pictures sitting out, and all I have to do is glance at one, and I start crying even more. If there is another woman, I wish he would tell me. At least that would give me some known reason for him wanting a divorce. Not that it would make it any easier, but I would have some knowledge of what's going on in his head.

He hasn't moved out or anything, yet...I keep praying that he will come home and have changed his mind. I asked him if he would go to couple's counseling before just giving up. His response was "Yeah, but it'll be a waste of money. You know I don't talk to people about things." His mom knows what's going on, and she is so mad at him. When he pulled this before, everybody kept telling me that he was stupid because he will never find anybody that loves him more than I do. I would do anything for this man. I haven't told my mom about this time because she will go crazy. I know I don't deserve this roller coaster, but I just don't know how I'm going to make it without him. He's my world..