BayougirlMrsS

well welcome back .... wishing you all the best

cheryl is right.... my Ulcer on my left hip had to heal from the inside out... healed pretty good too. You look fab... by the way.

It's so encouraging to see Young people taking control of their lives.... So happy that the two of you are doing just that. If i may make a suggestion... I would tell NO ONE... Simply say, this is a new year and a new Life. I'm going to eat better and exercise. I find even if you tell one person, especially women, that's it. It's all over. NOT even your best friend. Women love to gossip and talk about other women. I would only tell the person that will bring you to and from the hospital. They will start to watch everything you eat and do.... Are you supposed to have that? Shouldn't you being doing this?.... I recently sent this to another person, and adjusted it to you, hope you don't mind: You have to keep focused on you.... not your family or friends... they will start to sabotage you... Your thinking... but my family and friends want me to be healthy... True for the most part..... i'm guessing most, but not all of your friends are Fat too... lets be honest, we run in hordes .. lol but there is always that one skinny friend... she loves hanging with you all because, she's the skinny one and get all the attention.... But wait till you start becoming thin... she will start saying things like.. eat one bite, it won't hurt ya...don't go to the gym today.. lets go eat out... You are now competing for attention... she will not like that one bit. You fat friends won't like it either... your no longer "one of them". They will do that same things "skinny b***h" will do because they want to keep fat YOU around... You will also become a reminder of their failures that they are still fat and no matter how happy they pretend to be for you... deep inside, they will be green with envy. You will find out who your True friends are... they are the ones that keep encouraging you the entire way.. the ones that say.. hey after you work out, want to go have coffee... or ask you to help them take control the way you have. they are the At-a-boy givers... they will rise to the surface... Parents and siblings are the big supporters.... unless they are big too... Dads and brothers are the best, they are a great support team. Better than moms and sisters. Moms and sisters sometimes don't know how to handle the new person. My mom said... Chris your getting too thin don't you think.... My brothers wife (she had lb a year before me) stop visiting. She lost only 20lb when she had it done. I was a reminder of her failure..... Un known to me, he had said... Look at my sister, she looks great, why can't you lose weight like she did.... Of coarse i chewed his ass for saying that... but, it true... she could have if she had made the commitment to do so. She just had the Bypass done and so far she is doing great. Im happy for her.

Erin, it's best to check with your doctor. but i would start simple with walking and then increase with speed and distance. I also joined Zumba. I was a HOT mess in that class, but the instructor said, don't worry about getting it right... the main thing is to keep moving.... Also did some swimming. But it was a while before i started doing weights.

Could be on the inside.... I would go see the dr. and let him decide. Maybe some antibiotics will do the trick.

I have tried those and i can't ever get it right... i always end up looking like an umpa-lumpa with Streeks....lol I heard that Fake Bake was good.

gosh... that was three years ago... but i think i stayed in the gown and then changed into PJ's to go home.... Surgery was on a Tuesday and was at work the next Monday .. and got a welcome back Pink slip..... surprise.. your laid off....

knowledge is power....

Thank you so much. Im very pleased with my results. Not long... i think two hours. No, i had to pay for it myself... and i mean me. My husband said i didn't need it done and if i wanted it i would have to figure out a way to pay for it myself.... so i did. I now clean my office building and it pays for my TT. I was back at work in 12 days that includes weekends. I did it over the mardi gras holiday, so i got a few extra days. I was walking my neighborhood in three days.... still hunched over, but walking none the less. I had to wear my compression garment for 6-8 weeks, i had no drains. I did have one spot that developed a sore... Fluid came from it. This is a little gross.. but you can see what happened and how it healed.

Yes.... and Yes.... I also bought a kids plate, you know the ones with cartoons on them and three parts. According to my dr. , bites should be no bigger than the nail on your pinky finger. Hope this helps

First, let me say how sorry i am for the recent stress in your life... Just remember ... This to shall pass.. I too would wait and let things settle before going back. continue with your self monitoring of your food. Pre portion out as much as possible..... My suggestion would be, next time only order the shrimp, stay clear of the fried potatoes and if the shrimp were fried too, next time ask for them to be grilled. Most rest. offer a Kids shrimp.. order that and ask if it can be grilled.... 9 or 10 will say yes... then ask if they have any veggies you can get instead of the FFries. Tell them to keep the drink if it comes with one in place of the up charge for the veggies if there is one. Don't give up on your band and keep positive....

you can also look in to other cards. We have a care credit card (husband's lasik surg) and i was going to use it for my Tummy Tuck, but when i saw the interest rate i was shocked. Even with our excellent credit..... So i went to the bank intending to take out a personal loan, but my friend at the bank said, Chris, open a Chase Slate card... 0% interest for 15 months.... So that's what i did... Maybe that will work for you if you can't get approved through insurance.

omg..... i saw her... she had the flannel shirt on top..... she look terrible. I dvr it everyday so i can watch when i get home.... Picture this..... female at least 350#..... purple top that stopped at the belly button.... black hooker shoes.... and the icing on the cake..... Purple and black zebra striped spandex leggings.... Oh yes... it was brain scaring...

i heard that some universities will do plastic surg. for free if you let them keep the skin.... I never looked into it my self.... But i have heard this. I guess if you have a lot to take off.. I, like my friend Floridays... i didn't have enough skin. I wish i would have done the breast at the same time.... i want a do over...lol I only had my tt and it was $8800 total. Out of pocket, insurance didn't cover one cent. KN11....here's what my scar looks like at 11 months.

those are some of my favorites.... I love choc dipped strawberries....

Funny how our mind plays tricks on us.... When i was bigger I didn't see that either. Crazy i know.

wow.... annette.... from now on i'll call you Mrs.... Wonka...lol Just kidding. What is your business if you don't mind saying?

this is why i didn't respond back... Thanks ms jean I haven't been called a whippersnapper in years.... lol. But thanks all the same.

i also have the 14cc. I thought for sure i would get the smaller one.. but nope... Now my friend that had surg. the same day and who was twice my size got the smaller one.... It all depends on how things fits once he/she gets inside.

Has any of what i said help you in any way. Where there things i said, that made you think... "i didn't know that".. I will try that tip? For me, Ice burg lett. was hell! I can eat mixed green salad... but if it has one shred of ice burg it's coming right back up. Maybe make note of the things that you eat and what you were doing when you ate them... Good and bad. I learned the hard way that i can eat chicken, but my favorite chicken wings from Wing Stop will make me sick. I can eat baked potato and sweet potato.... but can't eat them fried. When i eat and watch tv or read, it easy for me to revert back to taking a big bite and somewhat chew and swallow and before i know it... i'm sick. I hope you try some of the suggestions that were given by all the above people and not give up on you or your band. So i'm going to say this.... If i offended you in anyway... i hope you will except my apologies .

Don't let everyone know i was Kind..... i have a mean girl reputation to uphold...... lol Seriously.... i hope you noting but success along your journey...

You are on a great path....You are a college grad, you are making great contacts... stop thinking your life sucks... you have made the choice to have LB to take control of your life... this is HUGE... Embrace every pound and every inch lost... Temp jobs a great..... think of all the contacts you are making and the different things you are learning and one day someone will look at your resume' and say.... Wow this girl is well rounded... Always be up for learning something new... and go into every interview thinking... These people need me, and when you leave, leave with them thinking.... Damn we need her. Your permanent job is only a one temp job away.....

This is why i respect you and your opinion so very much. I still look in the mirror and see the "fat" girl sometimes. Sometimes i see me.... Christmas shopping, i was passing a mirror and caught sight of me, they way i think others see me now.... and i started crying because, i thought, wow... that's me right there... and that me is skinny and healthy... How come i don't see her all the time? Then thought..... hummm must be the mirror.... Now how can i rip it off the wall and take it with me..... lol When i look in the mirror at my face i now see all the wrinkle and line that a "fat" girl face never showed. My husband has threaten to take down all the mirrors because he hears me say.... look at this wrinkle, at this cellulite... at these stretch marks... He says... Stop chris, stop you look great. Well, Except for the time he told me i was starting to look like a bag of bones... (he thought it was a compliment)... men.

Hey Pot... Kettle here..... aren't you doing just what you said i was doing... You said: when I needed help the most, I thought I could come here and get support, but found there were certain people that were and as you call it "honest" and of very little encouragement or support. Because of that I stopped coming to a site. So now you have returned to the site, do you avoid "those" people that were mean too you? Good, you should surround your self with people that tell you exactly what you WANT to hear...... Me i prefer to surround my self with people who tell me what I NEED too hear. You also said: I don't want negativity and finger pointing to discourage anyone else from coming here, like it did with me, and have them feel they have no one or no where they can be completely honest and get the advice they need to succeed! I'm pretty sure that's what I and a few others were trying to do.... be completely honest.. so she can succeed...!!! And because of that i'm now "the mean kid". Being Judgmental are we? I think you are wrong... the world is a kind place for the most part. It's just a lot easier to see the bad than it is to see the good.

You said that you wanted people to come here and not be negative and point fingers.... What about all the people that would have read her post and thought.... Wow, i'm not getting that, i won't be able to eat... and no one coming in an saying.... Hey wait one moment, i'm here to say the band is wonderful and look at all the success that it has helped to create. Do you want one bad apple to spoil the whole bunch? Would you want someone to read her experience and it be the one that makes or breaks some ones decision to have the band. I don't, because, i still hold firm to "user Error". I don't think she has had enough time with her band to come here and blame it and not have someone say..... NO, you need to take a deep look with in and see if there are things being done right or wrong. Maybe on one told here she should be eating bites no bigger that the finger nail of her pinky... or try eating with a small fork/spoon... or turning off the TV... Those are some very important things to know.... I didn't even think to eat with a smaller fork... Until someone told me... See what i'm saying. Yes, that every parents Goal.... I'm sure my parents said, whommm I'm going to raise a disrespectful, judgmental, and abrasive woman. Because you could not be further from the truth. Being raised in the DEEP south (10 miles from the Gulf), we are raised to be all the things you said, but also to be Honest above all. Your right... It's not what you say, it's how you say it! 90% or more of the things i post are respectful, non-judgmental and very encouraging..... but sometimes people need to here the truth, myself included. What hit home for me.... was not recognizing my self in a picture.... I could not believe that was me, how did i let myself get like that? So i researched and researched and talked to a co worker everyday at lunch and chose the LB... I also knew that it's a tool and that i would have to change the way and what i ate. I also knew that i would have to go back to my doctor for fill and advice and i would be held accountable for my successes and failures. I know i am a direct person, if you think that i'm not a person you can talk to or ask advice, simply put me on your ignore list. It's ok, i'm a big girl, i can handle it....... But if you want to know the truth with out all the icing... I'm here should you need. Do i have all the answers.... NOT EVEN CLOSE!! But i would be happy to share some of the things i have learned along this crazy journey...Good and bad. Heres too Everyone having a Great day and continued success on YOUR journey....