BayougirlMrsS

@@Miss Mac Why did he make you wear man socks? good thing he's an ex... lol @@gowalking I agree with the shoes... the sexier and higher the better. Few new additions... I wish i could buy the matching bras.... but they don't make many cute ones in a 34H.... hehe

@@Butterfly512 ...... this is something i posted here a few years back. How i felt and i hope it may help. By the way we were about the same.... Im 5'2.5" and was 223 I have not always needed you.... and one time in my life.. i was a "normal" person. Size 0-3... weight a whopping 100lbs. Back in my single day... then one day you meet a wonderful guy and you fall in love... ahhh things are great. You get married and have a beautiful son. and life is good.... but then you notice that your not happy as you use to be. some days are worse than others... you find the strength to get up every day and go to work and live a "normal" life. Things are good at home... but something is missing... that spark, that feeling you use to get when you and your spouse were together intimately .. and you notice that those time have gotten further and further apart... and you think, what is going on? and one day the reason is staring you right in the face... the mirror... but in that mirror is someone else... surely it's not me... I don't look like that... that's a ugly fat girl... i'm not ugly and i for damn sure am not fat. Can't be... i told my self years ago i would NEVER let myself look like... those people... but then you look closer... and closer and there.. i know those eyes.... those are my eyes... but why do they look so sad. I have happy eyes. and i see, i see the real me. the one others have been seeing for years.... how did i not see this... how did i let myself get like this ... how did i become that girl that now had to shop at the plus size store... when just yesterday i was a size 3... How did i become the girl the skinny girls are now looking at and saying... i'll never let my self look like HER... and i'm the HER. this feeling takes the very last shred of self-confidence and stomps it into the dirt and spits on it. and you think...i am ugly i am fat i am unworthy of love.... unworthy of feeling good. and you start to eat... more and more and everything keeps getting worse. you stop taking care of your self, stop dressing up stop wearing make up and fixing your hair.... stop putting forth the effort at all... You are now sitting in a deep dark cave, alone and no one or nothing can show you the light.... But one day... you open your eyes expecting to see nothing... complete darkness and there it is... a speck of light.... it's tiny, but just right there in front of you. and you squint to see it.... making sure its really there. that speck was my friend Paula... she had lb surgery and everyday we talked and everyday my light grow brighter.... I went to the doctor and did all the test... did it all and then the news that i was approved... OH ... JOy. I looked in the mirror and saw a glimmer of hope. But as the days grew closer... I started to think... WHAT IF... what if i die on the table, what if i fail at this too, what if i stayed fat forever... Then i saw this site...trolled for a long while. I didn't want to sign because, well what if someone knew me... the horror... Then i saw all the successful people... the beautiful woman and handsome men that in their before pictures looked so sad... sad like me. Then i saw the after pictures.. and all the happy smiling faces... people who were bigger than me... now wearing size 6 jeans (lellow)... and i thought.. i can do this i can get my life back.... I will be happy again. so on November 10, 2009... i awoke.. was re-born. and i did do it... i lost 80lbs... it took me longer than most, but i don't care. I have donated all the 12-14-16 & 18 and moved in to my own size 6... On Feb 15, 2012.... after a long hard fight.... i won and awarded my self a tummy tuck... i deserved it. I earned it.... so to my band... thank you... for sticking with me and always keeping me on track. and too all you out there thinking about doing this.....search with in your self and be happy again... which ever way you choose.....

Removing this question. Thanks

Yes I cna help you with that. The instructions say to put a coat of reg mascara on both eyes first. I don't. 1. Put one coat on one eye of the gel 2. Put coat of fibers. They are fibers so you don't want too get too close to the eyeball. 3. Put one coat on other eye of gel 4. Put one coat of fibers 5. Repeat till desired lenth and thickness 6 pu final coat of gel to seal them on I know it sounds like a lot. But it really is not. Washes off with soap and Water or your fav wash. Attached are my eyes. I would never recommend anything unless i loved it.... and i do.

if you really want the fake lash look without fake lashes.... but Younique 3D Fiber lashes. i started selling it couple years ago and i have to say it the best on the market. I don't sell it anymore because i don't have time, but you can by on line. and on Ebay.... they do have impostors... but I am a mascara *****....lol

Thanks.... @@Babbs

Where to start..... I guess at the beginning... always a good place. I got marred the first time at the age of 16, had my first son and was divorced before i finished High school.... Raised him (Brett, 30/yo)on my own with zero help from his father are government. He is married and has my only two beautiful, smart, amazing wonderful grandkids (Logan is 9, Elizabeth is 7) Went to college, graduated and got remarried at the age of 23. We have been marred for 24 years. I wish i could say that they are getting better, but they are not. But that's a different story. We have a 23 yr old son (Jason) Single and is so handsome... 6'3" great job... so any single girl, hit me up for his digits... hehe. As you can see, im ALL southern woman... From Houma, Louisiana..... No i don't sound like the people on TV.. (Swamp People). I do know a few of them... lol. Hobbies: Reading, riding motorcycles (yes i can ride my own), Shooting guns (yes im a Concealed Carry girl), i use to enjoy exercising (husband jealousy ruined that) but i will get my ass in gear and do it.... Love to fish and be outside getting a good tan (if you can tone it ... tan it). I admit i am a Real House Wives, Walking Dead, Game of thrones, Amazing Race junkie.... 5 years ago, i got banded and logged on to the "lapband" site... Made so many wonderful friends, many of which i still chat with on Yahoo via IM.... Some disappeared when the site merged.... But all in all it's been a great journey. Pics: me and husband, my oldest and his wife (both RN's) Elizabeth, Logan, and me and youngest Jason... and the baby girl... Heidi (mini schnauzer).

So 6 years ago when i started this process I weighed in at 230lbs. 5'2" and completely out of shape. Fortunately for me that was all i was... FAT. I had no other issues, thank God. But with the family history i have.. i was headed down the high blood pres., diabetes, heart des. path. At that time i had great insurance and it was covered. I did have some out of pocket expenses. A few co pays and some of the hospital.... total about 2k. (he throws that in my face all the time). I had WLS on the Tuesday and was back at work on the Monday... At that point i was laid off from my job of 10 years. But i started cleaning houses and was making good money. but i went back to "work" after 7ish months. At first he was supportive... at least i thought he was. He had made little comments here and there about me losing the without the surgery. I brushed it off. I have had a few other surgeries since we have been married (1 c section, gallbladder, hysterectomy) and he was zero help. I don't know why i thought he would be for this "elected surgery". what was i thinking. I'm grateful that i have a high tolerance for pain and that i recover quickly. Anyway... Fast forward... the weight was slow to come off and he started with the little comments... I thought this was going to make you lose weight... Probably won't work for you.... Then weight loss started to show and the "attention" started, and he HATED!!! it..... He said things that were and still are very hurtful.... When i got to about 150ish... he ask How much more do you plan on losing? I said, i wanted to lose about 20lbs...Why? he said, because your starting to look like a bag of bones you look sick. He also said that i was prettier with a fat face because my wrinkles didn't show then. Are you going to wear that out, that shirt is kind of tight, don't you think... but that's what you want, all the men too look at you. so many others.... But the best one was a few weeks ago when he said that WLS was my HOBBY.... that i really didn't need it and that i could have lost the weight on my own if i really wanted too. we have been married for over 24 years, i weighted about 100lbs when we met. He never showed this side ever. Even through the weight gain he never said anything..... Now i see why.... it's was his way of keeping my self esteem at zero, the more i gained the worse i felt, the more control he had..... but as the weight came off and the confidence started to go up, his control started coming down. This is when the insults accusations got worse..... where are you, what are you doing, who are you with... what man are you flirting with that you could answer my call/text.... I know this is his insecurities.... But it still hurts. We live alone, both the boys are out of the house... My oldest is from my first marriage. We both have decent jobs and money is not something we really worry about (he controls the finances). But we argue most everyday.... the last one was about FB... Of all things. He saw an old classmate "like" a post i made and he blew up... But then i saw on his where he was "poking" 4 different classmates of his (all female all single)... So anyway i deactivated my account and so did he. At the time he said that that would fix everything.... that was almost 2 months ago and we are still arguing. I have BEGGED BEGGED BEGGED him to go to counseling. His answer to me was... Get a part time job to help pay for it and i will go. I know i rambled on and on.... but, don't sweep this under the rug... don't let it get out of hand... face it with him and try and get him to go with you to a counseling session. Have him say what his worries are. Don't be like me.... miserable at 46 years old.

@@My Bariatric Life.... My insurance won't pay. I have already been turned down twice. :-( Had i knew then what i know now i would have had it at the same time as the TT. But so many people said how "painful" the TT was and i back out... :-( But we live and learn... My TT was pretty pain-free... I slept in my recliner the first week, started walking as soon as i could and was back at work with in two weeks. But then again, im no stranger to surgery. 2 c-sections, gallbladder, hysterectomy, WLS... i also have a high tolerance for pain...thank god

@@My Bariatric Life.... Thank you so much for the compliment. I am in aww with your transformation. Yes, all i had was the TT. I worked really hard at the gym. At first i was really bummed that i was loosing slowly, now in hind-site... Im happy for it. I truly believe that losing it slowly helped with the skin going back better. But that's just my theory. I was also lucky that with both my babies i didn't get stretch marks on my upper stomach. All were down in the pubic area. i do have some on my upper thighs, but after a good tan, they are not that noticeable. I would really love a reduction. I know i should be happy that mine didn't deflate like a lot of people, but they are sooo large i look like Dolly Parton... hehe I don't have pain, but that's because i get properly fitted for bras and i know this is key (i have always had large breast). My PS has a huge party at the end of the year for all his patients (if you want to go), most everyone there thought i had had breast implants because they are so large. I said nope... this is what God had made. hehe When i get the extra money.... im going in for that and little lipo on the inner and outer. I wanted that with the TT, but my PS said i didn't need it. @CowgirlJane.... Great job.... you look so happy

@@Keemi13 Amy, have you called your dr. yet? This doesn't sound normal too me. I didn't have it till about a year ago, which is 4 years out. I found that extra strength Gavascon helped me. Then i wised up and went get 1cc removed from my band. Did your dr. put any fill in your band at the time of surgery? What size band and if he/she did, how much did they put in? I have the 14cc band and didn't have any put in at time of surgery. Please don't wait around... Call dr.

my daughter in law lost 80lbs doing the Ideal Protein diet and she is in the same boat at you. She will need some nip and tucking. and i will be there for her just like she was there for me. I love her to death. and i am so proud of her. I know there is no way i could have stuck to that diet... OMG... But anyway, im wondering how much for what @@JamieLogical and @@Sweet Pee I know she won't need that extensive, but she will need more than what i had done. I exercised 5 days a week and thank God my skin went back for the most part in most places.... she didn't and has more skin.

@@NewSetOfCurves WOW!!! honestly i thought you had already had work done. You look amazing. My regret... i wish i had done a reduction at the same time (i was a 44H before and im a 34H now). and I wish i had done some lipo on my legs (outer and inner) But my husband didn't want to have this done and only told him two days before surgery because i know he would talk me out of it.... I love my results and would do again.... @@JamieLogical how was the pain? And What dr. did you use in Mex? I went check out Swet Pee's ... he does some good work. @@Soontobeskinnyme & @NewSetOfCurves.... Thank you.

@JamieLogical.... Explain the butt graft thing. this grandma needs some. I mean it's not pancake flat... but its not bootylicious like your... hehe.

@@NewSetOfCurves do you have before and after? Here is my pic taken at PS office at one year. And my day before LB surgery and i guess about two years post op TT in purple

i guess coming here and reading the many different post on the band has us all a little worried. As i think we all should be. Im trying to get back on track. Just like @@Jmejme Where i was good and then all of a sudden, two years with out a fill ... Bam, i was having re flux and a hard time keeping down Supper. I went in feb and got a 1cc removal and i do feel better. I have occasional episodes, but nothing terrible. Not to get too graphic... but the gas (not belching) has gotten worse. Constipation is sort of a problem... (but not always). Sometimes i feel a heaviness in my chest. I just keep praying that it all works out... My job now does not cover WLS and if something should go wrong i would have to sell one of my kidneys or some eggs.... to get GB or the Sleeve... No way am i going back

@@finediva you were right to trust a Male friend.... Female are gossips by nature. My self included..... lol Thanks for the compliment... my road has not been an easy one and is still very rocky. But that's another topic... WLS and it's acceptance has come along way over the past years. Most people understand more, about WLS and don't look down on us as much.

i have had this also.... no always, but on occasion.

my dr. always makes me drink a large glass of Water before leaving... but, that being said, i have had time when it just feel tighter than other... for no apparent reason. More so during the winter months. I don't know why. I went to long being too tight. i went get 1cc out and i feel much better. your doing the right thing.

@@megieg .... this is what i told another person that is concerned about what to say... remember, you own them NOTHING.... no explanation. it's none of there business. I felt the same way when i had surgery. That i had to hid what i was doing. And i did for a while, but jealousy got the best of a very close/co work and friend... and she ratted me out. Up to that point my standard answer to .... Wow, you have lost some weight, how did you do it, was..... I watch everything i eat, cut down my portions and started exercising..... which was the truth. and then i walked away.... unless it was one of the b*****s that use to say bad things about fat people, but who has now gained weight..... To them i would say... the same thing, but i added...Wow you have put on some pounds... what happened to you? Watch there face and the expression, flip my hair....and walk away.... boop!! If you want it to stay a secret, tell no one.... and i mean no one. You think you can tell your closest friends/co workers.. But they will eventually talk. Especially if they are larger too. One day some one will say in passing.... did you see how great Meg is looking... and out it will come.... "i could lose weight too if i had WLS"... and there you go. The gossip will start and now you are exposed. If i could have gotten away without telling i would have gotten a cab home.

@@bluegudren Me too... and a handy can of Febreze

@@hadouni I have few that my husband of 24 years has told me: he asked, How much more weight i wanted to lose? I asked why... he said... because your starting too look like a bag of bones (i was 143lbs). Another one: your face was prettier when you were fat, now i can see all your wrinkles. Another... Your not fat, your just thick (155lbs recent). But the best was just last week when he said that LB was my HOBBY.... that i really didn't need to have that done, i wasn't that big and i could have lost it on my own if i had really wanted too.... Yeah... things are great in my house...