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@@SleevedStephanie Sweetie... don't let the "negative-ninnies" get to you... I know it is hard. Word do hurt and when the comments are about our personal appearance... it plays with our hearts and heads. I would look at it as a compliment... and when they say... your too thin, say Thanks, You really think i'm thin.. Yeah me!!! Im sure you are looking amazing and they maybe a little (are a lot) Jelly.....

did they put a fill in at time of surg? I really can't speak on anyone else, only me. but, last month i was (still am) going through a really stressful time and for some reason my band just tighten up. So my surg took out all the fill and i "rested" my stomach.... it help. So now we are filling her back up 2cc at a time.

@@FDclerical I am so sorry to hear of your tragedies.... I have the band... so i know nothing about all this... just wanted to say Good luck and i pray everything goes well

@@Heather I I sware i could have wrote what you wrote verbatim... In fact he told me last night that he still thinks i could have lost the weight on my own.. I told him, i did. No one lost it for me. He also said i was too skinny (again)....I went over to his house last night to talk about the house and other stuff.... it started not good.... but then he feed me 4 shots of Fireball and well..... when i drink i tend to get a little (ok a lot) emotional.... and i started second guessing my feelings and one thing lead to another.... but when it came down to the "deed"... he looked at me and said... i can't, i don't know where you have been.... are you kidding... I haven't been anywhere... Sure i date, but that doesn't mean im a whore... it was so hurtful i cried all night and into this am. He sure knows how to break a woman..... I told him that... and of course he turned it around on me and said i made him feel like a piece of meat.... So today sucks....

Went see my dr last tuesday .... two day before my 7 year Band-anniversary.... weight 130... 100lbs lost and he said... you are now at a 23.8 BMI. Then he asked me to be on his website as a testimonial that the band does work....

@@Recycled Really love your comment... I have tried the... be nice answers... now i just say, i like me... but thanks anyway. @@SleevedStephanie If your not into the "shock and aww"... i would simply say, I'm working on getting myself healthy and fit. You may think im to thin, but my body doesn't agree yet and when it's at a comfortable weight, it will tell me. Eating... well sit against the wall and feed the dog under the table... hehe.. JK..... i put small spoonfuls of the things i like and can eat on my plate... i eat that... when someone says.... Is that all your going to eat... say yes, i have some place else to go after and i don't want to fill up here...but everything is delish..... I normally lose weight during holidays and vacations... for some reason i get hyper aware of everything i eat and really eat conscientiously....

Good morning all.... Yesterday was my 7 year anniversary with the LapBand. It has been a year... some good... Some not so good. But that's the way life goes... Take the good with the bad. Don't want to bore you guys with the same... "about me" speech.... So here is what i wrote last year and ill just update how this year has gone. http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/355155-6-year-bandaversery-and-still-going-strong/ Lapband is doing great.... right now i only have 2cc in my 10cc band.... about a month ago i was under a lot of stress and my band tightened up and i was having a hard time keeping food/drink down.... So i sent my dr. a text and he said come in... went in and he removed 8cc...(i thought i had 10cc in, but i guess not)... Anyway he took it all out to let my esophagus heal. All is good... so Tuesday i had him put back 2cc, i wanted 4cc, but he said... no, if 2cc is good, next week we will put 2cc more... Thank God he is a personal friend and i don't have to pay for him to do all this.... I'm still maintaining at 125-130lbs... which i love.... size 4-6, love even more... But even better is that i feel GREAT!!! LIFE is amazing.... Waking up everyday thankful that i was given this amazing tool and that i was blessed to not have any problems with it..... So the "stress" ....Last Aug i sat my husband down and told him that I was unhappy and that come the first of the year things would be changing if we didn't nip some things in the butt.... Well he didn't believe that i would follow through.... But... surprise.. In south La the economy is in the crapper... Oilfield is in turmoil... So many people are out of jobs and losing everything they worked for. I had my turn and got laid off from the job i had for 6 years. Unfortunately this year for them was even worse and it looks like they maybe closing there doors.... A couple weeks later i told my husband i wanted a divorce. Life is too short to be unhappy. So i filed and he was served July 5. Since, i have been living life... I got a new job and a second job (because im white privilege in all) I'm lucky enough to have a great friend that lives near the beach in Fl, so i went there a few times this past summer, worked on my tan. Cleaned out the clutter from my house, redid my flower beds, pressure washed it. Going on lots of dates... Some great, some good....some, well, they liked me too much and wanted me to "be their gf"..... NOT!! Mostly though.... I'm spending more and more time with my grand kids.... Logan is now 11 and is the sweetest young man, he just loves to hug and cuddle...i just eat him up.....Lots of time cheering him on at the soccer field and scouts. Elizabeth will be 9 Sunday and man what an independent little girl... she is head strong says exactly whats on her mind... she had back surgery in June for her scoliosis.... but you would never know... She still does dance classes and now is taking cooking class... her goal is to become a famous chief in San Francisco...(i know, where does she come up with this)... but she has her mind set. To all my WLS friends, Thank you all for being so supportive. This site for me sometimes has been my sanctuary.... I can come here and connect with old friends and new.... read about all the successes and try and give support and encouragement when needed. Thanks Alex... for starting this site... you have been an inspiration... There are not many of us Lapband people around anymore... but the ones we have are amazing... Julie, Sharpie, Bandista, sparkplug, adjl, 2muchfun, b52... and sooo many more. Thanks to some of my other new friends..... Dub, elode, CHM, OKCpirate, viffer..... Please forgive me if i didn't single you out... you all are special to me... I treasure all of our post, chats, text, calls, FB messages.... Luv you guys Year 8.... here i come....!!!!! Thanks for being there, Bayou Geezzz .... I almost forgot.... My LB doctor asked me to be on his website in his Testimonials.... I feel very honored.....so looks like a photo shoot is coming... Whoop

@@Candygyrl Sending your mother in law prayers and i hope she continues to get better.... Sometimes it takes almost losing someone for us to really appreciate them... maybe your FIL sees that, i hope so anyway. Your a lucky woman... lots of us can only pray for the support you have from your husband.... Im envious of that. I still have hope... one day i have someone like that, maybe even my husband...He now sees how much i did and now appreciates it... I know he loves me, but im just not ready to go back. I'm afraid if i do that he will go back to the same person he was. We shall see...

@@Alex Brecher You have been such an inspiration to me.... From day one when i found your site I thought... Wow if he can do this... So can I.... I've met many amazing long term friends here that i speak to, some daily/weekly/monthly.... but we are a tight group. And it's all because of you... Congratulations on 12 years my friend.... wishing you so many more. Chris

congrats Chris.... you look amazing...

I'm not sure if I follow. No offense taken at all.... I was very petite but I still had some similar curves. Lol.

i really am proud and happy with my TT.

@@Candygyrl & @@The New Kel I so.... understand and know that feeling of .... Wow, he's with her? A lot of mine also came from the fact that i was not always fat.... When he and i met i was a size 0... 100lbs 35-22-36.... We both worked in the public... he a bartender and me a waitress. So when we got together... everyone in this small town know us... and he was a bodybuilder at the time so .... 6'4" Blonde, blue eyed muscular man.... He gained weight but never like i did....I was ashamed to go in public... imagined in my mind that all our old friends were thinking.... Wow, she really let her self go. Why is he still with her? I got depressed and gained even more weight.... i didn't know how to control it... i never had to diet before and didn't really know how. I learned fast... hehe. Any way, i got fed up with the up and down crap and chose the LB. Thinking i would get healthy and sexy for my husband. and he will have no reason to be ashamed of me...Even though he never said a word about my weight, the mind games i played with myself were terrible. I really thought the weight gain was the reason we never had sex (are hardly ever)... and at first as the weight started coming off... We did have more sex... but then it went in the craPPer again. Like i said before there are a lot of contributing factors.... but the WLS pushed it over the edge. In fact he said.... Your losing weight was the worse thing that ever happened to our marriage. @@Candygyrl and you are beautiful

@@shedo82773 i also know the "bag of bones" comment.... mine told me that and so many more ugly things.... So yeasterday was his 55 birthday and me and my oldest (and his fam) took him to dinner (youngest was working) It was a good night..... He looked at me and said... you really look beautiful. Wow was not expecting that..... I tend to get the your too skinny, face is too thin... your loosing your boobs.... blah blah.. anyway... I hope you the best

This was exactly me 7 years ago...... When we got together i was a size 0... 35-22-36.. We also gained together, just he is 6'4" and the weight wasn't bad on him. I on the other hand am 5'2" and was 230... can you say "linebacker"... I lost weight for the very reason you said... to get healthy for me and to be skinny/hot for him.... He can't handle how things are now... hate the attention i now get. There are other problems too... but for the most part it's his inability to handle my "new" attitude towards life.... Life is too short to live un happy.... live for today...

@@Babbs You an't kidding..... my husband and i had sex twice last year.... @@OutsideMatchInside Don't count on it.... lol I have way more sex now that im single.... and the best part... i say who and when

@@Who'sThere LOL.... you forget im almost single now..... but i will keep you posted

@@maxgal2 In 3 days i will hit my 7 year band-anniversary ......My husband did the same thing to me... he is 6'4" and of normal weight. So he can pretty much eat what he wants. I have so many resentments towards him. The fact that he is so self-centered and all about him. He didn't really support my having WLS but i did it anyway. At first things were fine... but the more i lost the worse it got... he started withholding sex and intimacy and he know it was really playing with my head. the constant rejections were brutal. @@OutsideMatchInside Don't worry.... good things come to those who....never mind.. Put yourself out there and find a woman..... @@reree6898 My marriage will make 26 years in Dec. I filed for D in July also, D final in January. @@jenn1 I know, i have been on this site for 7 years, i have read it all. For years i begged him to go talk to someone... he would not go, said nothing was wrong with him. (1) I also invited him to go to the gym and at first he did... then i got "skinny enough" (according to him) and he canceled the membership. (2) We did have date night... when i could drag him out of his chair and from the back yard... and then it was never about me but what he wanted (3) this time last year i booked us a cruise..... horrible... he barely paid me any attention and again... no sex or intimacy. I have to admit the attention that i get from men is intoxicating.... The compliments and looks.... i never got those from him. But....... now that we separated he wants to "change". I know that he loves me, that makes all this worse.... but i just couldn't live so unhappy....

there have been tons of post made about this very topic...@@Spiceyfrog I would check with your dr and see what his plans are.... if he has no plans to put a compression garment on in the back.... give him yours and have him do so right after surgery.... My PS sized and fitted me with a compression garment before surgery. Which he put on in the operating room after surgery. I wore it for about 6-8 weeks i think... i only took it off to shower. Trust that i do believe it makes all the difference.... and it helps with discomfort. For me having it tight was good. Mine kinda looked like this http://healingenhancements.com/tummytuckcompressiongirdle37015.aspx

@@KAATNS There's my girl..... Ill mess. you on FB... just checking in. Not fair that you went and got your self married just when i need a partner in crime in the single world and Kenny is getting divorced too....

actually this one was started 2013..... Way before the "mens room" got so touchy.... hehe We really had a great time with this one. @@Who'sThere Haven't had the opportunity recently to make any judgments.... But if i need help... ill let you know. hehe @@KAATNS I miss my fellow judge... but she went and got herself married... But i still love her.....

Soooooo.... anyone planning on showing off their new body in a sexy costume this Halloween? Im going as my alter ego... Wonder woman this year.... If you are... what? and we need pictures.....