BayougirlMrsS

Good for you Mac..... I hope he comes around. This journey is so much better when you have the support of the person that's supposed to love you the most. I wish i had had that the first go around. But, it was not meant to be. My husband now is my biggest and only supporter. This time i chose to tell NO ONE about the sleeve. When i did the band most everyone knew and most everyone knew about my removal. I kept hearing.... you'll be fine, just eat they way you did with the band.... heheh easier said than done. All in all i did do better than most and "only" gained 30lbs. So i know i would get the .... Why are you doing this speech and the you don't need that... and you can do it on your own..... So, me and my husband. I didn't tell my kids, family, friends or co workers. First, my kids, family and most of my friends live out of state.... My co workers i simply told them i was having hernia surgery..... which turned out to be true. They all know i do crossfit and i just told them i lifted to heavy..... The weight loss, they all knew i was dieting and exercise to lose weight before the wedding.... so.... Win Win. That would be some advice to you...... Tell no one. And be prepaired for Every relationship to change... some good, some not so good. If you have time...... go watch this dr. on YouTube..... Duc C. Vuong..... amazing and everyting he says is 100%..... He curses a lot.... but so correct. This is one of his latest.

I know this sounds crazy.... but, my band has been gone for over 2.5 years ago. Today, i sware i'm having phantom port pain..... Anyone else have this happen after removal?

i'm so excited for you.... and it just breaks my heart to hear your story..... I never had a weight problem till in hit my 30ies also. At 42, 5'2" and 232lbs i was miserable..... My life was not good. My husband stopped having sex with me and we lived in the same house, but we were strangers. You would think after being married for as long as we were we would know each other..... I thought if i would just lose the weight he would want me again. I was sooooo wrong. I started my WLS journey in the summer of 2009. One of my very good friends had the Lapband and she looked amazing. We worked at the same place so i know insurance would cover it. She coached me along the way. I told my husband that i was thinking of having WLS and he, like your husband, didn't want to hear anything about it. But, i was convinced that having it would fix all my problems, and it did fix a lot of them. On nov 10, 2009 i had the band surgery. In the first year i lost over 60lbs. I was so happy with how i was looking. The next year i lost another 20+. Total WL 89lbs. Went from a size 20 to a size 4-6. I looked great. My confidence was through the roof. Attention from others was intoxicating. But i still could get the one person to encourage or support me. and even though i lost the weight..... still no sex, no life. In 2012 i had a TT to remove the apron skin. Because i thought.... thats what is wrong. he hates looking at my saggy skin. Nope, in fact the TT made things worse. He hated my new confidence, my new body EVERYTHING!!!! So after all the years i realized that it wasn't me... it was him. January 2016 i filed for divorce. Not saying its for everyone.... but it was the best decision of my life. it was like a thousand pounds was lifted off me. In may of 2017 my divorce was final. I met the most amazing man.... If i could tell you all the things he does and how he treats me, yall would think i was lying..... 5 weeks ago we got married. In march of 2017 i had to have my band removed and gained 30lbs. He still love me and wanted me.... everyday. But i was unhappy with my body. So Aug 28, 2019 i had the sleeve done..... down 27lbs.... and super happy..... with everything. so i guess the moral to my story...... be happy with you and do this for you.... get support from a support group... don't think that havig WLS will make him come around.... cuz he might not.... i certainly hope sooooo ..... i wish you all the luck in the world.... message me if you want. chris....

Buddddddd... how the hell are you.... I miss you

WLS is sometimes to complicated for grown people..... how will a 12 y/o understand this..... I would say the cut off should be 18.

I really miss my Lapband friends..... we use to have so much fun in here....

sent you a message on your page

This is the thing.... when looking at the "trending topics" on the right side of this.... you don't see that it is a "male" or "female" room.... So sometimes when you get to reading a topic, you simple make a post... it's not a matter of "poking" around. Plus in 2009, when i joined, there was no Male/Female rooms.... we were all one and all gave and took advice for whom ever wished to give it. Some good, some not so good..... but for sure we had a reallyyyyyy great time. Then people started getting their underwear in a knot and drove some of the great people away. and you are incorrect.... lots of men give advice in the womans room..... at least they use too.

HMA.... my opinion.... there are many other options than the Band or the Sleeve. In 2009 i chose the band. A 14cc band.... SW 232, LW 130, best weight 143 Current weight 155. I had my band till March 23, 2017. Till that day i didn't have any trouble. I got the flu and threw up very violently and slipped my band. This was not the bands fault or mine.... it's just something that happened. I LOVED LOVED LOVED my band and would do anything to have her back. In the almost 2 years with out her i put on 15 lbs. which i think is not bad. And the reason....because I followed all the rules and learned to eat not only for today .... but for the rest of my life. I still, eat pretty much the same portions, never drink with a meal or after..... I just joined Crossfit and i am loving it. As far as people saying the band is not successful..... well they are misinformed. I AM A SUCCESS....!!!! and as far as people saying the sleeve is the end all be all.... well again, they are misinformed. The sleeve has just as many problems as any other WLS. It just so happens that the Sleeve is what the doctors are pushing right now..... who knows what it will be in 10 years when they are saying..... the sleeve didn't work the way we wanted it too. I have a number of friends that had the sleeve and GB..... and in about 3-5 years they all are back to the weight they started. But the one thing they don't have ...... 3/4 of there stomach to do any other surgery. The only other WLS that has another option except the band is GB.... you can do Band over GB. This is the thing.... if you don't learn what's causing you to over eat, how to eat, what to eat, NO WLS is going to work. I've had two very close friends that had the band and converted to the sleeve... didn't lose a lb.... why, because they didn't get to the root of their issues.... So i say..... do more research..... go to more phy evals..... go to some support groups and listen.... make sure you have a great support system.... Then make your choice. Peach shirt was 2018 Christmas party at mine and my fiance's home (almost 2 years). Swim suit and peach dress, this summer (almost a year and a half). other two was 2018 New years eve, after a year with out the band. I was a success with the band and still a success without the band.

i'm a success.....

looking back i wish i had not told a soul.... grant you it was in 2009, people were much more judgmental back then. People looked and acted like you just sold your soul to the devil or something. Tell was one of my biggest regrets.

Haven’t been here in a while. I came by to look up something i posted years ago. But found out, even though I haven’t been here I’m still ruffling feathers. Haha and I didn’t even have to try. Anyway I figured if I were here i may as well catch you guys up. Still bandless 😞 and i still miss Tina every day. It’s been 1 year and almost 4 months. Hanging in at 150-155. Managing to still wear 4-6 mostly 6. Yes im still divorced 🙌🏻🙌🏻 Still with tim and living in Madison. Job is going great. Still being spoiled beyond belief. This amazing man adores me. He hides wrapped gifts around the house and when he’s away he’ll send me a message.... you are so wonderful you deserve a gift..... go find one in the spare bedroom ... and there will be a beautiful blouse or Pants or a dress. He baths me every night he home and washes my hair. Irons my clothes, cooks and cleans (I still do cook and clean) and has a cocktail waiting for me. We just got back from the most incredible NYC vacation (my first time there) couple things he did... Yankees game, vip tickets to watch the Macy’s fireworks from the top of the Empire State Building, Wicked (2nd row center) Dinner at NOBU, museum of natural history, kinky boots, Chinatown, and lots and lots of shopping. Necklace from Tiffany’s and a new charm from Pandora. He bought me a new Kona bike. It’s kicking my a$$. But it’s great. New lawnmower so I can cut the grass which I love. So I told him it made no sense to pay someone to cut, when I Love to do it. I miss most of you guys.... just kidding, I miss all my friends. If you want to reach me. Message me and I’ll give you my contact information ❤️ Chris aka bayou girl

What a bunch of hypocrites. Taking advice from a person whether they are male or female shouldn’t matter. If it’s good advice it’s just that..., good advice.

Ash.... Alex and I go wayyyyy back. I’ll tell him hello for you

Omg.,,, you do realize that post was made in 2016. Stop being so overly sensitive. If you don’t want to know what the guys are posting, don’t go in there. I started coming here in 2009 wayyyy before there was a guys/girls separated places. We all got along and I excepted all advise whether it was from a girl or a guy. no wonder I stopped coming here. I only came to find an old post and I see the a crap. Gezzz people

Hey all.... I️ know i haven’t been on here in a while. But i do miss you guys just wanted to let you all know our dear friend Elode aka Sarah lost her husband on the 17th. It was very unexpected, he passed in his sleep. Please keep her and their young son In yiu prayers. Miss you all

One word.............. YES