BayougirlMrsS

So it been 2 1/2 years since i got my LB. I have done well. Not as well as others. I really thought i would be down to 125-130 by now.... but can't seem to get past the 143 mark.... Well i got to 139 for a brief period of time right after my Tummy Tuck... Got back up to 149, but now i'm back to .... 143. I guess it's my number. So i was talking with my husband and i asked him.... what do you think about the way I look? Was i not thinking right or what....lol..... But to my surprise he said he thought i looked perfect... Wow was not expecting that. Then i said.... I would really like to lose another 10lbs.... He said why are you so focused on the "number" on the scale?.... I was completely caught off guard by that question. So i asked my self..... Why am i so consumed by the number on the scale (aka the devil)? And i really don't know why. I got the band to stop the cycle of Heart attacks and diabetes in my family and i wanted to be able to run and play with my grand kids. I also wanted to stop having to shop at Lane Bryant.... I wanted to feel good and look good, i wanted to be pretty again... You would think being a size 6 and 143ish pounds would be good... Enough. Why is it not? My first goal was to be a size 10, got that. Then i said... well if i could only be a size 8 then i will be happy, got that.... then it was... i hate this stomach roll... boy if i could just get that taken off.... i would be happy and not need another thing, got the Tummy Tuck. Now it's my face.... What...? Yes my face, now that i lost the weight, i can see all the lines and wrinkles that the "fat" face hid.... So at dinner the other night... i brought Botox..... my husband of coarse rolled his eyes.... my son the RN went thru all the horror stories about botched Botox..... But none set in as much as my 6 year old Grandson when he said..... Nana... i think your beautiful just the way you are....(insert tears)... If a 6 year old can see it... Then why can't I?? So that's why i ask..... When is Enough... Enough?

Following you.... Hoping to have your success as we are about the same status.... are at least my "original" ones. 42ish y/o 5'2" Banded in 2009 HW: 232lbs. SW 223, Weight are band removal (3/2017 due to slip) 143 51 y/o Revision to sleeve Aug 28, 2019 SW: 173.5, Day of surgery 165, today 144.2 I am very inspired by your results. I would love to start a dialogue with you if you're interested.

51 now.... Dx menopausal this past Marchishhhh.... I was sweating for no reason (this coming from someone that keeps a heater on all day under my desk). and like many others, as fast as they would come on, they would go away. I was having a few a week. Most of the time at night. I also started having mood swings. My Gyn put me on ESTRATEST (esterified estrogens and methyltestosterone) 1.25 mg of Esterified Estrogens, USP and 2.5 mg of Methyltestosterone. This worked fine for the flashes and moods, but it also made me gain weight. So i stopped taking them. Yes the flashes and swings came back. Aug 28, 2019 got sleeved and im down to 144.2 from 173.5 as of today. So last week i decided to give the pills another chance... well i got married in sept. and now have different insurance and they don't cover this one. So now im on only Estrogen.... So, not sure if the flashes and swings stopped because of the WLS or the pill.....We shall see.

Yes.... 99.99% of the time. I truly believe this. I know i went into the Band with the hopes that the weight loss would make my marriage better. It did not.... but at the time i didn't see all the "other" things that was wrong. I didn't see the extremely controlling person he was. I didn't see the negative, self-centered, heartless person he was/is. I made excuses for him all the time. After the WL he wanted me to gain the weight back. He would say things like...... You know you were prettier when you were fat because i couldn't see all those wrinkles in your face...... or Your too skinny you look like a bag of bones. Finally, i started gaining my confidence back and all the things started to surface. He was no longer controlling me and he hated it..... So he just stopped being present in our marriage. I told him we needed to get counseling and he said no, that there was nothing wrong with him and that if he were to go with me i would have to pay for it. I told him, things needed to change and if it didn't that come the first of the year i was filing.... That was in July 2015... January 2016 .... then he was trying to "fix" things. But it was too late for me, i was done. I started dating and in Oct 2016 to the most wonderful man EVER.... He supports me in any decisions i make. 2017 i had to have the band removed due to a slip. Between then and Julyish... i put on 30lbs. He never said a word except that i was beautiful and sexy... all the time. But i saw my weight was going up and nothing i did was stopping it. So i got sleeved Aug 28th. And he still tells me every day how beautiful and sexy i am.... We got married Sept. 26th after meeting on Match.com..... hehe

You guys have been very helpful. I will be the first to admit i didn't do 100% the research i did with the Band. I went in that WLS very knowledgable... This i thought i knew a lot about the sleeve but when i came back on the site and saw all the people having another WLS because the sleeve "didn't work" i started to doubt if i had made the right choice to revise to the sleeve. So i'm going to do what i know works. Eat my portions, watch what i eat and how i eat it. and exercise as much as possible.

No, unfortunately, it's not in his head. Statically about 75% or more of relationships fail after WLS. It's not that it's the intention, but it happens a lot. I would say that out of the dozen or more marriages that are very close friends.... I know of only 1 or 2 that are still together.... Me included. I was married for 25+ years (26 by the time divorce was final). If your relationship is strong.... it will get stronger. If it's week it will fall apart.

Nomore.... Have you explained to him how much you value his support, but that you feel this is the path you must take? My now ex husband hated the idea of me getting WLS. Back in 2009 i got banded. He said the same... you're doing it now, you can do it without surgery. But, i knew i had to have this for me and no one else. It was harder with out his support, but i went on to lose 89lbs. Kept it off for years. In 2016 i asked for a divorce after 25+ years. (lots of issues) The main problem was my weightloss. He hated the skinny me, would be negative all the time. Told me some of the most horrible stuff. But though it all Never had any weight gains while i had my band. Back in March 2017 i got the flu/stomach bug and threw up violently... slipped my band. Emergency removal. It was the worst day ever. Between that day and Julyishhh.... i gained back 30lbs. This confirmed that i needed WLS. So Aug 28, 2019 i got sleeved. Your health has many risk and side effects. You have to do this for you and only you. If you haven't, go watch youtube Dr. V.... he's an Asian guy and he is 100% correct on everything he says... go watch the one on relationships. 5'2" Banded Nov 10, 2009 SW 232, weight at removal 143 Sleeved Aug 28, 2019 SW 173.5 Today 144.2

Just a premonition..... your going to be whinner and complainer.... you won't do well. If you can't take a few days, how the heck are you going to do the rest of your life? Your going to be one in a few years saying.... WLS didn't work and will be looking for another WLS and you will fail at that too. Just saying what MOST everyone else is thinking.

Back history..... I joined the site back in 2008-2009 i think. Back when it was called Lapbandtalk. Of course, it was for people that had the lapband done. Which i did back in 2009. SW 232, weight the day my band was removed 143 March 2017 due to a slip. This is a revision for me. I know most people say.... well 30lbs is nothing, but when your 5'2" it is. I have told no one except my husband about the sleeve. I didn't want to hear all the crap from all the people. I did what i thought was best. and because i had had a previous WLS and was cash pay.... sleeve it is. Band SW 232, LW 130... removal weight 143 (i stayed here for years) 2009-2017 Sleeved SW 173.5, CW 144.4 (as of today). Sx date Aug 28, 2019....... 10 weeks and two day PO. Chris

So true..... I've been on this site for quite a few years and seen a lot of comings and going. In fact when i first got here it was called Lapbandtalk..... I did really well with the band and even my dr's (band, band remover and sleeve... all different) said i was not the "norm". that most for one don't keep off the weight that long with the band, and for sure most gain it all back after the band is removed (for whatever reason). When i went to the sleeve dr. he was very impressed that i had only gained 30lbs. in 2.5+ years.... I was, omg.... i gained 30lbs. lol..... It was making bad choices and eating more. For years i was never hungry... after removal... i remembered for sure. And i did start eating bread and rice again... Thank God i had the sense to stop.... I wanted the MGB, but this dr didn't do them and i didn't "weight" enough for GB. So i started this journey at a 31 bmi...... 5'2" SW 173.5.... today... still at 144.4 (two days now). But i know that in a few days i'll start going back down. Not worried. I have some really good friends that was sleeved. One, never lost a pound, one was a bandmember and hasn't lost anything, one was sleeved back in 2008, lost a lot and gained it all back. One sleeved 2017 and is gaining daily. I also have a close friend that had GB 1999 and i know she has put back an easy 70lbs or more.

I see people saying that their "sleeve" failed and i was just wondering how that happens. I appreciate what you said. I figured as much, but seeing as though im new to the sleeve (x-bandmember) i wanted to see if there was other reasons. I've had two friends regain after the sleeve. I see how they eat and i figured it was those very reasons. And i didn't want to be that friend that say..... Should you be eating that? I loved my band and wish i still had her, but i had a good long haul with her..... 7+ years. Thanks, Chris

I certainly agree with you. My views are more towards the people that didn't have the band fail them... like people that had a band erosion or slip like myself (not by bad band management). I'm still trying to figure out how the Sleeve fails people??? In fact i'm going to start a new thread asking that very question. I come from the very south of Louisiana and everything and i mean everything revolves around food. I know with out the "wantpower" i would have gained a whole lot more than 30lbs.

Love Dr. V..... he is always 100% right.

Just because you can, doesn't mean you should..... like guzzling water or drinking out of a straw. Shame on the Hospital for even giving you one. One week out and you were eating Zuppa and bread? Before i finished your sentence i thought, i bet she even ate bread..... You should still be on clear liquids, if not clear, at least full. You should ask your self, why are you already self-sabotaging..... I agree with some of the others.... you really need to go back to your dr.

Congrats on the initial loss. I also had a removal due to a slip. My loss was a consistent 89lbs. After the removal, i gained 30 over the next 2.5 years. Just revised to the sleeve Aug 28th. I've lost 29lbs. I only have 1 more to get back to where i was the day the band was removed. The sleeve is all still very new. I guess my question is, how did the hysterectomy make you gain weight? I also had that and gallbladder removal. Was it the change in your diet? quantity? hormones? These are things i'm trying to look out for. And how will the GB/DS be different from the sleeve? I'm not wanting this to come out the wrong way as i am very interested. I turned 51 last july and started menopause this past March... ish... If there is something i can watch out for.... i'm all for it.

Is there a reason you're not losing? are you have trouble? are is it just to lose more? I would start by looking at why it's not working. Is it your food choices? Overeating? Not exercising? The reason i'm saying this is because if its those things, a new WLS won't fix it for the long term. You have to start within. I would suggest, if you haven't already, get the myfitnesspal app. it showed me how much i was really eating vs what i thought i was eating. I had the band for 7+ years and maintained 89lbs.... but when the band was removed due to a slip.... i gained 30lbs. Sure it took 2.5 years... but i couldn't lose it. I thought i was doing everything right.....Then when i started the process of revising to the sleeve, i started logging everything.... I found i was making bad choices, overeating and not exercising as much as i thought i was. That was in July, i got sleeved Aug 28th...... and things are back on track.... but i'm still logging in my food and exercise. Keeps me accountable. Band 2009 SW: 232, LW: 130, weight at removal 143... Sleeve 2019 SW: 173.5 , Today 144.4..... Goal is to get back to 143 (1 more lb to go) or 140 if poss.

Raises hand and says Yes.... One of my main motivations was to look better. I was in a very long marriage and we would go a year with having sex 1-2x's. I thought, if only i could lose the weight he would find me more attractive and life would be great. So in 2009 I got banded, lost 89lbs (100 but to hard to maintain). Went from 232 to 143. But instead of getting better my marriage fell even more apart. He couldn't handle the attention i was getting. And to be honest, it was intoxicating.... i loved it. We divorced in 2017 after 26 years. Fast forward.... 2017, flu/stomach bug = slipped band. Fast forward Aug. 2019 173.5lbs..... Sleeve. Todays weight 144.4 Starting to feel sexy again. Sept. 2019 remarried and feeling great..... bring on 52 years old... i'm ready

My view, if you were unsuccessful with the band, then unsuccessful with the sleeve..... what's going to be different with GB or MGB?

I think your friend possibly got the wrong WLS from the start. 500lbs seems like a lot for the sleeve.... But, i'm new to the sleeve, so i don't know. What i do know is, he needs a better Dr. and/or Phy. Dr. Before he gets another WLS. My ex sister in law had 3 WLS's. Her first was Lapband in Mex, then Lapband in the states, then GB in the states. No counseling for the first, regained and revised, but she regained yet again. The last dr did the GB.... and yes, regain again. The dr.'s need to make sure patients are getting more counseling.

I'm confused.... you had the sleeve and want to revise to the sleeve?

looking great Coach.... you have come a long way....

no problem Mac..... Have you been approved Yet? Reason i'm asking..... most insurance requires 35 BMI with 2 co morbids. When i had my band in 2009 it was the requirement. ORRR 40 BMI which is where i was. 5'2" and 232lbs. This time i didn't have to because i was still considered a revision even though my band was removed 2.5+ years ago. My bmi this time was 31. SW 173.5..... Today, 145.2 Fk yes.... Back to you.... if you have not be approved yet, you may want to lay off the dieting. Some insurance with not approve you if they see a weight loss. My dr. advised me to not lose anything till i got the final approval. Did you go watch the youtube vids...??? I've been in the WLS community for over 10 years and he is 100% right with everything he says..... no sugar coating with him at all.

Doesn't dumping come out the other end? Very interested to know. Ive not heard of it coming as vomit. I've heard of getting stuck and throwing up. Could it have been food poisoning?

Surgery Aug. 28, 2019 SW: 173.5, CW: 146..... GW: 140-143