BayougirlMrsS

Not a guy.... but one thing i can say is WLS won't make things better..... The WLS community has a very high divorce rate. I thought my marriage was strong enough to handle it, but i was wrong. He had controlled my life so much that i thought they way i lived was the way most people did. After WLS and i regained my confidence... i started to see things. Anyway, we divorced after 26 years.

Your first step should be to your insurance co. Check to see if they even cover WLS. If they do ask, what are your requirements? Most go by what you weigh currently. After you find out you can move forward. Most start with your GP. I started with my GYN. I see your BMI is 53... "most" insurance require a Min of 35 with two comorbidies or a 40+ with no co's. I was the 40+ with no co's. 5'2" SW: 232. 2009 i had the LB and was the perfect bandmember till 2017 when my band slipped due to a virus... Till then i had zero problems and maintain my WL at 143#. As far as choosing a WLS, this is up to you and your WLSx.... He/she will help you make the best choice. There's a lot more than just bypass or sleeve. Gastric Sleeve, Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy - (VSG), Lap Band (yes they still do them), Gastric Bypass -(GB, RNY), Mini gastric bypas (MGB), Duodenal Switch (DS), Stomach Intestinal pylorus sparing (SIPS), Gastric sleeve with plication, Band with plication, Balloon .... and i'm sure some i don't know about. At this time... the VSG is the "sweetheart" of the WLS world right now. There are other things to consider when having WLS. The biggest one (i think) is what do you expect from WLS and what are you prepared to gain and lose from it.... Losses are always just weight. WLS community has a very high divorce rate. You sometimes lose family and friends too. You also have to be prepared for the questions on your health. When you start to lose where people notice, they will ask questions as to if your sick? how are you losing? ... you need to choose if you are going to tell anyone. If you do, don't expect those people to keep it a secret. At first, i only told my (now ex) husband, sons and a few very close friends.... Well that was just the amount for everyone to know... This time, VSG 8 months yesterday, only my now-husband knows. I didn't tell any family, friends or co-workers. I also suggest you go watch some Dr. V youtube videos... he is great and always 100% spot on. He curses but gets the point across. He has so many.....

You guys.... we need to do a zoom.... and watch a show together.... I love them all... Watched a pretty interesting movie yesterday.... Netflix... Fall from Grace. If you and your family want to laugh..... watch Nailed It....

I have never heard of that before..... Botox is a temporary thing... well at least on the face. @Hop_Scotchi read the attachment and still don't get it. I had a tt 8 years ago. With Muscle repair and lipo of the flanks.

Yessss..... (Top Chef, Masterchef, Chopped, Great Baking Show, Buddy vs. Duff, Late Night Eats, food Truck Race, and ALL the old Anthony Bourdain shows...).... If you have nexflix... add Nailed It!!! to your list.... i almost peed my self. My #1 has always been the amazing race.... and i use to watch all the other except SYTYCD.... You can objectify my boobs anytime.... I'll have to PM you the new corset tim bought..... For the past week nearly every day i get some new Lingerie in the mail. Today i had to send back two from Fredericks.... No way my boobs were fitting them. he meant well.... hehe

First start with your insurance.... makes no sense to do anything else if your insurance doesn't cover. So you know your BMI. Most and i say most insurance won't cover WLS.... and the ones that do you have to be in the following: 35+BMI with two comorbidities..... or 40+ with none. A "family history" won't do it. It has to be you. after you find that out, then you can ask if there are dr.'s on the approved list. Some insurance will allow only certain dr.'s. Go on line and do some research about WLS in your area. Ask to attend there support group. Tell them you are considering WLS and want to get all the facts. As far as referral's.... again it depends on your insurance. Everything stims back to your insurance. If yours won't cover, and you still want to get it done... you may need to look into cash pay..... Cash pay most of the time is up to the WLSx.

hey friend.... been missin ya..... I too am a reality show addict..... With that being said: All the Real Houswifes.... , 90 day fiance', Sister wife, of course, 600lbs life..... and yes below deck

Girl.... did you watch the last season? What are your thoughts..... I think that he wasn't her son at all and that the guy at the end was/is her real son..... OMG They need to hurry up with the next season

don't go.... we like when men come to visit.

Saturday i finished Little Fires Everywhere (Hulu)... it was sooooo good. Then i watched a movie yesterday about a young football player called.... Greater on Netflix. Yes i cried. Tim woke up from his nap with me crying. We binged watched (he has never done that before)... Win the Wilderness. Watch this....

I have to keep some. My husband travels a lot and the wardrobe part only fit wire hangers.... hehe

OMG... were you yelling at the tv the other night at Erica and Lenethia (spelling). I was like Erica, jimmy don't want to be with you, get over it and move on.... and Len, stop making excuses. I also love PB... and love watching Nicole Curtis and follow her on insta

I have not watched the Office, The Staircase.. added to list. Agree with Tiger King (f**king Carol Baskin). hehehehe I tried the Sopranos... not a fan. But Dead to me was great, wait till yu find out who hit him.

Have you watched Mad Men?.... I love love love this show.... love that era. I would have so been "that" secretary. My husbands fav of all times is Big Bang.... When he is home, we are watching it.

I love true crime shows like Forensic Files... or making a murder, i like documentaries.... 100 Humans was interesting and so was One Child Nation (again a lot of sub titles)

I started watching and could not get into it.... Just like SOA....

i need to catch up on that too...

I see this and think....... NO WIRE HANGERS.... EVER. which you dont... Good job

Cute outfit Sofie..... I Love Mad men.... but yall know how much i crush on Christina Hendricks..... After i finish Little Fires Everywhere..... i'm going to start Ozark.

no Greenleaf is present time.... it's a series about a family that lead a powerful Church.... but it's NOT "religious" if that makes sense.... you have to watch it.... lots of great actors in it.

loved outlander.... have you watched Greenleaf? how many of yall will admit to watching Tiger King..... i must say i did.... what a train wreck, but couldn't stop watching.

i've heard about it on FB from some friends.... need to finish Little Fires Everywhere first.... then ill start that

Thanks Mark really.... i havnt watched it yet.... guess i will now.

i should have taken the picture earlier.... wrinkles have set in. These pants were gifted to me.... and i love them.

The bigger reason they don't want you to drink is because lots of us have "addictive" personalities.... WLS has a high rate of transferring that addiction of food to something else.... like alcohol. Some its gambling, Sex..... They don't want to replace one with another. Lots of people can't handle drinking anymore. I for one can only drink one glass of wine. I never drink beer, soda, club soda, tonic.... or anything carbonated. So sorry about your Uncle...