BayougirlMrsS

Exactly what i said and still say to most people.... it my choice who i tell.

Great Job...... you look amazing.... Going today for my 8 week check...

I had my full TT Feb. 15th and could not be happier. Wednesday will be 8 weeks out. I'm cut from hip to hip. I equate my pain with my 2 C-sections. I took the percocets for the first two days and then only at night to help me sleep for the next two nights. I was up walking around my block on day three and back to my desk job in 12 days. My doctor did not use drain tubes and stitched from the inside and glued the outside. I still have some swelling and numbness around the incision line, but that is normal.... had the same thing for my sections. Total cost $8800 out of my pocket.....

I guess it would depend on the teen. I know we have some teen on here that have done very well. My thoughts are along the line with Kadeez..... i would think LB would be better. I'm not incline to agree with the "emotional eating" part. I think kids are over weight because of the stuff they eat not why they eat. McDonald's, burger king.... fast foods. I know that's what contributed to my weight gain. Teens these days are very much on the go.... and they eat tons of fast food. I say, if they go thru all the prerequisites and they have extensive education ..... they why not. Why go thru life Fat if they don't have too....

Hey.... i wish my PS had left at least some of my fill in. He removed it all. He said that he had a bad experience with a patient that refused to let him remove the fill..... she couldn't eat are drink and got dehydrated and had to be put in the hospital. Said that the extra swelling caused the band to be tight. I'm having conflicts about filling it again. I really want to, but kind of enjoying the ability to eat "normal" again. Not over-eating by any means.... but i did eat a piece of toast this weekend.....OMG... was it good. I have gained 3lbs..in the 6 weeks i have had no fill... but i don't think that's too bad.

You are not alone..... i would think that at lease 90% of us feel the same way. Pictures... they help sometimes. Are find something to wear that really makes you feel good. I sometimes see myself thin and then i think..... I can't really be this thin..... and maybe i really look bad and people are just being nice.... Hang in there B..... Looking good....!!!

if you put your mind to this...... YOU CAN DO IT.... Use what's happening with your wife as fuel to get yourself motivated. Get out and get moving..... 12 step programs are great. Good luck and keep us posted.

I will probably get some flack for what i'm about to say.... but sometimes it take a little Tough Love for us to really see what we are or have done to ourselves.. So your topic's name is "Lapband Complete Failure"....... How is the band a failure? It's an object. You are the controller of the band and sounds like in your own words you learned to eat around it. Lots of people learn to eat around the band. Lots of people do, but don't blame the band because ,by your own accords you can't stop eating until all the pizza is gone. And that you can't control eating sweets all day. Well hell how do you expect to lose weight if that is what your doing? Do you really.... have a great desire to be thin? Are is your great desire is to eat a Cake with ice cream? Which one do you want more? You can't have both.... This is how we ALL got FAT... By wanting one thing and doing the other. Are as my grandma says.... wish in one hand and crap in the other... see which one fills up faster. Didn't your doctor tell you that the band is a tool and that it would not take the cravings away. Did you not sit down with the nutritionist and have them tell you how you will be expected to change your entire way of eating.... FOREVER... What were you thinking? And now you think Gastric Bypass is your option.... Do you think that having your stomach re-routed is going to stop you from eating a pizza and sweets the same way you do now? Stop blaming your wife for you getting up out of your chair and going make a choice to eat candy or pie ... or what ever it is she has in the house. In stead, get up out of you lazy-boy recliner, put some music own, and walk down the block and back, until that craving goes away... She is right, why should everyone else not have it because you can't keep your hands out of the cookie jar. You said you have been to doctors, therapists and psychiatrists. What have you learned from them? The band is not working for you because YOU are choosing for it not to work. Did you really pay all that money for nothing? Are will YOU stop making excuses and get off your BUTT and make the changes. No visit to the doctor is going to do any good until YOU want it to work. Stop blaming the band, your wife, your doctor... Hershey's, Pizza Hut, McDonald's .... and everyone else. Take responsibilities for your own actions. And yes support is important, but it can be done with out support from anyone if you support yourself. Ok.... so that's my thoughts...

Because i was right at 40.8 with no co-morbid..... my doctor told me not to lose any weight until i got approved. After you get approved... lose all you want... and i lost ... i think 20ish ... pounds before surgery. I would say.... don't lose any more till you get the final approval and surg. date in stone.

The insurance i have now won't pay either.... so i have to pay everything out of pocket..... What really burns me up is that people actually come on her and ask...... "will medicaid/medicare pay for my Tummy Tuck"? I had to pay $8800 for mine... that i had to get a credit card to pay for... Well no one made me have the TT... but still...... This really chaps my hide... Why should i have to pay for yours too.... just because you don't have a job and won't get off you Butt to get a job and get some damn insurance. I think anyone that pays for insurance and fits the required LB surg. criteria should be able to have it...... It's either pay for LB to get healthy or pay forever for High blood pressure or diabetes meds.... etc... Just Crazy.

Six weeks out today.....I like Spoiltmom.... had minimal pain.... Thank you Morphine pump...lol I was up and walking around my neighborhood in Three days and back to work in 12. I had no drain tubes. My PS stitched from the inside and glued the outside. I wore my "one fish, two fish" pj from hospital and had no problems. By the time i went back to work i could fit jeans over my garment... but still mostly wore sweats...or yoga paints. I still have a lot of swelling, but i feel GREAT!!!! Hope you have a speedy recovery...

Done that..... been there.... I don't handle steak very well either. And i far as left overs.... most of them i can't do. I think it the reheating process that cooks it too much and that dryness of the food creates the stick.... I always have leftovers.... but my husband normally eats them. *****Stick Remedy.....: mix about 2oz of water with about 2 or 3 shakes meat tenderizer and some lemon juice... drink and run to the bathroom....

it all depends on the doctor..... so don't require the diet.... some do. my understanding is it is to help shrink the liver and make it more pliable.... The part of the stomach that is banded is right behind the liver. So they have to kind of move it around to get to the stomach. Good luck....

I thought you were paying $1000 out of pocket. Still that is entirely too much for him to charge insurance...... And people wonder why insurance is so expensive.....This is why, Doctors over charging. while we are on the subject..... it infuriates me to know that Medicaid and Medicare are paying for this and paying for some people to have Plastic surgery after...... I had to pay my own crap... now i have to pay for other peoples too.... so not fair.... And i really don't care if i pi$$ any body off.

Holy Hell..... that is insane.....there is no reason anyone should charge that much. I would check with another fill dr. in your area. And check with the dr, maybe he's telling you what he charges insurance. No one could afford that for each fill. Do some research and find out what other dr's in the area are charging and go in with guns blazing.... Thats what i did, i call every fill dr in a 200 mile radius and ask what their new patient fee is and self pay fills. It was $235....... But i beat him down to $150... with the information i presented him with. And i told him that with the economy, people are losing there insurance and can't afford going for a fill or check up. He eventually saw that i was right and lowered his prices..... yah for me. When something is important to me, i am relentless.....just ask my husband...lol

if i had know then what i know now.... i would have done my breast reduction and lift at the same time as my TT. TT was 5 weeks ago today and the pain was so minimal for me. If you have children and possible had a c-section, i equate it to the same pain. I was up in three days and back to work in 12. I took pain pill for the first three day, mostly to sleep at night which i did in my recliner. I was still walking with a hunch/bend at week one and two, but by week three i was almost walking straight up... week four and five, completely back to normal. Still have swelling in the abdomen... but the scare is healing way better than i ever thought. My dr. didn't uses drain tubes and he also stitched from the inside and glued the outer. So no staples. Good luck with your PS.... Keep us posted

Of course you and i have talked about this but i will share with everyone else in case they are wondering the same thing... He told me the reason he removes all the fill is because of the swelling in the stomach area. He's in there cutting and pulling and moving things around. In fact my port is now right above my navel. it was further up and to my left. He said the added swelling against the band will sometimes create more restriction and you will not be able to eat or drink with out discomfort. He did have a bad experience with a patient that refused to allow him to remove her fill and she ended up in the hospital dehydrated. I just wish he could put it all back in.... this would save me some money.... but he can't. Pulling it all out when the port is right in front of you and after when it's hidden under the skin is two different things. I see now were he was coming from because the two weeks after i did fill like i had fill in my band.... but as the swelling goes down the hungrier i get. Going Friday for my check up... 5 1/2 weeks... so ready to stop wearing this compression garment. think i will wear a girdle for a little bit more..just in case

the heavy one is jealous of you and the thin one fears you...... heavy is wanting what you have done, she probably is telling you that you made the wrong choice in WLS, but deep inside she wants it sooooo bad it's eating her up in side. The thin one was the "skinny-girl" in the group and got all the attention.... now that you are thinner you are stealing her thunder.... and she is not the only skinny-girl in the group any more and because you are feeling better about your self.... your confidence is radiating and men love a confidant woman. They are drawn to you like bees to honey... If they are good friend and YOU choose to keep them as such, i would have a one on one chat with each and tell them up front how you are feeling and that there friendship means a great deal to you.... but you will not be subjected to the way they are making you feel. Surround yourself with positive people. Best of luck ...... happy shrinking..

No problem.... hope i didn't come across as mean.... just wanted you to be aware. Lapband is a HUGE commitment. Lots of do s and don'ts. Lot of variations, what one LB patients goes thru will not be you scenario. Every one is different. Before i had my unfill, i was not able to eat most carbs... excpet baked potatos and some pastas. Other people have no trouble eat anything at all. For me no matter how much i chewed, it would not go thru my band. You will have to learn how to re-eat..... meaning, eating slow... very slow, chewing and chewing and chewing..... taking one bite putting the fork down and chewing. No drinking with your meals anymore. You will have to learn to drink 30 min. before of 30 min after. Most of the time the people in the Chat room can answer some of your questions too. Best of luck

ok, so i'm a little worried that you didn't do enough research if your asking about fills....... Fills are the most important aspect of getting the Lapband. It's the inter-part of your band that is filled or unfilled with saline to cause restriction. I have a 14cc band which mean my inter-part of my band can hold 14cc of saline. there are different size and your surgeon will determine what size you will need when surgery is being preformed. You will then return your your doctor were he will inject the saline thru your port into your band. You will probably require multiple visits to get your restriction correct. I have attached a couple sites for you to check out. http://www.southernweightlossinstitute.com/LAP_Band.php This is where i got my surgery. It's a great video... short but to the point.

so i'm going to be 100% honest with you..... I LOVE MY BAND.... she is my best friend and i miss her so much. She has been empty for the past 5 weeks. can't wait to start filling her up again. But i do worry now about long term problems. What if i have a slip or erosion? I don't have the same insurance, and my new one does not cover WLS.... This is the only worry i have. I know it works... I've lost 84lbs in the past two years. I hate is the going in for fills, not because it hurts but because of the cost..... so if your looking at long term with out worries as far as slips, erosion or fill........the sleeve would be been better.

Embrace the new you.... this is what you worked for.... Size 11 from a 20.... You are not alone.... most of us have body issues. I'm now down to a size 4-6ish and i still see that fat girl looking back at me sometime. Every once and a while i look and i like what i see. It's in pictures that see what i really look like. It's weird because i was not always fat.... i use to be very thin.... like 22" waist thin. And when i started gaining weight i knew that i was but when i looked in the mirror i still saw the thinner person.... Then my husband took up the hobby of photography and i was looking at pictures and didn't recognize myself in a photo and that was all it took. It's crazy how our brains work. i remember emailing my friends and saying..... MY FAT ASS FIT IN A SIZE 12 TODAY.... I was sooooo happy. Ok i know i'm rambling, but i have to tell you this story. My husband and i was trying to buy me a new shirt to go out in and i was in the dressing room. I was not looking for jeans. i had shorts on... picked out a shirt and he said you need to put on jeans so i can see how it looks. So i sent him to get me a size 12 jeans... he handed me the jeans i put them on and we decided that the jeans looked good too... they were buy one get one at new york and co. so he said, look for another pair... i said ok, but i want a size smaller as a goal pair... so i told him to look for a size 10....he like why do you want a size 10...i thought you wanted a size smaller... i said i know, you gave me a 12..... he looked at the paints in his hand that i had had on and said, but these are a size 10.... in the middle of the store... i said..."shut the fu#k up", "you are fu#king kidding me"... i had put on a size 10 and didn't even know it... so i got them and a size 8. In the middle of New York and co... i did the happy dance....... happy happy joy joy.