TracyNYC

Single digit jeans is amazing! But from American Eagle? WOW!! Their stuff is cut tiny. Awesome NSV.

Great post! I rarely eat fast food anymore, but the other day grabbed a 4 piece nugget happy meal and enjoyed every bite of the fries and nuggets. Won't do it again anytime soon, but felt "normal" being able to do it. I too feel less invisible. I wonder too if it is me or are others 'seeing' me for the first time in a long time.

1) The spring pants I was happy to fit in again last spring are now TOO BIG! 2) The cutie I see EVERYDAY when I get my tea at the deli winked at me the other day. 3) Being told by a student that I got "MAD SKINNY!" ( I know I mentioned that before, but it was so funny) 4) Buying a belt at Macy's, not Lane Bryant. 5) My Boyfriend's brother told me he was gonna steal me away! (and if BF doesn't straighten up, I just might let him! LOL) 6) I can see my thighs in pants, not just blobs stuffed in material. Great Post!

I was terrified of farting while in school! ( I teach HS) After the surgery, anything could bring it on: bending, laughing, sneezing and coughing. I was able to make it through the very gassy time thankfully. I sort of burp quite a bit and have noticed since school started last week that with all the talking I am taking in air. The other day the class was really quiet and I took a few quick gulps of Vitamin Water and you could hear it going down. Then I burped. The kids were dying. It wasn't really loud and just the ones in front heard it. I said excuse me and laughed. I was embarrassed though. I once PB in a napkin while out at a pizza place. Thankfully just my 8 year old niece was with me. I think it was unnoticed.

My boyfriend, who has been around on and off for 12 years, does not know the number, but said to me: I have seen you naked all these years. Do you think I didn't know you gained weight? He thinks that I might weigh less than he does now, but he is wrong. I am getting there. We are long distance now and I last saw him in late July. Our next visit is in 2 weeks and I have lost 20lbs. He has been so supportive and says he is proud of me all the time. Maybe we need to give them a little more credit.

That is because you forgot to sing the sing....Nananana clap clap clap:w00t:

LOL, I just had a mental image of standing in Ladies Room doing this (the stalls are so small) and someone walking in.... I will def try this if I get stuck...

I have realized that since I have been banded in October 09, my 2 BF and I have hardly seen each other. First the one had a "no kids" cocktail part in November. This is significant b/c they never do ANYTHING w/o the kids. ( I am single and have no kids) so this is not a normal gathering. Then we saw each other in December and then not again until last week when we went out to dinner. Now, I have seen them at big functions like baptisms and family events and a few "tupperware" type parties, but not a 'girls get together'. We used to get together 1 or 2x a month. The one never really calls me, and I called her today and when we hung up she said, "well, it was nice talking to you". It is just very weird. Their kids are in a zillion activities and I work full time and they don't, so my home hours (after school) are when they are busiest w/ HW and running around. If it wasn't for facebook, I would rarely have contact with them. Yes, they are both very overweight. We spoke about this before my surgery and the one friend knows someone who lost a lot of weight and said her friends dropped her. So, this is something we were all aware of. One friend I know since I am about 8 and the other since 9th grade and we are all friends together. I know they get together w/o me when they do the husbands and kids thing which they have always done, but the few times I have suggested a get together, I get the vague "Oh yeah we have to do that." Do I say something? Am I being over sensitive and making this all about me? Or is it one of those waves in a friendship where things are at a down point? IDK Advice?

I posted a related thread just the other night. Mine is about losing friends. (I am not married) It is so sad that people have problems when we change. I was never a mouse, but am way more assertive now. I think my best friend does not like it. She has sort of been 'the boss' in our friendship, and now does not like it that I stand up to her more. She struggles with her weight but tells me all the time she would never do the band. She can do it alone and HAS with WW/shakes/pills (the whole route). She sees the band as cheating and the easy way out. In the past I would not have said much, but now i say that if it so easy, why not do it? or I know you can lose the weight, I could too, but it is always back. She does not like that. I can not offer wisdom on the marriage issue other than you know your husband best and if you think you can resolve some issues or not. Good Luck.

Turkey meatballs, sauce and cheese. Egg salad

Thanks...I do think it is jealousy over taking control and NOT the weight loss, per se. One said she thought it would be selfish of her to put herself out of commission for a week and to limit their eating as she could NOT possibly cook 2 meals a night. I very nicely replied that I did not want to be out of commission permanently by having health probs as I got older, even if it is just ME who worries about it. (Of course the passive aggressive hint was that if she dies due to obesity, that would be the MOST selfish act of all to her family.) {You know, I can't possibly be as valued as a mom of 2 LOL}

That is up there with the people who tell me how fat I am! What nerve!!! If a really, really close friend said it, OK...but you know people will say anything to you.... Have not lost enough in my face to make a difference...yet

Since I am a year out, I will eat the "best" choice out of what is there. When socializing, I try to stick with the things least likely to be stuck over calorie/fat. That is when I get the "Eat That?" comments and then it opens up a discussion, etc. People are curious and I have been way too open w/ telling people. The reason I told about the cocktail party is that it is soooo out of character for this friend to make plans purposely excluding her own kids and all the others. In the past (way past) when I have suggested hosting such a thing, I get the, " I need a sitter, why are you anti-kid, blah blah". I just found it ironic that 3 weeks after I have this procedure this was planned. Sort of a pre-holiday gathering. Truthfully, I feel this surgery has just placed "one more difference" between us. I have a "career" and they have families instead. I am single, they are married for years, etc. I doubt it has anything to do with the "my husband will want you" problem others have had. (and believe me, I don't want them either LOL) I really am at a loss as what to do. I hate the idea of a confrontation....but now I can't eat away the feelings either.

Thanks, They did invite me to cocktail party, I just thought it was VERY strange to do this right after I get banded, when they NEVER do stuff like that. I guess at some point I will have to bite the bullet and face it with them. I try NOT to talk the band to death, but so much social stuff centers around food, so either I bring my own (which is attention getting) or have to ask what/where we are doing dinner. They will sometimes bring it up with the ever famous "You can eat THAT?" and then a discussion follows. Thanks again.

Hang in there. The sadness should pass soon. If not, please contact doctor. It is a mourning period. I am a year out and still get angry that I can't eat. Then I am angry at myself for not having control in the first place and on it goes. Just keep on going through it. You will hit a drop in weight soon.

Elfie...35 pounds and 3 sizes.....amazing. I am down 50+ and am BARELY down 1 pants size and have not budged on top b/c my arms are huge..(though boobs are shrinking daily)...I have lost a shoe size though. I will be this big jiggly blob with no boobs on tiny feet. I am so jealous!!!!! I am a self admitted scale-whore.

No wisdom other than perhaps a call to surgeon for a check up? Take care of yourself, not doing so is how we got in trouble to begin with....

Though I am a loooong way off from goal, I was wondering that too. Looking forward to seeing the responses.

Tacos ground turkey, FF cheese, lettuce, tomato, etc.... Looking forward to it...

No numbing...I just do a little 1/2 crunch position and she puts in the small needle, withdraws all the fluid to check the amounts and re inserts it plus the fill. Just a little pinch.

I had to drink that stuff....No fun. But for excitement I had to give myself an enema. This is physically impossible and being single, was a step i could not do. LOL Good Luck.

I had my period 4 days after the surgery. I don't get a period b/c of the Depo Provera shot, but the surgery brought it on. Call doc, but I think this is pretty common.

Maybe you are not getting enough calories. Sometimes if we eat too little the body "hangs on to the fat" for dear life. Perhaps the extra calories the mushies will bring will help.

You are not alone. I ate 3 frozen mini bagel bites (They smelled soooo good) with no problem. Then, another day I am PB with my protein shake. I too feel full for days at a time and then other times can shovel it in. .....

I am in! 10pounds!