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I was wondering if those of you who have lost most, if not all, of your weight have ever had a "thin" person say something really rude or off about the size of another person? Something that you KNOW they would have never said in front of or to you at your previous weight. How did you react? Or - what do you find are the most annoying comments to you about your weight loss?

I will be self-pay as well. I am going to sit in on a support meeting and then if I am happy with what I hear, I guess my next step will be to set up a consult with the doctor. I have NO CLUE how long the process will take after that. I may end up in a Feb thread. I am having a hard time finding someone on this board who used the doc I am thinking of going with.:drool:

Okay - Here goes..... I have always had experiences at night when I sleep. I wake up and find people stading over or next to me. Mostly they vanish after I blink a few times and I think it is just my eye's adjusting to the dark. Once,about 15 years back, I woke to find a girl about the age of 7y/o standing next to my bed. I blinked my eyes a few times and she did not disappear. Finally, I sat straight up in bed and she slowly vanished. She resembled me as a child. I just knew it was a child I had lost at birth years previous. Since then, I pay better attention to those standing next to me or hovering over me. I also recently moved to St. Augustine FL and had always heard about it being a "haunted" city. My husband, children and I were out exploring and driving around one day when we decided to drive past the Lighthouse. We did not stop just did a drive by. As we went past I noticed a couple of kids sitting in the HUGE oak trees in front of the LightHouse. I just figured they were out there playing and did not even think it worth mentioning. A week or so later I was cooking supper and my husband was wathcing an on-demand program that was talking about St. Augustine. They got to talking about the lighthouse and then talked about how sometimes people have reported seeing the children that were killed on the property SITTING and playing IN THE TREES! I had always heard about the Lighthouse being haunted but had NEVER heard anything about kids in the trees!

Hi - I am thinking that January will be my time. I am self-pay so I will not have to wait on ins or ins-diet. I go to a support meeting on Thursday to talk to some of the patients that the doctor has worked on. I have already been to his seminar. I guess from there it is a consult and the pre-op testing. So, however long it takes for those appts and then surgery. Maybe February if the process of appointments take longer. Btw....I am NOT telling most family and friends. My hubby and 11y/o know and my mother (since I will need a sitter for my 2y/o) I don't want to feel like I am under a microscope to lose weight and they are just waiting for me to fail, again:bored:.

I know this doctor is looking out for my interest. I can get that. Unfortunately, I just moved to the area and this is only the 2nd time he has seen me. He has not seen me struggle for the past 14years as my old doctor has. I guess I just get tired of the lecture no matter what I go in for. You have the sniffles???? Oh, well it must be weight related....:sad: I know I have bad habbits that have to change. I am scared that I will go through this and eventually fall into bad habbits. I wonder if eventually I will think like a thin person and not a fat one. But I HAVE to do something.....I would LOVE to exercise....and can't wait to join and try different sports. That is what I like. More competitive exercise. I will get this done. It the mean time, I may have to look for a more understanding PCP. Maybe I can ask the weight loss surgeon for a recomendation.

I always retain Water whenever I get into a pool or near the ocean. I can actually see it in my lower legs and ankles. Look for other NSV... don't give up the exercise, it is hard to get motivated to start. Your scale will show your efforts soon. Great job for getting to the gym!!:sad:

:huh2:Well - I just wanted to come on and thank everybody for the advice. After a lot of research and soul searching I have decided to give WW a solid try for a year and then re-evaluate my decision to NOT have the band surgery. I feel it is just too great a risk (not death) being a self-pay that I will have to have additional surgery or the possibility of band removal. I would love to be able to do this and would if my ins picked it up, but, I can't put my family through the ups and downs financially and having the potential of it not even working for me. I wish you all luck and maybe in a year I can see how skinny you all have become. BTW, I posted my decision on the WW board and what a bunch of negative Nancy's:mad:....I don't think some of them read the message fully before they started putting down lap-band and ME! Wow,,,,,I think I will have to look elsewhere for support. :cursing: Good luck to you all.

Jayme is this your first cruise? Don't worry about what to eat. There are plenty of choices and you don't have to eat everything but can try whatever you like. They always offer a dieters selection. I have not been banded (yet) but have been on many cruises. As a matter of fact, it was on my cruise in September that I decided to come home and research the band. It felt like food was the biggest part of the entertainment and I got sick of being entertained! You will be fine - there are healthy choices - you just have to choose them. Hope this was helpful.

sorry - I guess that should have went to wandac

Cassieme - I am just curious, did they put you on coumadin? I was diagnosed with a blood clot after c-section and had to do coumadin therapy. I noticed that I was loosing my hair. My doctors say it is not coumadin but have heard a lot of people with same problem!! bty, I do not have a band yet - so it is not the lack of protein!

Hi - I tried but my doc would not keep me on it long (like 2 week supply) HELLOOOO I can't loose 100+ in 2weeks! I did make the hunger go away and I had more energy. Like a little high.

Thanks BethL....The office you use is actually one of my top choices right now. They are a little far for me since I am in St. Augustine. Maybe you saw me (and my husband) at the meeting we hi-jacked:wink2:. My ins won't cover it so I will be self-pay. Do you know anything about the chareges for fills and what not with them? How have you done so far? It surprises me that Dr. Koppman and Marema are not mentioned much on here because they say they were rated #1 with ObiesityHelp.magazine or something like that. Do you know of any other support websites (other than OH.com) Thanks for the info. I look forward to tracking your progress.:thumbup:

Sorry...... I know that once you finally get it in your head to go ahead with this, you are ready now! I am ready now and I have to get my husbands head around it since I am asking him to pay $18,000 for it! So - yep,,,,it sucks to wait on the insurance, but the bright side is that they will cover it. And maybe the will give you credit for time served?lol:biggrin:

I know for a fact that our ins. does not cover it. I called the ins. and even had my husband (policy holder) speak to his HR dept, about the other ins. offered through his company (to to re-up anyway). They used to offer it but since so many people had it done, they were losing money on the policies. They decided to take it out of the policies (the company he works for did). Even with medically neccasry, co-morbidities, appeals, - it won't matter in my case. You should call your member services and just ask! I waited a long time to call mine over fertility issues and it turns out they paid to see a specialist and to have testing done, a month after my last visit with the specialist, I was pregnant! If I had not been so scared to start that conversation, my two kids would not be 10 years apart! I will be selfpay and I have not talked to my PCP yet either. It is worth it to me! You are right with me on the issue of being over weight since a child. I have no idea what I will look like as a thin person. To be honest, if I only get down to 200-220, I will still be happy - just knowing I will more than likely not gain it back. Best of luck to you:thumbup: MAKE THAT CALL!

I am also in the early stages. I know that my ins does not cover it so I will be self-pay. My husband is okay with it but would be more okay if ins covered it. I feel like I have been dieting to just NOT gain weight in the past few years! I have been overweight starting at 8y/o. I can't imagine myself below 240?? I weighed that much by the time I was 12y/o. The one time I was smaller, I was a senior in HS and weighed 170ish. That lasted for about a minute and I got there by being "love" sick. I too wonder why we feel ashamed to ask for help? I am guilty of it. Or are we afraid of what others will think about our asking for help? I just figure I have got to do this for me. The people who are not supportive of it were/are probably not supportive of my being this fat either. So :sneaky:'em!

I have been thinking about getting this done, then started researching, then seminars, now I am ready. My husband is being supportive but he wants to learn more about it. We have to self-pay so I think that is our biggest issue. I have told some of my side of the family. Heck, my Mom is the one who first said I should look into it. It is my husbands side of the family that I am not sure about, espeacially M.IL. I know they will question it but talk more behind my back to each other than to my face. We recently moved a few hours away from them so I am thinking of not telling them and waiting to let them see the results at a family get together. Same with my friends. :wink2: