Hi, I am looking for a buddy/mentor, I live in Central Jersey, I understand what you are saying I feel the same way talking to my husband and kids they real do not understand. I have been band since Nov 28, 2007, and yes it has been a long journey, and still have not reached my goal. Lost 82lb and in the last year I have gained 31 back, I had lost my motivation, but now I am real trying again. How far south are you? Maybe we can help each other.