Hi, I am 8 days post surgery and I went through the same thoughts you are going through. What I finally came up with is I need to do this for me. I want to live longer and enjoy my family and friends, and I want to like me again. I decided not only is it good for my physical health but it will be good for my mental health as well. After I gained weigh, my self esteem really took a down hill climb, my husband was great and kept telling me he loved me no matter what I weighed, and so I ate more. Wrong thing to do because, when it got so out of control not only was I upset with myself but I was upset with him. When I asked him later :thumbup:what he really thought he said, I didnt want you to be upset with me so I told you that it didnt matter what you weighed. I got the hint that it really did matter when he was paying attention to other women who were alot thinner then me. When my BP got out of control I realized it was time to get this under control. I think it is normal to wonder if this is right for you, you just have to do what you feel is the best thing for you.