I was in the same situation as you, went to several meetings, went on several sites talk to several doctors, went to dietician class, seen psychologist, and have been given a date for surgery before I told my husband, I just came out and said I am scheduled for weight loss surgery on this day, I gave him the information concerning the surgery, he read over all the information and said Why are you haveing this surgery, I explained to him what I been trying to tell him for over 20 years how fustrated I am trying to lose weight, He tried to tell me again you dont need to have this surgery I stated I already have a date so please just understand my feelings. At first he did not want to talk about it and after about five days he was ok.