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Kids are terribly cruel aren't they? Sorry to hear that happened to you. . unfortunately we are scarred for life because of these events and it can make trusting people a little bit of a challenge can't it? Soon we wouldn't have to worry about that anymore. . . soon. . . .

Good night! Insurance companies sure do make this process almost impossible don't they?:laugh: I'd rather take out a loan and pay the bank back. . . that is actually what I'm doing, don't have to jump through hoops so much, just seminar, pay doctor for initial counsel, pay lab fees, pay shrink then 2 weeks before surgery, pay rest. . . very simple. . . was approved over the phone from bank for full amount at only 3% interest. . . so that might be a better way to go. . .

Did you get your band put in in Canada? If you got it put in, they should be able to take it out. . . wouldn't you think? If you got it done in the USA, then it's probably the same as if someone from here (US) got it done in Mexico, the doc's here won't touch those folks either, they have to go back to mexico for fills and so on. . don't know what to tell you, did you research it over the net? I'm sure you did. Best wishes to you

No, it doesn't sound preachy at all. . thank you for your caring along with Marie. . I've really never talked openly about these issues but it sure is nice to let it out for once. . it's like allowing something to leave that's been there for a long long time. . . Marie, after I read your quote, i looked back at what it was that was so sad, it WAS sad, I don't think I've ever realized just how bad people have been to me throughout my life. . . uhh it's not nice, but again I can't grudge those people, even now with my patients when they see me smile at them and ask grouchily "what are you smiling at" I'll always respond "I smile for those who can not". . . . I'll get that book by the way. . thanks

Hi, my entire amount will be due two weeks before the surgery. My initial doctor consult requires $300 up front, the $150 for the psych thing (good lord I'm crazy yet too and have to pay to be told of such) hehehe. . . the labs also are a separate cost.

That made me laugh so hard I nearly pee'd on myself! Thanks I really needed a good laugh!!!!!:w00t:

Hi Marie, I am "thinking mode" It has taken me 1 1/2 years to convince hubbie dear to let me even go to a seminar. . he thinks yes I need to lose weight, but not that way, he thinks I'm going to die. . i did phentermine for over 1 year (I was buying it over the net) but after so long, your body goes funky, stopped and regained all the weight (very heartbreaking) so right now, I have my financing approved for the whole amount, have the seminar set up, am talking to ya'll, and I'm thinking if hubbie says no after the seminar, I'm going to have to tell him "sorry bud, this is for me" and go ahead with it. he has told me many times he will never support me if I do this, but I think if he is coming to seminar, maybe he is reconsidering things. . . wish me luck, seminar is on the 23rd at 6pm. . . I've prayed about it, but sometime God is too busy with more important things then listening to my little requests. . . :w00t:

Yes Marie, and the saddest part of all, I just used to smile and keep it all in, I was 22 years old when everything overwhelmed me, new baby, being even fatter that I actually attempted suicide to escape the hurting, but of course, I was rescued by my hubbie. . . I have become so staunch and have grown a very thick skin during my life. . but I continue to treat those who hurt me the same way I would love to be treated, with kindness and respect, never with hurt and resentment.

Hello my friend, well from what I know about metabolism, the problem may just be that your not getting enough calories as you mentioned. What happens to the body which is being "starved" is that it goes into survival mode and the metabolism slows down to a crawl, hence, no weight loss. What you might want to do is exercise more. . .sounds dreaded i know, but increase the exercise. Try that and maybe you can boost that metabolism out of "starve' mode. . .hope this helps

I can't really tell you which one of the many comments has been the rudest, the one at 12 years old when I was already a size 44DD bra and I was playing in the park when a group of grown men drove by and yelled "hey big tits want some of this" and proceeded to show me their genitals, or my husband of 31 years telling me not to go into the water cause someone might "mistaken me as a whale and use a harpoon on me" or being called "the amazon queen" by an anesthiologist, or being told "you'll never fit into the MRI machine, you MUCH too fat" by a physician. . . and it continues for the whole of my 48 years. . . I'll let ya'll pick which one was the most rude. I have become very numb to all comments lately. . wonder why?

Congratulations Jerry! You can do this! Wow that is amazing! I hope once I'm banded I can do as well as you are! Keep up the fantastic work!!!!:w00t:

I feel for you! I haven't even been banded yet and I'm feeling worried for the exact same reasons you all are here. . what if I get weak? what if my head wins? I did it before with phentermine, but had to stop because of the weirdo side effects of phentermine. . . goodness here we go, hubbie past a comment last night "who says your even getting the surgery?" :blushing: That put my spirits WAY DOWN. . . you see all, I really hate arguements and fights so hubbie and I make all decisions together including this banding thing. . even though he keeps telling me I should lose weight for my health, he feels that I'm going to die with this band. . . it's taken me 1 1/2 years just to convince the man to come to a seminar. . . I already got approval for financing, he is willing to come to a seminar on the 19th, and now suddenly this. . . I bet he's just using this to get his power and control kicks. . . sorry to ramble on like this but i'm feeling rather down:confused:

I'm sorry, I thought you were banded already. . I'm not banded either, and have a hubbie whom it took 1 1/2 years just to convince to go to a seminar, he still hasn't said go ahead. . . but at this point, I'm going to get it regardless. . . I think what would be good would be not to tell anyone about your plans. . . just get it done and carry on. . . when they start noticing your losing weight and ask about it, just smile and say "ancient chinese secret" and carry on. . . that is exactly what I plan on doing as well. . . Don't think of it as pressure or stress, think of it as an adventure that no one else is involved in, just you and us on this site. . . who knows you could have a lot of fun. . . well once again accept my ignorance on the matter. . . hope we can still share stories, and I'll let you know when I go for banding. . .

Hi Guys! What is Pbing? Ouch getting food stuck sounds horrible! But so does overchewing food. . . I laugh because if I chew food so much that it liquifies, I throw up. . .can you imagin after I'm banded? I'll either have too much pain all the time, or throw up all the time. . . hahaha. . . what a scene that brings to mind! Hello Yop Yogurt drinks!

Cheryl, you'll probably not like what I have to say because it's the truth. It's sounds like you may have some underlying issues other than food. Have you though about counseling? That was a lot of money to spend on the band wasn't it? But all the advise and encouragement in the world won't help you ONLY you can make the right decisions. Not one single person on this website can change how you are right now. Only you can and only you can say NO to things you put into your mouth. No one else can control that, just you. Sorry to sound so brash, but I think you know I'm right.

Good for you! I have just started not too long ago to write and become friends with this site. I've not yet had my surgery (still in think phase) I do have my seminar next saturday though! That is a right step huh? I'm hoping that when I have my surgery I have those same "I'm not hungry" feelings ya'll have. . . right now when I get those hunger pangs I get so nauseated and at times vomit. . . so they are pretty violent. . . don't like it. . .

Good Lord! Are you telling me that one must drink SLIMFAST!!! :sneaky::eek::crying: I hate those drinks sooooo very much, taste like a can of mashed up vitamins! And please don't tell me if I don't drink the slimfast then I have to drink Boost! Then, for sure I'll have to go to the store and buy liver and beef babyfood and stuff that down! :thumbup:

Good Morning my friend, I must say I totally love your screen name. . .I was just realizing something. You weighed over 400 lbs and you have now come down this far? That is absolutely amazing! You are a total inspiration to me. I hope when my time comes to walk my path, I do as well as you do. . . I have about 160 lbs to lose. I hope you'll be there with me as we walk the path together. . . maybe one day our paths will meet and we can rejoice together. . .

OK! That last sentence "I feel like I can't live up to that big change" that totally sounds like your setting yourself up for failure. I'm sorry you feel that way, but honey, why did you do this band thing? You did it cause you were unhappy with how your life had become, and now with the band your still unhappy? I'm not trying to sound judgemental or like the shrink next door, but it's so clear to see here that your unhappy. Maybe try new things, plant a flower, watch it grow, go shop, take a walk (its amazing what that can do) or chat with another friend. But before you can succeed you must change in the sad you. Depression hurts, it hurts more than being hit, I know! Been there done that. . .but I made a pac with myself that I would never let that demon possess me ever again. . . and you know what, I WON!!!! No more pills, no more shrinks, it's just me and like me, you too can and WILL WIN the battle. . .

When I read your words in the beginning about what had happened, all I could do was say "why" it hurt me even though I don't know you, I felt your pain. . .we as women are expected to do and know everything, we are needed by our husbands, children, parents, our work demands us, churches, everything. . .we are supposed to do everything. When we fail, we beat ourselves up. . it's terrible how we are with ourselves, it's so painful, you made a mistake, it's ok, like the other posts say, get back up and go. . . this isn't for anyone but yourself. . . you are worth it, you are a person, you can be what you never were. . .

Thank you so much for explaining that to me. . . yes I can just imagine, it's like being on a non-band diet, you work so hard at it and in the end you've lost MAYBE 10 lbs. . . it's so very discouraging. . . I haven't even been banded yet but i find this site extremely helpful. . . so many new friends who have been through this and can totally relate to what your going through. . when I get banded this site will become my second family! Who knows, might even become my first! hehehehe :thumbup:

Honey, a year is better than not at all. . . remember how proud you felt when you lost all the weight? Man, I weigh 330 right now and am strongly thinking about getting this surgery done. . .(have to convince hubbie i'm not going to die on the table you know) Just think of all that money you have spent? Don't let them (society) win and don't let the saying "there's a fortune in fat" be the norm. . . fight with all you've got, get those fills, you probably spend more on those McDonald coffees and stuff your not suppose to eat then what the fills cost. . . come on get back on the program. . . it's for YOU, not for the income of McDonalds and someone else. . .YOU!!!

Congratulations to you! That is the first big step towards your success and you WILL succeed. . .I hope when I get banded (im just in "think about it" mode right now) I have all the strenght you have. . . keep up the great work. . . i can just see you sitting there staring in aww at your friends wolfing down sandwiches and thinking. "my god and i used to do this too" I watch the learning channel when they have the superobese people on and get so amazed when they show how they eat (you know those mouth shots when they put food in there) It's amazing. . . anyhow good luck, keep up the great work. . .:mad:

Hello! I'm still in the pre surgery phase (seminar coming up) and I just need to know if after surgery if any one went into depression? I understand that when something is taken away from you (food) a person could go into depression. Can we talk about this please and how it was coped with. What does the psychotherapy before surgery do? Thanks in advance to all who are willing to discuss this sensitive issue with me.

Hi Sweetie! It's Erykah, I just wanted to ask you a few questions, what is the psych thing for? What do they do? After the seminar, what happens then? How long after the seminar can you schedule the surgery? Thanks for being there for me.