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Nothing is better then a good poop! Makes the body feel great! I'm so glad things got moving and your back to "normal" . . . keep up the excellent work!!

hear hear Queen of crop! I agree with you, guys do have feelings just like us, only different. . . I understand what your saying too. . . all is well on the homefront here. . . I am better and am just going to dismiss the comment as a "bad day" Thanks all once again!

This happened to me. . . i too flirted with the idea of cheating, but STD/HIV scared that thought right out of my brain. . . my hubbie is everything to me, so why would I want to hurt him. . . I found out it was just plain boredom and all i really wanted was just someone to "go out" with. . .go places and do stuff not to have sex. . I didn't want a relationship cause I had a fabulous one with DH and couldn't see losing him over that. . .I'm glad i didn't do it. . . replacing it with a kid could cause more problems cause kids are very stressful. . . Just my thoughts. . . maybe you two need a break from lifes stresses. . . take a nice vacation together and/or just reflect on the many reasons why you are together. . . write down the pro's and con's of being together and when you see your pro's outweighing your con's you'll be happy about that. . . sometimes it's just a little change to make it all better. . . vacations are wonderful if you can do that. . . good luck!

My only advice to you is this. . . no matter how prepared you are, prepare yourself mentally. . . it's the mental aspect which will set you up. . . be sure you are ready to accept the food funeral and do alot of self talk . . . remind yourself daily why you did the surgery and what the long term goals are . . . when you find yourself getting moody cause you can't eat what everyone else is eating, remember it's not their fault, so don't take it out on them . . . just keep your head on tightly and fight a fair fight! This journey is not easy and the bumps are interesting, if you fall down, get up, brush yourself off and keep going! Good luck!

anytime, that's what we're here for. . . if one of us falter, we all try to come to the rescue to help. . .we'll be there for you!

Let us know how you do ok? Yes, dehydration is definately worse. . . give a try and hope you feel better soon!

YOU BETCHA! In the very beginning, it's a food funeral. . .you go through the remorse of losing your best friend (food) . . . this is where I think no one is ever ready for this surgery. . . we think we are ready, but mentally we are not (this is one aspect I really wish they would tell you about). . . in the beginning during holidays was the worst for me. . i'd actually have pity parties for myself and feel sorry for me. . . it was a pretty sorry sight, . . but then i did alot of self talk, I had to remind myself why i did the surgery and what my long term goal was. . . i started to watch people and their habits with food and remind myself this is exactly how i was . . . i started getting grossed out with obese people even though i am one, i started watch man vs food and would literally get sick. . . i worked myself into thinking I don't need all that food. . . i'm eating to live, not living to eat. . . you have to work with yourself, if you find it getting worse, remove yourself from the situations or find some help. . . you'll be ok, this too shall pass, I'm out 3 years and mine finally left me at about 1 year post op. . . you can do it. . . don't let the anger eat you up, you'll only hurting yourself . . . good luck

Thank you! Everyone is great ! Pdxman, don't worry, we all love you too! Shadayo, no offense taken, all comments are very welcome. . .it's the support everyone is showing that makes me feel better about myself. . . and yes, $15,500.00 cash (I was self pay) is alot of money and I guess the kook is trying to maintain his investment. . (if only i wasn't an investment LOL) but oh well only 7,900.00 left on that loan! I'm so much better today because of all of you! Everyone here has totally made my day and I appreciate it so much! Thank you!

this is probably easier said then done, but tell yourself that this is only temporary. . this post op diet is not for your entire life, only til your tummy heals! So when you feel your mood going, control yourself by letting yourself know that none of this is anyones fault, they didn't do anything. . .it takes alot of self talk and ALOT of control. . . you'll be ok, this too shall pass. . .i'm sure we've all been through it. . .

have you tried the world according to eggface? or just type in reciepes, protein bars and see what comes up? sorry not much help here. . . good luck

Doc told me that some folks are really sensative to the iron in the vitamins, which may be your problem as well. I suffer from that as well, so i stopped taking them, but then of course ran into the problem of malabsorption . . . ahhhh damned if you do and damned if you don't. . . I don't take the iron pills or the calcium at all, just the multivit and the prescription VitD and B12. . . .it's better, but that's me. . . good luck

Welcome! Your going to love us. . . we are a big happy family here and we support each other through thick and thin. . . sometimes we even fight and get krunk with each other. . . that passes like bad gas and then we're all ok again. . . so welcome and keep posting. I'm glad you found us!

How I love you all! Thank you so much for your support! Well I did tell him yesterday that he really hurt my feelings. . . he got all stupid over that and started with "Well I'm never going to tell you anything ever again. . from now on i'm going to keep quiet and let you do what you want" (he always goes grade 1 on me when i confront him about stuff) . . . i told him point blank, "babe, you dished it out, so now you better be able to take some too" and that was it. . . argue city. . . telling me that i can't take criticism and that he just laughes things off. . (well fool, laugh this off! middle finger flies up) . . .i must be overly sensative when it comes to weight. . . what a jackass. . . oh well, 34 years of arguing has never bothered us before, and it won't now either, plus i'm too lazy and tired to retrain another man. . LOL. . . like alot of you say, he's a guy, no clue. . . lol . . . sorry to Brandon! But it did open my eyes to the fact that maybe I have gained weight, so this morning I weighed myself and nope, lost 3 lbs. . . ahhhhh whatever. . . i think he's basically just upset over something else (usually its work) ,. . . i was thinking this morning, as I was driving to work, i'm a good wife, work every day at my job (no I don't miss unless it's holiday time or I'm 1/2 dead which is never) come home work in the yard, tending to flowers and making sure the yards are watered and weed free, do all the housework, etc. . . don't gamble, don't drink, don't smoke, don't spend money, don't shop, just hausfrau (housewife) me. . . . so whatever, I'll continue on my path and in the end, I'll be the one receiving my blessing and he'll have to answer to the "why did this happen?". . . . .

Thank you so much for all your kind words. . . thank goodness for all of you! Your my "other" family! Thanks for being there. . I'll be ok, it just hurts alot. . . we try so hard and then this happens! we will always be ones to get "picked on" and it hurts alot. . anyhow it'll be ok. . .

Breakfast was 6 oz mixture of egg, sausage crumbles and chopped chilies, 2 cups of coffee. . Lunch was hormel turkey and dressing and a diet coke. . . supper will be whatever I can scratch up. . . .

How incredible happy you must be! Congratulations! I'm very happy for you too! Even got a lump in my throat!!!!!

this may sound dumb, but here goes. . .when i was about 3 months out, i was still really careful in everything i attempted to eat. . so when my mom and her friend came to visit me for a week, what i did instead of "joining in" with the celebrations (I hadn't seen my mom in over 7 years) I busied myself catering to them. . . when it was time to eat, i made myself a very very small plate and took only protein, When my mom started in on me, I right away would get up and offer her stuff, more coffee, some cake? How about some alcohol? Lets go sit on the patio, You 2 visit, let me stack the dishwasher. . . I was so busy with myself that i never once missed the celebration with food and it did me good. . .I understand you want to celebrate your daughters b/day but really there will be one every year. . . it's not like you have to do it this year right? Busy yourself by fussing around her. . cater to her. . But it's your choice, you make the choices for yourself. . .just be careful cause at 31/2 weeks. . . well ask yourself, is the tummy REALLY healed up good enough to prevent a possible leak??????? good luck!

vitamins are a crazy thing. . .sorta like men, can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. . hahahaha. . . you probably are not on mushies yet, but when you do get to them, take your vitamins after you eat. . . nausea with vitamins is a very common thing. My doc says it's because of the iron in them. . . ugh

sorry, mine was totally the opposite I always woke up freezing and could never be warm enough. . .consult with the physician next time you go

3 years out here and still can only eat 1 slice of pizza, no more then 6-7oz of food at a time. . still slime like a maniac if i eat too fast or too much, still can't gulp drinks, always have to ask for a to go box when eating out. . . haven't gained weight, don't exercise or really watch my diet. . .i am maintaining wonderfully between 200-210lbs. . .lost 150lbs, surpassed my doctors goal for me which was 212lbs and finally love myself and am at peace with myself. . . what a wonderful feeling that is ! good luck!

I had many, but the best one must of been when I "thought" I could fit into this really nice pair of shorts which I had never worn because they were alway so tight, so when i put them on, they fell right off. . . I HAD MISSED THE SIZE! then of course there was the fit into the plane seat with about 7" of seatbelt left over, AND the tray came all the way down with lots of room to spare! That made my day. . . also, I was going over the HR dept one day to deliver some paper work and when I was coming back I was standing outside and realized I had just climbed 4 flights of stairs and wasn't huffing and puffing. . . I was amazed at that. . I mean I didn't even realize i had done the stairs, my mind was elsewhere! That was cool. . . there are many many more, and I'm grateful for each and every one of them!

Your very welcome. . that's what we're here for actually. . . lol. . . this is going to be a big change but just remember, no matter how "ready" you think you are, it's still going to be "different" Each of us is unique and different, so each of us have had different experiences with the surgery. . . your "scared out of your brain" thing is normal, that I believe everyone has experienced. . . but you'll do ok. . . just remember to get up and walk! Very important and also sip, sip, sip, . . you won't feel like it, but if your dehydrated, well then there is another problem. . . .good luck you'll do great and keep us posted!

hey Mike, hope all goes well for you!

yes, cold drinks will cramp your tummy big time. . .every one is different, so your tolerance to cold drinks will depend on you. . . i'm out 3 years, i definately can drink cold drinks, but man if i drink it on an empty tummy, look out, cramps and pain for about 10 - 15 minutes. . just progress slowly, and definately no gulping! sip sip sip your cold drinks and take time between sips. . . Good luck!

ugh, your husband sounds like mine, except i'm out now 3 years, doing great and he still reminds me how "hes against the surgery and always was, and that he just didn't say anything" big weenie! Not that it would have changed my mind anyhow. . .hehehe. . . this is just a temporary thing your going through, your body has to readjust from all that is going on with it. . it takes time and in the beginning i really hated this surgery. . .i secretly wished i had never had it either. . . but then things started to come together, I relearned how to eat, drink, and live life again and now at 3 years out, I do suffer from malabsorption but i take my Vitamins as needed and finally am at peace with myself. . . it's going to happen for you too, just be patient. . . but do keep your doctor appts and if you feel really bad, please consult with the physician especially with your other problems. . . good luck and keep us posted!