want2lose, that is amazing! Reading your post was like reading something that had come directly out of my head. My husband, too, is not completely opposed to the surgery but thinks I am cheating and could do it myself with a little hard work. I told him if he committed to the gym and new eating habits with me, I was fairly confident I could do it. He refused, so I planned the surgery. I am scheduled for 9/7. I am currently making arrangements for the day of surgery and preparing to pretty much go it alone. Last night he informed me that he would be there the day of my surgery to take care of me and make sure I was ok. I guess the bottom line (in my experience) is show him that you CAN do it alone if you have to. Let him warm to it on his own and don't ask for anything. I have also made some big changes since getting my surgery date (quit smoking, started a serious excercise routine and stuck to it) which may have helped him realise how committed to this I really am. Good luck! I am here for you if you need a sympathetic ear. I know exactly what you are going through. I still wouldn't say my husband is 100% behind me. But we're working on it.