Hi everyone-
I've been searching past threads and reading posts on LBT trying to find posts about talking to loved ones about WLS.
How did you all approach the topic with family? Spouse? Friends? Did you keep it a secret?
(sorry if this is a bit rambling)
Surprisingly my parents are completely supportive and even offered to help with the cost since I'll be a self-pay and my mom has volunteered to babysit the twins in my house while I recover (although her reason for that is pretty selfish... she loves to spoil my girls):001_wub:
I'm still having a hard time talking with DH about it. His responses are pretty limited when I do try to talk to him...
"You don't need it" DH comes from a very overweight family and while he is normal sized, he doesn't see obesity as an issue even though he has family members dying from heart problems and diabetes complications. :wink0:
"So and so had it, and look at how miserable she is" (referring to lap-band friend)
"You could die/have complications"- this is pretty much his trump card... As a newly wed with newborn twins and a wonderful life... this pretty much scares the crap out of me. I know logically the chances of complications are low but it is surgery and shouldn't be taken lightly.
"You lost weight on Atkins, just do that again..." while true, I know my past diet attempts have all failed and I don't want to yo-yo for the rest of my life.
Did anyone have similar issues when talking to a spouse? I would really like his support in going forward with this, so any suggestions are appreciated.
I feel like there is a huge social stigma attached to WLS and it's been really difficult to talk about, I'm thankful to have found this forum. :redface1: