reader54

I haven't had the surgery yet. I went to an informational meeting and have my first individual meeting at the end of the month. A friend of mine had the surgery earlier this year and has had ups and downs, but mostly positives. I'm still really nervous and don't know if I'm ready to commit to surgery. To me, personally, I feel like I'd be relying on a crutch if I had it done. But I'm 55 years old and have been going up and down and up and down and up and up and up for years. Nothing else has worked. The informational meeting made me feel a bit better, but for some reason I feel that if I have the surgery, I'm admitting defeat and that I'm a failure. Has anyone else ever felt like this? How did you get over this feeling? Thanks for any insites you can share.

Hi all, I'm reading your posts and I'm almost in tears. Thank you so much for your wise words and your support. The most important thing I remember from the informational meeting is when the doctor said that most are beginning to realize that obesity is genetic and something else I can't remember. But anyway, that it wasn't a form of weakness or whatever. That was the FIRST time I had ever heard that, and you all just reaffirmed it. I don't know how long it will take for me to accept these words after 55 years of being tsk-tsked, but I will grab on to them. Thank you again. If your replies are the usual, I think I've found a great place for support!