Koko

Hey Dona, that's quite the coincidence about you being at the same seminar - I thought that they did a really good job at going over everything and answering questions. The only thing was at the end, they lost control/focus of the crowd and I couldnt hear any of the questions and answers due to so many people talking. Anyway, I did come away with complete confidence in them. My insurance also requires a 6-month dr directed weight loss program and it stinks. I did great on my own for so long and just found that I couldnt get full on the amount of food I needed to lose more weight. The band seems like a really good fit for me though and I will pay for this out of pocket if I have to! I really believe that my life depends upon it. Let's keep posted here - let me know how your doing.

Well, no matter how bad it gets, I imagine it could be worse LOL Gotta take these things with a grain of humor lest we all go certifiably insane!:faint:

Texas, this is a huge deal!!! Of course I have quite a ways to go but believe me, I noticed a big difference after losing 100lbs. It's been with strangers rather than friends in that they will meet my eyes more whereas before, I was invisible. Becoming "visible" is scary at best - especially for those of us who have never been thin and did not grow into womanhood learning how to deal with attention from members of the opposite sex. Frankly, getting to goal scares the bezeejus out of me in this respect. It's flattering getting attention but as someone who has spent their life trying to blend into the background, it's not necessarily welcome. To be fair though, your personality and friendship may be perfect but they have not previously been physically attracted to you. Yes, it should not matter, but it does. We all have biases and preferences, unfortunately our society finds this particular "fault" to be one of the worst. I read a poll once where the question was "would you rather date someone who was overweight or a cocaine addict?" - the majority answer was "cocaine addict" :omg: Good Grief!

Vera, congratulations! What a wonderful accomplishment... the weight loss and the adorable kids

I don't know how right on this is but when I went to my lap band seminar, they actually talked about this and said it was because a person can lose so much muscle that they have this appearance. Hey, on the up-side there may be a Hollywood career in that - don't all those stars have a huge head compared to their body? Seriously though, KLS it looks that many are giving you some good information. There is no such thing as researching any surgical measure to death. I am sure that whatever you choose, it will be the right decision for you. All the best, this is not easy.

The whole idea of my normal digestive system be sliced and diced is really horrifying to me (personally). from everything I have read, the lap band is so much safer and does not have all the nasty side effects of the other. Also, losing weight too fast can equal muscle rather than fat loss. RNY is High risk invasive irreversible Vitamin deficiencies requires longer hospitalization Protein malabsorption DIARRHEA not adjustable etc. Everyone has to make their own decision - good luck, this is a big one.

I told my boss and a really good friend at work who is discrete but don't want to tell anyone else there at all. It's a very personal thing to me - don't even know if I'm going to tell my extended family, just kids and forum friends. I'm going to just take a vacation week so no one will think anything of it. I have to say that these few that I have told were extremely supportive and positive

Hunny, that was my thought too but then again I havent had my coffee yet either :help:

503-250, I think I'm in love with you Way to go, I love your way of dealing with these rude types... give it right back!

I so get what you are saying. I spent a year and a half walking past the danish Cookies, bowls of large candy bars and the box of donuts the florist brought every day and it was hard! All of the sudden one day, I was really hungry from skipping Breakfast and lunch and dug in. There is no such thing as just one for many of us and there is no such thing as "moderation". I know that these types of foods will literally make me ravenous and I could eat the whole box. The people that bring these things in, usually don't understand this and they CAN eat just one and not keep going back. A POX on them LOL

Lisa, that's great! I'll be anxious to read about your experiences on this journey. Good luck to you

Morsaille, thanks