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Ok So I spoke to another of my surgeon's patients , he hasnt answered me back yet, I thought he would not since its the weekend and all. She said he has her do 1 day Clear Liquids 1 day liquids and one day Smooshies ( what ever you call it LOL) then one day semi solids. So I am getting the impression that maybe this is for the first fill ? We'll see. But just wanted to let ya'll know what she said. Mindy

Dreamer , I agree with you . Each is different. His stats speak for himself, I just have gotten in contact with a few other patients of his and they ALL have glowing recommendations for him . They just cant stay enough about him. I will see how everything pulls together for me and if my "intuation is right' on my consult but I think it will be . Thanks for your input its helpful. Mindy

Its something I SAY I Can do now, But I wont know I guess until im in the banders shoes lol . I too am a believer in doing what your doc says if it make sense , if it doesnt make sense ask why lol . Ive been in the medical feild for 10 yrs so i can usually tell or feel when something is just absurd. I asked on here because on another board , like i told jack a few ppl told me to get another doc . I thought that was a bit extreme lol Thanks for your comments and help Sherryjo. I am HOPING TO be banded in December if all goes well with finances. Mindy

I will do that Jack. I asked my friend and she said that its after every fill. But Im not 100% sure she's right lol. That's why im emailing the surgeon . Some other people on another board said to find another surgeon that this is wacko . But I am not so sure. I think its conservative for sure. But WHen your talking about something you will have for the rest of your life , and its not like i'll have to do it every month, week ... its somethign I KNOW I can do if i need to . What is your opinion if indeed it does need to be done every fill ? Given you have a conservative surgeon . Like i said I have not met him yet but I am VERY Comfortable with him thus far, I have spoken to him on the phone and email him fruquently and he answers me with no problem . Granted that might change when i meet him . But as of now Im comfortable with his choices, and answers. Thanks Mindy

I have been lurking on this thread and I will have to jump in on this. I have to agree with Carlene on this . My husband comes from a VERY VERY long line of drug addicts and alcholics. His father was an a drig addict and alcohlic and abusive ( he's recovering) his mother was a drug addict and died of AIDS this yr ( She says from an ex husband Personally I think it was from IV DRug use) EVERYONE on his mom's side and dad's side from their families excluding my husbans generation are Adddicts. (I AM NOT Exaggerating ) They have on jobs, they live on welfare, NON Of them raised their own kids. Now , my husbands generations of his family some got smart, THEY MADE THE CHOICE to NOT be like their parents, to RAISE There chidlren to NOT Abuse them TO BE PRODUCTIVE citizens. My husband has 2 brothers, one is a loving caring husband and a police officer. The other is 36 yrs old and has been IN Jail more in his life than he has been out and has been ON drugs more than he's been off. His excuse " I had a hard life, my parents were loosers and never were around, I was abused all my life and it was hard im so miserable blah blah poor me " Well YEAH SO did your brothers. MY husband was living on his OWN at age 14 working full time and STILL Managed to finish high school ,he turned down a FULL Athletic scholar ship to Texas A&M Universityto play FOOTBALL ,( In texas that's the HOLY GRAIL ) because his MOTHER Gulit triped him into it because she might DIE with out him . That's a mom for ya . My point I agree with Carlene as a GROWN ADULT Child you have to make choices and stop blaming your parents. TYou can choose to follow in their foot steps or you can choose to better yourself. NO matter HOW bad it was or not. Better yourself and take responsibilty . I also had problems with drugs and alchol as a teenager (also in my 20's) I got pregnant at 16 was wild. My parents were GREAT parents, no alchol in their past , MY Dad BROKE That cycle with him , since HIS Dad was an alcholoic . I chose to be an idiot i have no reason to blame it on my parents. My brother , never got into trouble. Never touched drugs and drank for the first time on his 21st bday . Its all what you choose. Mindy

I thought of this after posting last time . Do any of ya'll have migraines ? there is a "phenomenon" where people who have migraines have "Odor Auras" for lack of a better word. I dont know how else to describe it. They smell things that are not there. For instance I smell propane, Gasoline, and smoke like the house is on fire . It doesnt happen all the time or with every migraine but it does happen . Sometimes people have this and have no migraine. But mine always come before or during a migraine. My husband use to think i was NUTS. But i also have an EXTRaORDINARY Nose. For instance, if someone is smoking a cigar ( something that gives me a migraine ) at a crowed place I can smell it from across the room . When no one else can smell it . My son can spray colonge and i'll come home and hour later and still smell it. So might be something else to think about too Mindy

I too am waiting for surgery . Im self pay so im waiting for money . We are self employed and we are making sure this big job is going to pay out in December then HOPEFULLY I can get it then. I know this form has answered just about every single question I have had . Anything You want to ask , do a search first I can almost GURANTEE you its been asked lol . there is SO MUCH info on here that is so useful . Good luck with the surgery . Mindy

Im not banded yet but I use to work in the medical field for 10 yrs and just from what you described it sounds like ketosis . I remeber smelling that smell one time on a man and I told the doc about it and he rushed in there. It can also be a indication of a diabetic being in trouble. BUT its also what happens when people diet. You hear people on atkins talk about throwing themselves into ketosis alot. Its a very unpleasant smell and can vary a bit. But Amonia smelling is close. Its very strong . and it probably is coming from your breathe. Being that your probably eating alot of Protein i wouldnt worry too much about it but i would check with your doc . Just so he can check your glucse levels. Here are some websites that migh thelp explan it better. http://www.webmd.com/content/article/36/1728_52578.htm http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ketoacidosis Mindy

That's an issue for sure if you have to choose from a list . I guess that's one small advantage to being self pay . NOt too many advantages I see to self pay but that would be one of them. I would then ask their policies on Emergencies and problems , how are you to get ahold of them ? Even speak to the doctor . Tell him you didnt feel you were treated very kind on the phone. ALOT OF times docs do not know how their staff treats patients and when they do find out they dont like it . Good luck . Mindy

I will say this though, If you feel like your docs office does not care about you or is not concerend, that you are just a number you may want to rethink your choice of surgeons. There is NO WAY I could go to a doc that treated me like a # and not a person. I have worked for docs offices for 10 yrs and even though they are busy and your right your not the only person, you CAN Be treated with RESPECT and kindness , if you do not feel like your getting that and its important to you to feel that way ... Well you mightw ant to rethink things with that office. How are things goign to be if you have a concern ?I have not even SEEN my surgeon yet and I have his email that HE PERSONALLY responds to , I can email him and he will respond within 24 hours with an answer, Others who see him speak to him on the phone frequently . You do not leave the hospital with out His cell phone and Home Phone number. Those things are important to me . If they are important to you you need to make sure you can get them from your surgeon. Just my input Mindy

Darrell, CONGRATS to you . I hope things go well. I did call Capital one and a few other places. Our problem is a catch 22. We have the money to make the payments, our credit score is fine ( now) but we have a chapter 7 bankcurpcy discharged on our record from this yr. SO im stuck. I THOUGHT my parents were going to cosign for me, I even started cleaning houses to "Show" My parents " Look this money is 3 monthly payments for a loan" and because they dont exactly agree with the choice they have not exactly said anything else about it since I asked them so i took that as a no and im just goign to wait until December when our business has a big job payout and I can do it then. So we'll see. Hope your surgery goes well tomorow good luck Mindy

OHH IM so excited for you . Good luck . Versaid is great. You will be just fine and your husband will realize what he's missing out on now that its too late. Hang in there you can do this. Im so happy for you . Mindy

If I were you I would not stop taking the wellbutrin cold turkey. Even though you have only been on it for 10 days you will probably be ok . But its never a good idea to stop taking any antidepressant cold turkey. If you having problems with your meds and your doc wont call you back SWITCH DOCS. That's BS . Are you taking your wellbutrin at night or in the morning ? if its in the morning try taking it at night . HTH Mindy

Funny you mention that. Since I have PCOS my husband and I had to have sex basically every day for 5 months ( I was VERY lucky i got pregnant that fast with PCOS) in order for me to get pregnant. During that time I wouldnt say I had a "Sex drive' But i had a "Mission" to get pregnant so I wanted to have sex. I have never really been one to want or initiate sex. My marriage suffered a GREAT deal because after I had my son my husbnad and i basically had no sex life. I slept on the couch for 4 yrs. We had sex MAYBE once every 6 months. ( People are AMAZED He never cheated on me ) As SOON as I got on wellbutrin ( For migraines as well as some anxiety issues) BAM I had a sex drive. Now 1-2 times a week and my hubby is happy as a clam . Im still not sure if THAT IS normal or "enough" But after what we went through my husband is MORE Than satisfied. OH and i have no problems with O"s actaully now that i think about it I usually have Several lol . My lack of sex drive i firmly belive is related to my PCOS and my wt of course. Mindy

Gummiebear, Im not sure how often you get migraines, But I do still get migraines on topamax but I went from getting them 3-4 times a week (4-6 in the summer) to 1-2 a month . So it significantly improved them . For migraines the topamax is used as a preventative. Its interesting that I have now found out its used as a mood stabalizer. I recently told a friend fo mine " I didnt realize HOW Bad i have felt for so many yrs until I started feeling " Normal" by not having so many migraines" I thought that simply not having so many migraines was making me feel better. So maybe the topamax itself was making me feel "Normal"LOL. Im on 100mg a day and its encouraging to know that the dopey feeling goes away eventually . I am kind of use to it now ,others that are around me are use to it, Its something i found that i have to warn others about . I say things sometimes that dont make sense. I have to call someone as SOON as i think about something or i'll forget. ( that drives my husband NUTS when I call him 100 times aday but he's use to it now )LOL. But Like I said before , Im willing to deal with that as apposed to having a migraine almost everyday . Mindy

Hell you just described me . Take out the taking care of the mother part and add in taking care of 2 boys and a husband , who btw are slobs and think im their maid , bills, a business , the house, dinner. I Just get out my Ipod and dance to FOOTLOOSE . O Wait im only 31 But BOY Do i feel old sometimes lol I feel for you taking care of your mother though seriously . I did home heatlh care for 4 yrs and THAT Is hard work when its a job , I can only imagine when its life.I admire anyone who does that. Go have a good dance. And try FOOTLOOSE its a good pick ya up song lol Love Mindy:clap2:

Ok I debated about weather to share this or not . But I usually do not hesitate about this so i'll go for it here. There seemed to be only 1 or 2 other woman brave enough to fess up to an abortion This is MY Story . Think what you want : At age 16 I got pregnant , Because I have PCOS I honestly DId not know I was pregnant until I was 22 weeks pregnant. It was quite normal for me to not have periods for 4-6 months at a time. So when I found out I was pregnant it was a shock to find out how far along I was. The "Sperm Donor" as I call him Thought I tried to trap him into marrying me because I was so far along , I literally had 1-2 weeks to decide if i wanted an abortion or not . HIS words were " Have an abortion i'll pay for it , keep it its not mine and your on your own" . I chose to keep my son , I lived with my parents, finished high school , worked full time as I was going to high school . Had it not been for my parents I would not have been able to make it. Fast forward 3 yrs . Met a guy , Was on birth control, We lived together for a yr I was 19-20 yrs old and found out I was pregnant Again , OMG WTF am i going to do . THere is NO WAY Im going to be 19-20 yrs old and have another baby . I DID Take precations to avoid this from happening. My boyfriend and I were ni the processs of breaking up . Why you might ask ? OH Yeah I forgot, He JUST GOT DONE Beating the SHIT out of me and put me in the hospital THAT"S How and where i found out I was pregnant. SO I decided to have an abortion, I couldnt do it alone with 2 kids , and I was NOT Going to raise this one with an abusive father. BTW The first guy TOOK OFF . Now let me explain something .... An abortion is NOT AN Easy thing to do , At least for me . For those who think its an "Easy fix " You couldnt be more wrong. I had my abortion on the Friday of my son's birthday party, that sunday I was at his birthday party in pain , NO ONE knew I what i had done expect the father of the baby . Dont think that doesnt bother me EVERY SINGLE Year, it does. BUT I know for my son's sake it was the best thing . I KNOW I did what was best for me and my son . NOW That being said , DO I Agree with abortion as birth control ABSOLUTLY NOT , do I agree in late term abortions HELL NO . Am I Pro Choice YES. I am now married with another son , I have a 14 yr old and 5 yr old. Im 31 yrs old. I have a son that is almost half my age. My life was rough enough as it was, trying to date as a teenager was not fun or easy with ONE Child let alone 2, it would have been nearly impossible. Money has always been tight. For the first time THIS YR I paid for and gave my son a birthday party 100% on my own with out ANY Help from my parents. after 14 yrs . BTW I have been on goverment assistance ONCE to get my son's eye surgery paid for by meidcaid because my insurance at the time wouldnt pay for it , I had to go on it . I am married to a wonderful man that loves my son as his own . OH Yeah the "Sperm donor" Died in a car accident 6 yrs ago . He was a drug addict , he essentially killed himself with drugs . MY son would have had no chance with him as a father. the father of the child I aborted has been divorced 3 times and arrested 3 times for abuse. I KNOW I made the right choice , Would I Do it again ? Probably not . Was it easy choice to make ? NO , BUT I had that CHOICE . Does it Bother me ? Sure it does sometimes. Does it "Haunt " Me ? NO . People who have abortions are not cold hearted "Baby Killers' as those who might think we are , because that's what gets YELLED At us as we walk into a clinic. We are not MURDERS, we are not EVIL , Most of the time we are simply people who unknowingly and probably unwillingly made a mistake ( even those who tried to be responsible and protect ourselves) we ARE HUMAN , we DO Make mistakes , Dont judge until you are in our shoes. I had a friend Yell up and DOWN she would NEVER EVER have an abortion , guess where I took her .... Mindy

I think it depends on the doc. I wanted my tubes tied at age 25 in 2001 in Texas . The doctor i had told me he would not do it. I asked him why , He said " My age requirement is 25, which you meet, however I do not feel you have been married long enough ( I had been married a yr ) and I feel you might change your mind , Since my husband didnt agree with my getting my tubes tied he REALLY wouldnt do it ." So my doctor took MY CHOICE AWAY FROM ME. I was 25 and had 2 children. But when I asked him " Would YOU Snip my husband he said Well YEAH " . Mindy

I currently Do not have health insurance and I am in the process of getting it. Since we are self employed we have to get private health insurance. Ok ...private health insuracne WONT Cover WLS, its 3Xs as much as group insurance and the covereage is WORSE. The policy we are getting becasue fo the price and it actually has pretty good coverage... They wont me to have my OWN Policy , its cheaper that way . Ya know why ? Because im OBSESE . Like you said they wont pay for a dietitian , WLS , Hell even a gym membership .. BUT they WILL PAY For a Tummy tuck and a boob job if i can prove its a health issue ( Which I WILL LOL) MY Policy is $160 a month, my husband and 2 boys policy combined is $220 ! GO Figure. it is a catch 22 . and a MONEY ploy on their part. I have keep Wt off for a YR to lower my premium . Its ALL ABOUT MONEY Mindy

I toatally understand how you feel. I have been overwt for 6-7 yrs. And I look at myself and think " Im one of those people I use to look at and think " HOW can someone get like that " But its ME NOW . 7 yrs ago when i met my husband I was 135 pds. Sometimes I sit and wonder HOW DOES This happen to me. I was talking to a friend of mine and I think either before i have the surgery or after the surgery for SURE I am going to go to a conselor just to make sure im 100% mentally ok . I think i might have some underlying issues ( OK I KNOW I DO ) I want to find out what caused me to eat the way i do . Or just to keep me honest I guess. I was watching Carney Wilson on the View today and she said that she's SUCH an emtional eater. But I got the picture that she hasnt changed ANYTHING when it comes to that since she had her Bypass surgery . I dont want that to be me. I hope that makes sense. Mindy

Im in a really funky place. Im going to be self pay . I know what doc im going to use , I know SO much ( i feel) about the surgery , I feel I am SO VERY VERY ready . BUT I cant go any further because Of money . We THINK That I am going to be able to get it done in December. We own our own company ( Just started it in Feb.) and its going VERY WELL. SO IF things keep going the way they are now and IF We get paid for the job we started In December I'll be able to have it. BUT I wont know until December comes. In the mean time im still busting my ass cleaning houses just in case. So im a bit depressed. OR I should say I get a bit depressed. Some days I feel like " Its SO CLOSE" Other days I feel " Its SO FAR away " Someday I have to stay away from my lap band boards and friends because its too depressing for me , other days I NEED them to keep me thinking " That's going to be me soon" As for the banding itself im very excited about it because I feel like i KNOW SO much about it that I am nothing short of 1000% sure this is for ME . I know 100% this is the right descisoion for me. I just have to get there. I would feel better if i just KNEW I was having it for sure in December. I dont know maybe its better I dont know until I can start my pre op stuff .I think the anxiety and anxiousness alone would give me an ulcer LOL thanks for listening Mindy:eek::help:

Sorry I was wrong Kind of lol ,,,,, I read up on it more and I guess its now being prescribed as a mood stabalizer.It is technically an Antiseizure med . Learn something new everyday . My bad. I did find this as well . http://bipolar.about.com/cs/topamax/a/0209_topmigrain.htm HTH Mindy

Topamax is acutally an antiseizure med that is also used to prevent migraines. I have not heard of it being used to treat BP or a mood stabalizer. http://www.healthsquare.com/newrx/top1541.htm I am on topamax for migraine prevention and after 11 yrs of preventatives not working its the first one that has worked. It does however make me feel " dumb down" or it can I should say . My new neuro suggested that I take 25 mg in the morning and 75 mg at night before I go to bed. And that REALLY helped the "dumb" feeling. some call topamax dopamax lol If you do not have migraines or seizures I would REALLY question why you were put on topamax. I notice no side affects of wt gain. The side affects I Do have from topamax( and there can be MANY ) are numbness in my hands and the bottom of my feet , one side of my face will go numb and the ding bat syndrome as i call it . The numbness is short lived ( about 20 mintues coming and going ) I however choose to live with them , its either that or having migraines 4-5 times a week. Im also on Wellbutrin for Depression associated with my chronic migraines. All I have to say about that is LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT. NO Side affects . In fact sometimes i have to REMEBER To eat because it does have an appeite supressant in it. Oh wait that might be from the topamax LOL Granted meds affect everyone differently but everyone I know who's been on effexor has gained lots of wt. A friend of mines son was on it for 4 months and gained 75 pds before I told her ' Take him off that he's going to die " The doc had no CLUE what he was doing . She saw nothing wrong with him gaining 40 pds in 2 months ( he's 11) BeecheeGirl , I totally understand your frustration , The only thing i Can recommend because i went through it with trying to get the right combaination of meds for my migraines is keep trying. If your not happy with your doc , get another one , its VERY important you find a doc that will listen to YOU and YOUR Concerns. HTH Mindy

Very well said. I know in my situation I get enough people judging me in my own family for this descsion , I need all the support i can get. Mindy:clap2:

Ok here's something . How many of you are already planning have Plastic surgery AFTER The lap band ? I already know i need a tummy tuck and a breast lift after 2 kids by age 31 ( First one at 16) . SO Im already going to start saving after my surgery for my PS ? Anyone else have that mind set ? LOL Mindy