my sister was not on board with my decsion either in fact when it came down to it i didnt even tell her my exact surgery day until a fwe days before. i didnt want to hear the judgement. i believe this is why is see alot of plp keep their surgerys quiet for thesame reason...not to feel judjes even by our sisters sorry your going thru this but i know this is the best decsion i have made i am three weeks out and down 20 pounds more,,,love my sleeve