My co-workers were my best support. As far as my husband I sat him down told him what was going to happen to me if I did not have the surgery. I explained I wanted to live a long healthy life and unless I got the weight off that was not going to happen. I did not want him to say no you do not need it. And as far as any one else if they don't have anything nice to say they should not say anything, especailly if they have never had to deal with a weight issue, and trying to lose it.