Hi. where you overweight when you married her? Do you feel that you settled and now that you have your options, you no longer feel that "need" for her?
I am trying to look at this from your side and her side.
I have been on her side where after I gave birth to my daughter, my husband said that i was fat..i was a "great" person and deserved to be really loved. It hurt like a Mother F*er. But now that i am almost 2 years out of that relationship and loosing weight and feel better and better about myself i realized that when I got together with him and settled (eventhough I grew to love him because I kinda had to as a wife) most of my love came from settling. I didn't think I would be able to find another guy who cared for me as he did. (he was very much into me when we met eventhought i was overweight). But yeah, I loved him bc he was my husband and i settled. I think that if i was still married to him, I would take have of the crap he put me through and would have fallen out of love with him as well because I actually would feel better about myself and love myself enough to realize that.
This might be two different stories but what i am saying is that i kind of understand where you are coming from. However, I do believe that she stuck with you through thick and thin and i don't know what kind of relationship you had with her before this, but i agree with the prior post that it sounds like you already made up your mind and that is why the counseling is not working. There must have been something that you loved about her and maybe she is in a rut and as her husband, her best friend, her life companion, you should help her get out of that and be as happy as you are now.
No judgment here :biggrin: you have to do what you have to do but don't forget that you are not the only person in this relationship and what you decide will effect her life as well. I believe that marriage is a life time commitment unless you are physically and mentally abused. and i also believe that if you really want to - you can make this a great marriage but I have a feeling you don't as you are probably not used to the attention from other woman and now catching up with the lost time.
Good luck :laugh:
Stacy