Saira,
If 0 is not hot and 10 is the hottest, I eat up to a 7 since my banding 13 months ago. BUT I haven't eaten whole hot peppers (cooked or otherwise) because I am a little worried about what they might do to my slowed digestive system. So the spice is either from ground hot pepper in the curry or whole pepper cooked with it - and I just leave it on my plate. Eventually, I may give whole pepper a try, but not now. If I do eat whole pepper, I'll be sure there are no pepper seeds for reasons which you can understand.
Although I am not Indian, I find Indian food very band-friendly but I just eat small, small amounts as a bandster. I live in the Middle East (Abu Dhabi), so the Indian food is the real thing and I assume that Indian and Pakistani food are similar.
Hope this helps!
Kando