I'd lke to thank everyone for thier opinions but especially those that understand that some relationships are difficult. Everyone that knows my husband understands completely why it is best not to tell him. My own mother says the only thing she wishes is that I had made the decision to have this surgery sooner. They are my support most of the time anyway. My mother, my aunt, my kids and my best friend. I love my husband but he doesn't need to know, it will cause him enormous amounts of stress and anxiety and, it will keep the peace in this family and that is more important to me.