im in the exact same possition as you, my weight is taking over my life. my partner is very much "when i diet i lose weight why dont you!" he doesnt understand what its like to be addicted to food, for it to take over your life. its causing problems within my relationship, i dont feel sexy, i dont want to go out in the evenings/weekends, the thought of going on holiday and wearing a bathing suit horrifies me! im currently looking into getting the band, i feel its my only hope of having a happy life!