Hello, I'm so sorry to hear about your dear friend. I will keep you, your families in my prayers. I too lost my sister (only 30 years old) on March 1st, 2010. I'm still in denial and I DEFINATELY am tigther with all the stress and overload of emotions. At times I'm frustrated with my band, b/c I can't "eat" to feel better. But I'm hanging in there and I'm still exercising and watching what I eat. I find foods that work with my band. I'm not eating really bad things, but I try to eat what I can and what I like. Hang in there. Time will heal our pain..but it will never compeltely take it away. Best of luck to you on this journey!