VABandster

Hey Ladies....Thank you sooooooo much for all the support! I kind of fell off the face of the earth for the past few days, but I'm back. Still pretty depressed about all that has happened....but really trying to keep the faith and know that I will hopefully end up in a better place work wise and man wise! BK...I'm so sorry to hear about your foster kids! I can't even imagine how difficult that must be! BMAN....I'm sure you had FUN But just be careful to protect that heart. Sounds like a similar situation to the one I was in w/the guy I'm triyng to get OUT of my life! But I know what you mean about that damn libido! ugh...sucks being single in your prime! lol YEAH on the Size 4s btw!!! That's ROCKIN!!! Brandy....You HOT Mamma you...gettin hit on in the store! You GO GIRL! Transformer...thanks for the b.day wishes and Welcome Back!! I've been to the US VI and it was BEAUTIFUL there! i'd love to go back, but no way I'm going now since I have no job! LOL...but if you can swing it, I"d highly recommend it! Kaydot...welcome back to you too!!! Thanks for the words of support...it is so much appreciated from all of you!! ITs so nice to know I can come here and vent and like Bman said, get an objective opinion and not be judged. I saw something on TV today w/Bob Greene (Oprahs trainer) and he said that in times of stress...no matter what you do, you gain weight b/c your body is producing some chemical (can't remember what it's called)...UGH! Didn't need to hear that!

Hey Ladies....just cominging in to post b/c I need even more support now :-( In addition to my 'man' problems......I just got laid off from my job this morning and only am getting 30 days of severance. So I'm freaking out b/c I don't want to have to dip into my savings and I really just can't afford to be unemployed. I have a mortgage, car payment, kids to feed, insurnace, ugh.....I just want to crawl into a hole and sleep forever!! And tomorrow is my b.day....happy Friggin b.day to me :-( I feel like I've been such a downer in here lately but it just seems that nothing is going right lately!

SWEETHOT...thanks for the link! I may have to invest in some! That and a good sports Bra! LOL Congrats on running a mile! That is awesome!! You are right...he's NOT my best friend. He is scum. Our friendship is completely over now and I will likely never speak to him again, except cordially in passing. Sucks. The man I thought I knew is not who he is now :-( Oh well. Time to move on. STEPH....i'm angry...SOOO angry that he is such a jackass and that he is a complete phony and fake! But I'm also so incredibly hurt by the things he did to me, but I know I will move on. I know I deserve way better than him! Thanks to all of you ladies for being so supportive!! Its so nice to know that I can come here and vent! you all ROCK!!!

{{{{{{BRANDY}}}}} You absolutely should NOT be hating yourself!! You are a wonderful, beautiful, strong woman!! Hang in there sweetie....you know we're here for you! As for me...well, had my party on Sat. The jackass brought his new GF w/him but didn't even have the courtesy to tell me he was bringing her, so I was totally caught off guard. Not very nice. Anyways, now there is all this drama b/c the GF found out from a friend of mine that something happened between us in CA so she dumped Him yesterday, but then took him back and is supposedly giving him a second chance (b/c he didn't tell her the WHOLE truth about what happened, but my friend has since set her straight, so who knows what will happen next!)..now it's all a big mess! And in the process I've lost a best friend and that's whats most depressing of all. But I wonder if I ever really knew him b/c he doesn't seem to be acting the way I knew him to act. Oh well, i guess its neither here nor there....I just need to figure out how to move onwards w/my life w/out him in it. UGH....and then we had a potluck at lunch today and I was a complete PIG!!! Talk about stress eating! UGH.... Anyways, I'm not doing great eating wise......but am really trying to get myself back on track, but this emotional rollercoaster has thrown me for a loop! Some moments I'm angry, some I'm sad, some I'm like "F you, I'm movin on"....UGH!!! Seriously....MEN...can't live with 'em, can't live w/out 'em!!! Are there ANY Decent guys left out there??? I'm seriously beginning to wonder. BMAN....Glad to hear you're back on track!! SWEETHOt.....Do you have a link or something to the underarmour shorts you wear?? I'd love to check them out b/c the jiggling thing is part of the reason I don't run either! (thanks Steph for bringing it up!) :car: STEPH...glad to hear you're back on track too!! YOU GO GIRl!! JILL....step away from the chinese food ! I don't know how you eat it b/c that is one thing that I just seem to have a really hard time getting down no matter what so I think I've only had it 2x since December! Hang in there and hopefully you've gotten it out of your 'system' for a while. Remember that all that sodium also makes you retain water so drink lots to get it out of your system. BK....congrats on your NSV!! That is awesome! :Banane20: Ok, I think I'm caught up....will catch you hot Ladies Later! :Banane20:

CLAUD...thanks soo much for the kind words!!! I'm sure I'll have fun tomorrow, although I almost wish 'that guy' wasn't going to be there b/c I'm just going to feel weird and not know how to act around him, but I know my other friends will be there to support me! Sorry I didn't get a chance to drive down and meet you in SD! Next time I'm out in CA, I will! Thanks for the B.day wishes Brandy! My actual B.day isn't until Thurs...the party is just tomorrow! :scared: Funny that you're loving being alone...and I'm wishing that I wasn't! UGH.....oh well. Hope you all have a good weekend!

Jill...Be GLAD you have a boring life! I hate the drama in mine sometimes!!! I would like to be down 80 pounds by my 1 yr bandiversary...which means I have about 22 more pounds to go.....hopefully I can do it! It doesn't seem like that much, but my weight loss has gotten so slow, we'll see. I'd be happy w/70 though. We'll see! My B.day party is tomorrow and it will be the first time I'll be seeing and talking to 'the guy' since CA, so THAT should be interesting! Especially since there will be 20 other people there (but not his new GF, thank God!). I'll be sure to report back in! Have a great weekend ladies!

STEPH...glad to hear you're feeling better! Hopefully now you can eat breakfast?? You know...thinking about your ex SIL..she had GB in Jan...we had the Band in Dec. She's lost 80 pounds, I've lost almost 60...really we're not that far off, except we did it safer!! I'm so greatful that I got my band and not GP! BK...thanks for the kind words....I know you're right! I guess I'm just sick and tired of being lonely, and all my friends are getting into relationships right now and that just makes me feel even more lonely. Glad to hear you're on track w/the no snacking! Yesterday I felt like I ate all day long and my scale showed it this AM I need to get back on track! I'm going to try and get on my elliptical this weekend. 'that guy" is actually throwing me a really awesome b.day party this weekend (which is why its hard to hate him sometimes!)...so its going to be weird seeing him since I won't really have talked to him or seen him since our trip and there will be about 20 other people there! should be interesting! SWEETHOT...wow...sounds like you're really gonna get into shape w/those soccer workouts!! YOU GO GIRL!! BMAN....Wow...I had no idea you were such a rock star! have you met lots of famous people in your travels?? I love that you're getting your music and freedom back!! YEAH for you!!!

Brandi!!! Welcome Back Girl!!! Sounds like you and me are both in the same boat when it comes to Asshole men!! They all suck! But at least you got some attention from some other guys, that rocks! Can't wait to hear more stories! :girl_hug: Glad you had a good vacation!

SweetHot....very cool that you joined a soccer league! I haven't played since I was in School...hope it helps that scale start moving again! Steph...I sent you a PM w/your yahoo name, so you should have it now. Yep...its his loss, but mine too, but I'm not going to dwell on it. Hopefully the right guy is out there and I'll find him some day sooner rather than later! Cause I'm really sick and tired of these duds LOL. And I have no idea what is up w/my Ex grounding my son for exercising. It may just be jealousy that he doesn't have nearly the body that my son has! lmao! Who knows....now you have an idea as to why we're divorced! Kay...good for you for doing all that walking!! you go girl!!

Hey Ladies! Boo...glad to hear your daughter is doing better! I just got an email from my older son saying his Dad has grounded him for exercising too much! Gimme a break! He says he's depressed and can't wait to come back to my place. I feel helpless, but am also grateful that he can share his feelings w/me....*sigh*...being a parent is rough! Just got back from my trip to CA...we got bumped off our flight last night (and got free round trip tickets and hotel stay last night), so got home later than expected. It was a nice weekend, we went to a lot of wineries and a very cute small town that had a lot of tasting rooms. He told me he was glad I went, and of course even though he was texting the other chick and calling her most of the weekend, he was also very lovey dovey to me on Sat. night, so he messed w/my head, but I know that now it's over. I'm home and back in the "real world" and he can have her and I'm done w/him. Time for me to move onwards and upwards! I'm ok for the most part, although still a bit hurt and sad, but I guess time heals...right?? Anyways...I'll write more later, need to go catch up on stuff!

Brandy...You are a GREAT Mom!!! Unfortunately BiPolar is not something you can control externally...no matter how hard you try, your daughter will have those feelings. But you are doing the right thing by getting her professional help and just being there for her. Don't be so hard on yourself! (easier said than done...I KNOW!!! cause I'm about to beat up on myself in a minute LOL). As for the steroids.....just know that as soon as you're done with them, your eating will be back under control. Hang in there!! As for everything happening for a reason...WELL.....I AM going to go to CA w/the guy after all! He called me last night and told me he really wants me to go with him but ONLY AS A FRIEND. Now that part is going to be hard for me, but I am going to have to learn to accept it b/c he's dating this other chick (who is not thrilled that I'm going, but not my problem!). But its so down to the wire (my flight is at 7am tomorrow!) that I just said F' it...I'm heartbroken either way...this may be the last chance I get to spend time w/him before he disappears into Girlfriend-land....and it's CA wine country, which I've never been to! I've got the ticket, and really, how much worse can I feel than I already do!? I know that when I get back on Sunday, that's it...I'm walking away. He says he still wants me in his life, etc...but I'm sure he'll be way too busy w/the new GF to bother w/me. SO yes...I know this is probably a STUPID and UNHEALTHYthing for me to do, but I'm doing it anyways...I've got counseling next Thursday so I'll work on picking up the pieces then! If everything does happen for a reason, then there is some reason for this weekend too. KAYDOt...glad to hear your scale JUMPED!! That is always a great feeling to see that happen..and yes, its definitely possible!! Way to go!!! STEPH...just remember slow and steady wins the race!! You're doing good! I'm right there with ya girl!! Ok ladies...wish me luck this weekend...hope that I don't lose my mind and that when I get home I can let him go once and for all and move on to something bigger and better, because DAMMIT...THATS WHAT I DESERVE!!! He's sooooo loosing out!!! MUHWAAA HA HA HA!!!!

{{{{{{{KAYDOLL AND STPEH}}}}}}} Seriously, what would I do w/out you!!!?? You guys always know just the right thing to say. Of course it doesn't help that it made me cry in the office, but oh well, everything seems to be doing that to me today! Thanks for the words of support and encouragement!! I definitely needed them!! and to answer your question Kaydoll....I know I deserve the best, and I just thought he was the best, but clearly not. His loss though, right?? Kuebel...sorry to hear you didn't get the fill, but I'm sure everything will be fine tomorrow under the xray. Hang in there! The Dr. is right..it didn't come on in a day, it won't come off in a day...as long as your slowly losing, you're moving in the right direction! YOU GUYS ROCK!! Thanks for letting me come here and wallow :tea:

STEPH....good to see you back posting. sorry to hear about your DHs friend! that totally sucks. BOO....hope you're feeling better. Well, i've gotta say, depression and heartbreak is great for weight loss! I'm only 3 pounds away from my 60 pound b.day goal (b.day on the 23rd), and it looks like I might actually get there! Bad news is, it looks like I'm not going to CA this weekend w/the guy b/c he's more interested in some other chick. Feels like my Ex husband leaving me for someone else all over again.....it sucks. So I'll spend the weekend mostly in bed I'm guessing...just b/c being depressed is so exhausting. Then I told my best friend that she has to kick my ass next week. I figure I'll allow myself a few days of 'wallowing' then I have to pull my s**T together and move on. I know there are other fish in the sea....I just really loved this one :-(

GurlyGirl....I don't post here often, just cause you guys move way too fast for me! But I had my surgery on a Friday and flew home on Sunday. I was a little uncomfortable, but able to get around. the hardest part was getting up and down from the sitting position, as long as I didn't have to do that too much, i was fine. I also kept the patch on my ear for like 4 days b/c I didn't want to have to have the suppositories! lol.....but I was lucky, I had no naseau at all after! Good luck to you!

KAY!!!!! Welcome back Girl!!! We Missed you!!!!! Don't worry about not being a model bandster...None of us here are perfect!! I certainly haven't been a model bandster either...which Is why I'm trying to make a point of posting more often too. Glad you're back and hope you'll post more!! Hang in there!

Nikki...Congratulations on your Bandy Baby!! I'm so excitied for you! Kubel...how'd the fill go? Boo...so sorry to hear about the cysts! :-( I hope you feel better soon!! BK...glad to hear you're doing well and not snacking! YAY!! Sweethot....Hope your hubby is recovering well! Claud....glad to hear you're still moving forward w/your move to Chicago! I'll definitely say a prayer for you that you get the job!! My scale is moving again, slowly but surely!! Not sure what I'm doing differently (other than being completely depressed about this Guy which makes my stomach occasionally churn), but I'll take it!! I go to CA w/this guy on CA, but I have a feeling it's not going to be the romantic getaway I'd hoped we'd have, but more of a friends only thing...:-( Oh well....it'll still be fun to get to the CA wineries. Hope you all have a great week!

BOO.....I'm hooked! I love what I've read so far...can't wait to see more!

STEPH....you are so inspirational!! Thank you for posting some positive thoughts today..I needed them!! Yes, i am planning on having a great time in CA next weekend, and then I will have a great memory but I will drop him so he can go see how 'wonderful' that other chick is before coming crawling back to me! lol NIKKI....one of my coworkers was about to sign a lease to move out of her home and leave her husband yesterday, but decided otherwise and is going to counseling. She figures this way she can say she gave it her all and if it doesn't work, then she can still move out in 1, 2, 3, or 6 months from now knowing that she gave it everything....so maybe you should think about trying that, especially b/c of the kids? Just a thought..... BNANNIe...welcome back Now Where's NAT?? Anyone message her and tell her she's a punk for not posting??

BOO...HAPPY BANDIVERSARY!!!! You know....I was reading in the news yesterday that Star Jones is finally admitting she had the Gastric Bypass and one of the articles said something how how she "lost 160 pounds in 3 years"...well, look at you!!! You're down 120 in ONE YEAR! And you did it in a WAY more healthy way than she did!!! YOU ROCK GIRL!!! Congratulations!!! BMAN...seriously!?? You are the EXERCISE QUEEN!!!! If I could exercise 1/2 as much as you do I'd probably be at goal weight by now! LOL Maybe I will torture myself when I get back from my trip from CA and need to distance myself from "the man".... that would be a great way for me to work out a broken heart (since I'm assuming that's whats gonna happen, although I suppose I could be shocked and surprised at a different outcome!). NIK.....HUGS Honey.....please feel free to write whatever you want here..you know we'll all support you no matter what!! We've all had hard times deciding what to do about men in our lives! We've been there, done that...and know that it's not easy and sometimes you make the right choice, and some times you don't (at first!) But we're here for you!! Hang in there!!!

Hey Gang!!! Haven't checked in in a while, and so I thought I'd come and report in. But first of all....a BIG HUGS to all of you Bman, Nikki and Claud, who are all dealing w/some heavy stuff. I'm sooo with you on the Men Issues!!! The guy I'm going to CA with is so messed in the head! one minute telling me he loves me, the next telling me how he wants to date this other girl! UGH....things are going to have to get settled in CA b/c I just can't take the back and forth anymore! NIKKI.....I say get rid of the guy! Even if he hasn't physically cheated on you, he's emotionally cheating on you and that's just as bad! Hang in there honey, we'll be here for you no matter what!!! BMAN...do you realize you just lost a TON Of weight when that divorce went through?? About 100 someodd pounds of EX Husband! Now you can really start living your life for YOU! So funny thing is my best friend is in town visiting so I gave her my room to sleep in and haven't been able to weigh myself every day like I usually do. Feel like I've been eating a ton, but finally stepped on the scale yesterday and it was down a few pounds!!?? I don't know what it is, but it seems like when I stop thinking about food so much and stop weighing myself....I LOSE! Its weird! Congrats to BOO for being a Skinny Beyotch! You GO GIRL!! Ok, will try to catch up on more later...gotta run!!

Hey Ladies, just checking in! I tried a boxing class last night and omg did it kick my ass!!! For some reason my neck was sore today so I had to go see my chiropractor to see if he could help me work it out!! Work sucks these days...I'm totally stressed that I might lose my job (Again...got laid off in Nov!).... Men are strange as usual...going to CA for a weekend w/my guy FRIEND so that should be interesting! We leave in 3 weeks! Did I tell you that the lady at the grocery store commented on my weight loss a few weeks ago?? she said "you've lost a LOT of weight, huh?" :eek: That was cool to hear! STEPH...sorry to hear about your fill (or lack thereof), but it sounds like you got the kick you needed! now if you could pass that along to me, I'd appreciate it! BMAN.....congrats on the awesome ride!! Hope you're feeling better! NAT...good to see you posting!! I know the feeling of being stressed out, but we're here for you!!! (HUGS) Ok...I'm off to hang w/my boys. On sunday they go to their Dads for a month....I'm looking forward to the break!

STEPH!!! Congrats to your son for getting a Tap Out on his cage match!! I know all about that stuff b/c my older son is really into the UFC, Ju jitsu and wrestling too! I know what you mean about the out of control eating....although I definitely have restriction, b/c things have come back to kick my ass, I am still not eating a truely bandster way, and I know that....need to get back on track!! BMAN...wow...sounds like you had an INCREDIBLE weekend w/the new guy!!!I really hope it continues to go this well for you!! And don't you know its when you go AWAY on a mini vacation that the scale finally moves!?? Thats' what happened for me too!! Too weird!! Bandiva!! You are ROCKIN Girl!!! Keep up the good work!! CLAUD...How was the date!?? We want DETAILS Girl! BK....Did you get your fill? How did it go?? Soo good to see us all coming back here and re energizing and checkin in!!!

Bnannie....sorry to hear about the friends thing....I know how it can be. You should totally check out Meetup: World's largest community of local Meetups, clubs and groups!! They have groups in every areas of the US for pretty much every type of interest! So if you want to meet people to go hiking with, look for a hiking group near you, or walking or biking or book club, or whatever! It's a great way to meet new people and make new friends! Ok.....yes, I'm an organizer of a few meetup groups, but I have to tell you, it's been a godsend to my social life! Where I used to have NO LIFE....I now have to start saying NO b/c I'm too exhausted to go out all the time! BOO...can't wait to see part of your book! :)Glad to hear it's moving along!

MrsLance....Welcome! I'm didn't even know there were different settings you could have on here, so I'm afraid I'm no help there. As for the scale, you DO know that your weight fluctuates during the day no matter what right?? I try to only weigh first thing in the AM, after i've peed, and am still naked. ALWAYS. That way I know the readings are as consistent as they're gonna be.....BUT...having said that, you always have to factor in what you've eaten the day before, if you're PMSing, and all that other lovely stuff! BMAn....sorry to hear about the boob shrinkage! That is the one place I want to keep from getting smaller, but I guess we have no say in the matter really...it's all up to our genetics! HANG IN THERE!!! Just keep doing what you're doing and one day you'll hop on that scale and 10 pounds will just *POOF* BE GONE!

STEPH!!!!! Welcome Back!!!! so good to see you posting...and i'm glad you had a great vacation! Wow Boo and BMan, you guys are smart!! I hadn't even thought about needing an UNFill in this situation!!! I was thinking that maybe Steph just needed to eat the good stuff more slowly, and chew better! BMan, that is awesome about your license!! Luckily in VA you don't have to put your weight on your license! I'm QUITE happy about that! lol Boo....how is the book coming along?? Are you making progress? Well, I"m still in a funk over a man (stupid I know), but I've made an appt. to talk to a counselor about it and hopefully work it out. My best friend is coming to visit next week and I need to be in a better place mentally! Hope you're all doing well!