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Kimmason- Don't feel bad, I am 5'9 and just got down from 350! So I know how you feel!

They told me the same thing. No smoking. Plus, they also said (my dr) that I have to do this balloon thing, where I get 30 of those small party balloons and blow them up every day. It is supposed to increase your lunch capacity. LUNG capacity. I just thought it was funny that I subconciously typed Lunch. :huggie:

That has never even crossed my mind! I KNOW that I don't do it, because I have to fight to not go eat the entire chocolate cake I walked past about 4,000,000 times at teh store yesterday. This band has made me sooooo hopeful, and I can't wait. I am counting down the days! Although it does help that the day before my band is the last day for my summer job, so on the same day I leave it, I leave for Mexico to get the band! I have been working for 24 hours a day, 5 days a week since the end of May. granted, from 10pm-6am I do get to sleep, but I am still "on the clock" if anything happens. I can't decide if I am more excited about getting the band, or just about going to Mexico for 4 days. :biggrin1:

we did a south beach sorta diet for the last couple of weeks, and now we are doing liquids all day, and then chicken or fish for dinner. we will be changing to full liquids next week, but we need to ease into it. :tea: So far I have lost like 14 lbs over the last 3 weeks, which I am super happy about. It is close folks, we can do it!!!!!! Oh, and we are cleaning, cleaning cleaning. We went through all of our clothes the other day and put them into bins/bags by size, so it is like christmas when we hit a new size! Merry Christmas, all of your clothes. The sad thing is that I only have 4 pairs of pants that fit me, and I can't wait to get rid of them!!!

My dad mentioned this the other day "Is SamantherSue getting surgery too?" (heh, that rhymed) So, I am excited for her to be getting out. We don't walk her enough, so I started warning her the other day "soooon, we will be outside walking and losing weight, and you will too". Poor dog, she has gotten so used to being a couch dog, this is going to be the shock of her life.

I want to go get another "family" picture in a year, since we are leaving the house and the boys...sigh. But I think it would be fun to have the "fat family" and "slimmer family" pictures. I tried my hand at glamour shots ONCE. I am not the most, um, feminine of all people, and they tarted me up so i looked like a hooker!!!! I looked like a football player in drag. All of those pictures have since been burned, like, 2 minutes after I got them.

I just recently got a number weight for the first time in a long time. It is so nice to know that I no longer weigh Error. I haven't had my band yet, and have been doing this HORRIBLE liquid diet that I hate. But I am losing weight, and I know that the surgery has much less complications if you shrink your liver. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!! If I can, you can. Keep your head up!

Maybe it is a Guiness Record attempt "Most people on a dildo"

:faint: WOW.:faint: Look at all those people on that dildo! That is impressive!

ohhhh, funny, I am so jealous of your daughter (and you) with your beautiful hair! I was raised by a red-head, and my step-mom was a red head, and I always wished I was.

I think that Funny's statement about how sad it is to see how many people think that marriage is something that you can just wander in and out of. I have only been married once, (mostly because Canada only started offering same-sex marriage recently) but my ex I was with for six years and I had as close to a marriage as you can get. When I knew that the relationship was close to ending, we went to therapy, we talked and talked, and then finally the therapist said "you know, you both want to be done, just realize that sometimes relationships don't work". And then we decided (well, 2 months later) that we had tried everything and that it wasn't going to work. It suprised me how many people said "If you knew it wasn't going to work, why did you try? Why not just leave?" :faint: Because I said I would stay with her, even if she was developing relationships that weren't appropriate. (that is why I finally left, because she wasn't willing to give up her "best friend" who is now her partner). Anyway, when Erin and I went up to BC and got married, we knew it wasn't legal in the states, nor would it be for a long time if ever. But it was important to both of us, because for us, marriage means something. It means that you work out issues, you don't cheat, you don't lie, etc. I am amazed by people who (not here but in general conversations) say they will get married and if it doesn't work, well, they can just divorce. Ending a marriage should take time, months if not years. (Obvious exceptions, abuse or cheating, then I would leave that day) Faith/religion or not, people are not treating relationships/marriages with the respect they deserve.

In the house I work in (and live in), we were going to get a new client who was severely obese and had uncontrolled diabetes. His blood sugar was NORMALLY around 450. His parents came in as we were having all of these pre-move in meetings, and told us that they wanted us to change his eating habits, but we needed to watch him because he drank soda and ate candy all the time. So I asked who took him out shopping. Of course, the parents did, and "we can't control what he buys". All I could think was, "why not?" He was high functioning, but still delayed and needed some guidance. It was like no one would pay attention to him, and when I asked him if he drank diet soda, he said he did sometimes, but everyone bought him regular soda. So because of his parents basic unwillingness to tell him no, he was over 400 lbs and in and out of the hospital with diabetes related illness. He decided not to move into our house, and moved somewhere else. Which I am happy about, as I didn't want to wake up one morning to a dead man because his sugar spiked from the food his parents brought him.

What great looking families! Everyone has such cute kids! And nice looking husbands and selves too! I am learning American Sign Language (ASL), and the boys know some. We have a Deaf staff member, and she seems to get the boys to do more than us loud hearing people...I don't know if that is because of her personality or the sign. We sign with them a lot...almost all of our staff sign. (MY SOAPBOX) Studies show that babies who learn sign language are more able to pick up on spoken language when they are older. They have better communication, and can begin to communicate in sign from the age of six months. Not to mention that the Deaf have a rich culture and history, and learning sign opens up so many friendships with AMAZING people! Ok, off my box now. If anyone (ANYONE) wants more information about ASL PM me. I am happy to spread the word.

From a lot of the stuff I have read, they include things like PBing and such as complications. they are considered "mild" complications, but they include them in the statistics.

I had those same conversations! It was amazing to me that someone who "loved" me could do that. I also agree with the person who said that most people know it is happening, even if they don't want to admit it. I would never think to ask my spouse now if she was cheating, I know she isn't. I think that the first time that a REAL doubt comes across your mind, you should start checking.

Oh, just in case....I forget sometimes that people don't have a sense of humor about people with disabilities, and I want to be sure people don't think that I am any way making fun of my boys. I am so proud of this picture, because although it may look strange, when we started working with them almost exactly a year ago, this picture would not have happened. because they were so out of control. So this picture is proof that with love and A LOT of work, that anyone can do anything. Even if it something as simple as sitting down for a family picture.

My first "spouse" cheated on me from the moment we were together, and I blame a lot of my weight gain on her. I am an emotional eater, and man did I eat (and cut, and drug, and everything else I could do). Then on to the next one, who after cheating with me on her ex (I was desperate, fat and stupid, what can I say) was fine for about 3 or 4 years. Then she met a woman at work that she "clicked" with. They never got physical, at least that is what they said, I am still not sure if I believe it....but I moved on, and gained more weight. Now, I am with the true love of my life, and I know that there is no cheating because when I look into her eyes, the love I see reflected there is so pure and true...I mean, it is different. Having been with two people who did cheat, I can sense the difference. I would say that my weight has a lot to do with not feeling good about myself because of the cheating. I tried to make it so that "if she cheats, and she will, it is because I am fat, I can understand that".

I think it depends on how you mean cheat. I say to my spouse all the time "OH wow, look at her, she is hot, blah blah" and she does the same to me. We both know that mentally picturing getting down and dirty is different than doing it. I think that emotional cheating, where you develop a relationship that doesn't get physical, with someone other than your spouse is more hurtful than the physical part. I have told her that if she went away to some meeting or something, got drunk and had sex with someone I would be much less hurt than if she met someone, became close and started to have a close intimate non-sexual relationship.

I am planning on going to goodwill, or salvation army, thrift stores, etc. I am not spending a lot on clothes until I am close to goal. One thing too, if you live somewhere that has a freecycle (www.freecycle.org) you can put your old clothes up to give away (it must be free) and you can see if anyone in your area has clothes to give. We just furnished a friends apartment pretty much completely with things from freecycle. Couch, dishes, tv, microwave, table, chairs, everything. check it out!

Hell, if I had one I would have it on my sig line. 350/250/170 (for the future) 6"/7"/9"

We started our liquid diet today, pretty much just slim fast and chicken broth, with some jello for fun. I am happy that we are doing this, I am so excited I can hardly wait, but man, 2+ weeks of this is going to be hard.

In my relationship now, I have not cheated, nor would I ever. I can't imagine, because I have had the crappy relationships, and know that they don't get better than this one.:love: I have 2 serious ex's one I was with for 3 years who cheated on me every time she turned around. The other I was with for 6 years, and she didn't "cheat" from the standpoint of having sex with another, but she did have a relationship with someone that wasn't really appropriate. I knew they both were cheaters when we got together, so I should have known better. I did start a friendship with someone that i had to confess to my ex, because I felt like it was becoming more than it should. She said "I don't care, at least I don't have to talk to you". Ahhh, what a winner.

I think that these feelings are normal. I was talking to a friend last night, and said that I am embarrassed that I have gotten to a weight where I am considering, much less actually having surgery. It is like I have to admit that I can't do it myself, which because I am so freaking hard headed and stubborn, is hard for me to do. Then, in the course of conversation, I said "although, it is embarrassing every day that I walk out in public looking like this". I am so excited, and am starting to realize that there is a purpose for this band, and it is getting my old life back.

I just (a couple weeks ago) got a new tat, which I love. Of course, my digital camera died the day of, so I can't show it off. Sigh. :phanvan As soon as I get a pcitre I will have to show it off, because I am so proud! It is my third, and I am already setting up for my next one. I normally get a new tat for every city I live in. I still need to get one for my hometown.

We have been doing south beachy type diet for the last two weeks, because we wanted to go down a little before the 2 weeks of liquid pre-diet we have to do. So we have been doing great, for 2 weeks, and just yesterday we decided that since on monday we start the 2 weeks of liquid, so what the hell, lets have frozen custard. oops, that was bad. Do I learn my lesson??? Nope, tonight was 1/4 lbers with cheese, fries and a shake. My body is so pissed at me. Last night I woke up and had, um, problems of the gassy nature, and then tonight I feel the same. Maybe my body is getting ready for the band, telling me that these things are for the past, and my new banded life is starting. :hungry: :hungry: EQUALS :sick :sick