Cheating destroys more than marriages--it kills the soul. After 20 years of being single (why would I put myself though hell again?) and raising my child alone, I still hurt every day for my daughter as well as for myself. My marriage was the best thing that had ever happened to me...right up until the time 12 years later that I discovered my friend liked my husband just a little too much and he is a weak sob. When he abandoned me and our child, he also abandoned "the other woman." Not to fear, he's not alone, he's now on his 4th marriage--serial monogamy my counselor called it--I call it "he needs to be shot." :angry