monk

Hey Florida! I live 15 miles north of the rat...Orlando. I fly out tomorrow morning for my surgery with Dr. Ortiz. I am going to use the wwwfillusa.com that Dr. Ortiz is connected with. They have a fill Dr. in Clermont, only 24 miles from me.

Thought I'd jump in here, I fly out alone tomorrow morning to San Diego also with a 2 hour layover. I'm going alone. Nothing to eat or drink when I get up as I am having my pre-op tests with Dr. Ortiz when I arrive in Mexico. The thought of no coffee is frightening.My husband has been nervous all day and has been trailing me around the house. I'm nervous and have not had much sleep the last 3 nights.I may bum his laptop just to check in while I'm down there. Does anyone know if you can use cell phones there? Eve

Hi there, I am not a shrink but I think you need to talk to someone outside your marriage to get a bit of support and prospective.Your husband sounds like a bit of a bully and sometimes this kind of treatment backfires and creates an atmosphere where you may eat to gather back some kind of control in your life. We use food to comfort ourselves. Most eating disorders have underlying issues,constant harrassment by your husband may be one of them.How long have you thought about surgery? Don't jump into it because you feel it will save your marriage. This is about YOU, not him.See if there are any groups in your area you can talk to other people with a weight problem and get some support. Keep your options open and keep learning about all of them.I am going in this Thursday for my surgery. I am doing it for ME. I am a very lucky woman with a loving supportive husband who still calls me his little girl and I'll be 50 in September. I would not be going through with it I was "terrified".My doctor is also very supportive of my decision, even with going to Mexico. He feels it will be a blessing for my health. Talk to yours, see what she/he says. Best of luck, let us all know how you are doing. Monk