Boo Boo Kitty

:confused: Congratulations hun! xoxoxoxo

Hello all... I need somewhere to vent, bitch, scream and get advice about my neighbor. My neighbor has been divorced 2 years now. And has never "hit" on me before. I wish I could still that! He lives DIRECTLY next to me. SO we are talking I scream he could hear me. Well lately he has been giving me compliments, telling me how nice I look, asked how much have I lost ect. I have been polite because he is also the Tae Kwon Do master for my daughter. His comments have gotten down right embarassing in the last few weeks and yesterday blew it right out of the Water. He approached me and clearly I could tell I was in TROUBLE. He said he had noticed I have said "things" to him lately that have put myself out there. Which I have not because first of all I am married, second of all, I am NOT the kind of person that can make comments like that. I am a very quiet person about sex. I told him no, he was mistaken and got up to leave. He followed me to my car out of the dojo (with my KIDS right there). I was very upset and uncomfotable and kept telling him to "get the hell out of here". He didn't get it. He then said "We don't have to have an affair, you can just come over". I was speechless and wanted to cry. I felt harrassed and dirty. I told him "No, that would make me just like your ex wife and I am NOT that girl". I didn't know any other way to get him away from me. My kids were 2 feet away from me and I am not even sure if they heard or not. I am mortified and have been hulled up in my house. I want to tell my husband--but let's think about that one---WE LIVE next door to him and my man is the type to go out for blood. I have no doubt that my hubby would end up in jail. PLUS he is my daughter's Tae Kwon Do master. I have no idea what to do. I want NOTHING to do with this man, want my child to have NOTHING to do with him--but there is NO WAY for me to make that happen without raising red flags. We own our home so we are no position to move..... SO what do I do now? I can not handle confrontation, so me telling him off is close to zero. Plus I am acting very strange with my husband and have no idea what to tell him. I truly feel violated. And then I am worried that he will take this out on my daughter---he already said she can't test after I turned him down, so he will go after her......

Doug (Cop friend) did make a report so there is a paper trail. I pulled my daughter out of his class and refused to let her go back. I told my husband we were just too busy for it. I hate lying but it is better than him killing someone!

I had chosen to have my cop friend have a talk with him which worked well. He says nothing to me and I say nothing to him. I do hate never telling my husband, but I think that is for the best. If he didn't live next door I would tell DH! :wink: Sorry I didn't update, I stay away from here a lot now. Too much!

:biggrin: Hey there strangers!! XOXOXOXOXO

OMG MY GIRLS!! HI!!!!!!!!! I am never on here anymore! BUT I MISS ALL OF YOU!!! Find me on Facebook! Brandy Robertson-Chase Brandi--I am sorry you are having a bad time. :biggrin:

I was banded in 2006 by Dr. Farhan. He did a great job! Hurley is a great place for support to get the band. I am so happy that he talked me out of the bypass. It was well worth the effort to get the band! I am so greatful everyday to him and his staff! Thank you!

Good for you girl! I bet you are as healthy now as a 16 year old! AND that is what really counts in the end!

@ Indigo--thank you my dear! @ Apples--I am glad to hear that I could help. You are looking great--are you at goal you tiny thing??

Thanks Cassie! You can do it too--I am no special thing! How long have you been banded? If there is any way I can help you let me know. I am happy to help anyone--but I tell it like it is the good the bad and the ugly!

I personally don't think the band is the answer for everyone. It takes hard work and dedication that some people just aren't willing to do. If someone is looking for a quick fix or any easy answer--then the band isn't for them at all. It takes the right mindset because it is easy to graze and eat around your band! I was banded in 2006 and have LOST and kept 165 pounds off, and I am not alone by any means! There are a lot of people that work very hard--and a lot that don't. But in the end it comes down to what you are willing to do to make it happen!

Hi. Don't get too excited---just checking things out. :confused:

Thanks want_so. We are working to get him regulated. It is a rough road. ...and blaze no one said anything about being crazy. Acting crazy is different.

I have a question. I want to know who else has a bipolar spouse and how do you deal with it?

I am so sorry to hear you are in pain...that is too bad. I wish the Drs could help you!

Greg Here is the link I use to do it! Surgical Weight Loss 5 Day Pouch Test Has everything you need to know!

I have had success with the 5 day test many times, when I have had unfills and needed to get back on track. I think you need to think about why you are going back to those bad habits. Is it stress? Comfort? Or just unprepaired to eat for the day and eat whatever? Those things and finding the real thing may help you get back on track! Good luck!

Apples I agree but it is very sad to have to NOT be yourself and feel guarded and fearful. The real problem is when you share with people you thought were your friends and they use against you. We are all here for support and it is hard to get support without being honest--I feel it is a catch 22. I couldn't have said this better myself. If you ever utter the words "What will happen when they get mad at me" to yourself--get out of that friendship FAST! Trust me on that one!

hehe! I would have had more than enough to share. I went from a FF to a D! My hubby still does not appreciate my loss. Go figure...

I had mine cut off... my back thanks me!

This is great! I have lost a closet full of huge ugly LB clothes. The sense that everyone in the room is laughing at me. The need to check weight requirements on things. The need to always sit on the couch. The need to say "No Mommy is too big for that" to my kids. Ugly granny pannies. AND gained much much more!

For me it took the 3rd fill where I really felt it and began to loose. Don't be discouraged, this is a process and a lifestyle change. Give your body time to adjust and get used to it! It gets better I promise! :scared2:

OH! Thanks Ann I will have to try those! Because it is cold out now it makes me sad because I can't wear my rings. I am afraid I will loose them.

I don't think it is your band you are mad at--clearly it is the lack of care you are getting! I would demand that you get the care and appointments that you need! So if you can switch Drs--ask your insurance company. You have lost a HUGE amount of weight already! Be happy! I can tell you that you never would have lost that amount without your band! You are doing great--but you deserve great care as well. Demand it!