I completely know how you're feeling. I was banded on 6/2/06 and my husband has not spoken a kind word to me since. He has been staying out all night, not calling to say he's ok. I try to talk to him about why the complete and sudden change and he tells me that he's just going through something right now. Unlike your husband, my husband is overweight and wanted to have the surgery when I did. We had a lump some of money that we came into and I chose to have surgery with my money, he bought a motorcycle. He's angry because I went through with my plans instead of cancelling as he thought I would. I give and give and give, but htis time I did something for me. I'm glad you shared becasue you never know who else is going through what you're going through unless you say so. Stay on your knees in prayer. That's what I do and I have a peace within me that even my husband's evil words can't shake.