I don't think people understand that weightloss surgery of any kind is not easy! We have to live with restrictions for the rest of our lives. For example, I watched my son eat a huge cheeseburger the other day and wanted a bite so bad! But I know what misery I would be in if I indulged. However, that urge was short lived and weighed myself the next day and had lost two pounds. The band makes up for the willpower that I lack on my own. You are definitely not a cheater because you elected to have surgery to make you a healthier person. And the difference is that while people can lose it on their own, they will likely gain it back. I think most of us on this board have done that several times. I applaud anyone who is brave enough to have surgery to make them a better person.