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I don't have any bad things to say about my surgery. I did have a lot of gas pain in my left shoulder, but that was about it. There was the person who had surgery after me. He or she was rolled back moaning very loud. I felt for the person.

I know you weren't talking about me. The man wasn't prevented from going to church, he was prevented from being alone in the church. If he truly realized the errors and wanted to make a change he would have accepted the limitations put on him as his pennance until he earned the trust of the congregation. Put yourself in a parent's shoes for one moment. How comfortable would you be having a pedophile in your congregation? Wouldn't you want to know his whereabouts at all times? Wouldn't you want to know that he was being watched? Just because I may be christian and so are those church members doesn't mean we check our intelligence at the door. He doesn't get to be trusted automatically because he starts to go to church, he earns it back. And the statement by Patty that he ended up leaving the church to go to another just goes to show that he probably wasn't on the "up and up."

There is a difference between forgiving and ignoring. I was abused as a child and HATED the person who did it to me. I couldn't forgive him for what he had done to me. Guess who I was hurting through all that......me and only me. He didn't care if I hated him, didn't forgive him, and so on. On the other hand though, I was angry, bitter, felt worthless, etc. It wasn't until that I couldn forgive him that I could let go of all that and move on with my life. I was finally able to stop being the victim. But that doesn't mean I will ever forget what he did to me. And therefore I would also need to protect other children if I could. I no longer live in the same city as him and have no way of keeping up with his doings. If I did and I knew he was purposefully putting himself in places where young children are going to be, I would want to protect them. It has nothing to do whether or not I forgave him, but more of protecting innocent children. I could never live with myself if I could have done something and choose not to do it. Remember pedophiles rarely stop what they do, no matter what they say. Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you now have the right to overlook their actions and ignore them.

I don't think that anybody on here thinks MJ's death is good, just that we don't get the idolization of him now that he is gone. He left behind parents, siblings, and children who did love him and who miss him terribly. I do feel for them on their loss. What I don't get is how people can defend what he did because a. he was an entertainer b. we don't know what he thought. c. because his childhood was stolen and he hadn't grown up yet. etc, etc. I had my childhood stolen too (abuse) and you don't see me sleeping with other people's children, naked, in a private room, and telling the world how "innocent" it was. I would get my butt locked up in jail for the rest of my life. MJ got a televised interview and people had sympathy for him because of what he went through growing up. Puh-leeze. If that was the case, every person who abused children could get away with it because "it happened to me and therefore I couldn't control my actions." Everybody is responsible for their actions, no matter what. We all make choices in life, some good, some bad. What we can't do is put the responsibilty for our choices on someone or something else.

There is video of him dangling his child over the balcony and it was played over and over again. MJ's own statements in interviews is where a lot of our opinions come from. No sane/normal person sleeps in bed with children that are not theirs and those same children can describe their genitalia in accurate detail. It is not "innocent." It is perverted and wrong. He may have been a great artist (personal opinions), he may have been a great philanthropist (fact), but it doesn't take away from the perception/fact (who knows) that he hurt children. I liked his music 20 years ago, but once he became "Whacko Jacko" I couldn't in good conscience like his music, let alone buy it. To do so would be to support what he was doing and condone it.

I was an IDIOT! I had my surgery on a Tuesday, went back to work on Thursday. I teach and only had a few days left at that point. I also had a class that night and needed to go to it. Needless to say that Friday I had to call in sick because there was no way I could get out of bed. I had so many people tell me on Thursday how horrible I looked and that I needed to go home. Sitting in a desk chair was extremely painful, I couldn't ever get comfortable. By Monday though I felt 1000 times better and could function at work quite well. If you take those 4 days and do nothing but rest, and you are a fast healer, then you should be fine by Monday for office work.

I had the same thing and at my first fill the PA said I could clip them with fingernail clippers. I would still call your Dr. though to see what they would like to do.

I had my first fill on June 8th. I went out to dinner last night and had my first experience of being stuck. I thought I was going to die. It passed w/in 5 minutes, I was lucky, but I never want to feel like that again. This just goes to reinforce what every person here and every Dr. has said....small bites and chew, chew, chew. I thought I did that, but obviously not enough. Lesson learned!

I live close to World's of Fun and was banded on 4/28. Which dr. did you use? My dr. is Dr. Malley.

New Hope Bariatrics also has a monthly support group and nutritional group. They are located in Overland Park, KS. Depending on where you live in the Northland, in can be a bit of a drive. I know bc I live in the northland too, but it is so worth it. The meetings are free to anyone, not just their patients. The support group meets the 2nd saturday of every month. I don't know if I can post the website, but you can google it. I will be at June's meeting, I hope to see you there. Feel free to pm me if you want another KC northlander to talk to.

Thanks to everyone for the replies. Everything mentioned is what I've heard, but I didn't know if I was missing something. The biggest rule for me to follow right now is the excersize. I have started excersizing 30 minutes a day right now, and my legs are screaming at me. I know that in a week or two, the pain won't be as bad, but I so want to stop. To keep me motivated I made a poster out of a cartoon that says "What fits into your busy schedule better? Excersizing 1 hour a day or being dead 24 hours a day." To everyone good luck!

Prebanded: I could eat so much more and still not feel "full." I could snack/graze all day long and still not feel "full." Postbanded: I can only eat small amounts and I feel "full" a lot sooner and for a longer period of time. I think about snacks, but since most of the time I'm still full from a meal I don't want them. In fact there are times when the mere thought of eating something else is somewhat repulsive. I've never felt like that before. The band is a tool to help reduce the amount of calories you take in. It is still our choice on what we do eat. As much as I want to eat unhealthy food, I'm trying to make the right decisions. Before the band when I tried to do this, I always felt like I was starving or depriving myself. Now, postbanded, I don't feel like it. I still eat some "junk" food, but not anywhere near the amount I used to. I'm about 5 weeks out from the start of my post op diet, 3 weeks from my surgery and I've lost almost 30 pounds and 4 inches from my waist. I never could have done this w/out the band.

Okay, so I'm an idiot, not really but it makes me smile to say it. I keep seeing people say we have to follow "The Rules" after being banded. What exactly are the "rules." My Dr. did warn me about certain foods not to eat, that I will be eating less once I get filled, and so on, but I don't remember getting a list of rules to follow. I'm a little "crazy" that way, if people say there are rules I want to know exactly what they are. So please everyone, fill this person in.

I could eat ice cream all day long with the sleeve too. In any surgery, gastric bypass, lap band, or sleeve, it all comes down to the choices we make as individuals, not the surgery we have. One is not any better than the other in terms of the overall population, each has their pros and cons. Which by the way you don't seem to mention the cons of the sleeve or its statistics. Yes one of the cons of lap band is intolerance of certain foods. I was told I shouldn't have white doughy bread anymore, a travesty in my eyes. jk. What I had to do, and any person for that matter, is decide which is more important to me, white doughy bread or a healthier lifestyle. I'm ok with having to give up certain foods, eating only small quantities, eating healthier. I'm sure the sleeve is great, but for me it still meant cutting up part of my stomach, not something I wanted done. That "con" was too big for me to overcome.