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See, don't ya feel better now!? Hubby knows what I weigh. Of course the doctors do. My mom doesn't know the number, most people don't. I don't lie exactly, but they don't ask either. My weight on my drivers license was correct at the time, which was a big step for me. That was a few years and about 65 pounds ago.

I've been a member of Curves for 2 years now, but I haven't been for a few months. Because I've had some health issues, then made excuses for myself. I pay $29 a month, and it's automatically deducted from my checking account. I keep the membership even when I'm not using it now because I'm determined to get back to it. I really noticed a big difference when I went. I felt so much better, and had actual muscle tone. I could walk longer and not get winded, or climb stairs. The workout itself consists of 16 stations, every other one is a resistence machine and the other ones are recovery stations where you job in place. You do 30 seconds on each station. One thing I liked is that there weren't any weights to adjust, how fast you do the movement determines the resistence and thus the intensity of the workout. I also like that it's just women, and it's very low key. All ages and sizes and styles of workout gear. It's very comfortable. OK, I really need to get back there!

My main concern was followup. My surgery is going to be about $16,000 and I'm self pay also. But for that, I got all my pre-ops evals(except the psych), surgery, and a year of fills, along with follow up visits and care. Also, if there are any problems with the band(not caused by me being stupid I think) they will fix it and waive their fees. The clinic is close to home and work, so that helps. And my DH has gotten really good care. Now, all that said, I really believe it's a very personal decision. You have to decide what your priorities are and make sure you meet them.

What does he do that let's you know he's not really supportive? I bet there is a lot of wisdom here to help you with that.

Not together, but hubby was banded about 2 years ago, so I feel like I have my own personal guide for the journey! It will be nice for you to be going through it together.

] Woo-hoo :clap2: !

Check this thread - it helped me get my ticker working. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=16218

I hear a lot of comments about how we hate when people want to be our "food police" and so maybe the hostess was thinking that not to include you might have been rude? Or she just forgot? I don't think it was an intentional rudeness.

Carbs too. Bread, Pasta, Cookies and candy. I actually do eat some healthy stuff also, I love baked or grilled fish, most veggies. But I eat WAY too much. Until I'm stuffed. I snack a lot. Or I did. I'm working on changing my habits now.

Not being able to eat healthy food isn't normal, nor expected from what I've seen and read.

DH is on Celexa and we haven't noticed any sexual side effects at all.

Aw, that's sweet, if a bit overwhelming like you said. My mom came back from a family gathering I couldn't attend and said "everyone is so excited about your surgery". She knew I as going to tell, but heck I would have liked to done it myself! DH was banded two years ago, so the family is familiar with what is involved, and have seen him look and feel better.

I think there are really valid reasons to not tell for sure. Having your family be your "food police" is sure one of them. I even can respect her saying that she doesn't want to influence other people to do something just because she did. But then to go and write a book about how to loose weight, and not include whatever she did seems really dishonest to me. I've told pretty much everyone.

I would agree except that she did write the book. From Amazon: "Part One guides women toward being their most attractive physical selves using Star's personal secrets on losing weight" [ame=http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060824182/sr=8-1/qid=1151602301/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-2800954-6091146?ie=UTF8]http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060824182/sr=8-1/qid=1151602301/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-2800954-6091146?ie=UTF8[/ame] If she wanted it kept private, as is her absolute right, why write the book? She wants it both ways.

I submitted my request for time off from work, and my boss approved it. It's on the schedule now. He wasn't thrilled with me taking the time off, so now it feels really official!:clap2:

There ya go! Enjoy the attention from other women from afar, but make sure your wife knows that you are hers and hers alone.

I just make the August Band Crew! I'm so excited, and can't wait. Ok, I can because I have to, but for the first time in a while I just want summer to hurry and be done.

I have to admit I wasn't a big fan of the idea when DH got his. I was very worried something would go wrong with the surgery. I also wondered if he'd be able to make the changes he needed to afterwards. But I was there for him on surgery day, and ever since.

Oh, I feel terrible for her. Not only for surgery day, but can you imagine what it will be like for her later on? Do you know why he was against the surgery? I'm lucky, I'll have DH and my mom there with me on surgery day, and DH is taking a couple of days off to make sure I'm OK.

It was interesting, because he didn't know much about lap-banding, and was interested to hear what it involved. I figure, he wants me healthy so I'll work harder, right?!

He really is, which helps. The only issue was that summer is busy for us, he would have rather I waited until Oct, which I'm not willing to do.

I've heard the same thing, about strong and weak marriages and the effect of weight loss. I also agree with the suggestion to do counseling. One other thought I've had for Saul is that fantasy is often much better then the reality. The idea of being with one of these suddenly-interested women is appealing, but think about what it would mean. Think about how your wife would feel if she caught you. Or about starting over with a new woman who has her own baggage. I've never cheated on my husband, but I did cheat on a BF in college and got caught. The look on my BF's face was terrible, I realized I had hurt him badly. And no sex is worth that feeling. I saw a card once that I love. On the outside was a really sexy babe in a bikini. On the inside was the caption "Somewhere, someone is tired of putting up with her sh*t."

I think you have a lot of power in this situation. By that I mean how you act is of course going to affect her. A second glance is one thing. A double-take is something different. I don't think married people have to give up looking, but show some respect to her when you do. And as others have pointed out, remember that she's the one who was there for you all these 22 years, when some of those other menu items couldn't be bothered.

This was actually one of my fears when DH got banded. And yes, it's changed the dynamics of our marriage. I'm now the bigger one, the one who gets tired first and wants to do less. And yes, having other women tell him, and me for that matter, that he's really cute is great for him, and I'm happy for him, but in the back of my mind I wonder. He is great, he's made it very clear that he loves me and isn't thinking of looking around any more then he was before. He's also made it clear that the only reason he supports my being banded is so that I feel better and we are healthier together. I know he'd like me to be smaller, but he's not said anything about it. Have you considered getting some counseling to deal with the changes as a couple? Is your wife overweight?

He may not have exactly been taunting her, but he sure wasn't supportive. He really was focusing on the money, but then I got the sense that she was pretty determined to get the surgery no matter what he thought.