dragonflylover

Thanks Amy.. yea, i'm in the holbrook area.. so it's VERY close. i'll have my sister call and see what they say, I can't do anything until i get health insurance again..

Mousek -- yes!! thank you. if i wanted to put in 100% efforts and feel like i was dieting my whole life, i would have stayed on weight watcher where i lost MORE weight.. so obviously I can lose it.. it's been done before.. but i expecting something so much more different. I am all about attitude and staying positive.. so i hear ya. However, when 90% of what you eat gets stuck.. causing you to not eat so much.. atleast i would like to see some results.. I dont think i'm going over board on the frustration here... i gave it 7 mths so far. I will continue to fight and not give up on it. Kamma Niyama

ok.. not to get too personal here. but I have always had insecurities about my body. lately when my husband and I are intimate.. i am disgusted with myself...and only because i feel the fat getting in the way. i know he is completely comfortable with my body.. but it's how i feel in certain positions.. with that said, it's getting old for my hubby.. and i don't blame him. I feel like i lost all sex drive. i ALWAYS have a reason why I can't be intimate. and it always seems to be fat related. so my question is, will this weight loss help the sex drive? get the hormones flowing? i know we are all different. but i wasn't always like this...as i gained weight.. i lost the drive. I need to get the hormones flowing... my husband deserves it. any advise? thanks!!

ok.. so i am getting stuck more often now. it causes A LOT of pain now. i got stuck eating a peice of hard boiled egg. i had to PB. 20 min later, i tried eating some chili.. i had to immediately PB. i thought i was ok after the egg. apparently not. this is SOOOOOOOOOOO frustrating because i am starving! i feel a lot of pain in my throat, and jaw... seems consistant when i get stuck. what doesn't make sense is that yesterday for lunch i ate more than a cup of the same chili.. and no problems!! that is why i feel like maybe i am not too restricted.

ok so i am at 5.5cc's in a 12 CC band. ever since this last fill i have a hard time eating without it either getting stuck, or hurting. now, i know first thing that come to mind is, too tight. but.. i doubt thats it. i still can eat a decent amt of food.. it's just that if i don't chew enough or eat certain things it gets stuck and hurts to go down... but when i eat mushy foods, it still hurts.. and i can still get a decent amt in...this just doesn't make sense. the pain goes away once it passes through the stoma. thats what it seems like to me. it's hard to explain. but i feel like the restriction is fine.. but why do i have pain? i can't imagine my whole life like this.. any ideas? this happening to anyone else?

I am having a very similar situation...i probably could have wrote this myself... I don't feel like i am too restricted because of the days i CAN eat.. and i can chugg water... it doesn't make sense.. and i know what your saying about not wanting an unfil. i like the results.. it just sucks when i can't eat.

wow. thanks! hope you feel better.

WOW! i get chills seeing how everyone appreciates these kinds of posts. to be honest, i talked from my heart in a positive light.. and that was enough for me.. but if it really touched someone, it gives me chills. really, we're all in the same boat. and we need more positive posts and comments like these. this was all so scary at first.. but as i shed more pounds, i continue to embrace my body everyday. thank you all for the positive feedback.

throught this journey, I've had ups and down. Doubts and fears. Today I am embracing my body. I love to feel my curves that were hidden under all the fat. I am taking on a new found perception of myself. Major influences in my life has brought this on and I am more confident than ever. keep the shiney side up!:thumbup:

so i was banded 11/09 and i lost a total of maybe 15 lbs since then. most of it was within the first 3 weeks of being banded. I had 2 fills so far totaling 4.5cc in a 12 cc band. i definitely eat a lot less.. but i am not at my "sweet spot" i don't feel full for long and i can eat more than i should. when am i really going to start to lose? i know about exercise and gotta diet thing. but i see lots of people on here that lost like 50 lbs in 4 mths and so on... why not me?? i feel like a failure sometimes.

Hello, from experience this is a very sloooooow process. but it is also the healthiest way to lose. i too became beyond frustrated.. it wasn't until these last 2 weeks i have started losing again.. i got my 3rd fill on 3/3 and it seems to be working wonders. granted i have been under A LOT of stress and i tend to not eat.. so maybe i shrunk my pouch that way? who knows.. but whatever it is, it's working so far *knock on wood* It will happen for you, i thought it would never happen because you just can't imagine it. but keep strong and focused on why you got the surgery to begin with.. :-) good luck

thank you. this is THE HARDEST thing i have ever dealt with in my life. It's hard to be angry because we have a great relationship. he just need to "find himself"

but not in a good way :-( i can't eat. not because of a fill or even the band. I know this is sooooo off topic.. but my husband is going through "saturns return" some people call mid life crisis.. and is having doubts about his life and if he's happy.. sooo as a result. no eating for me... arrgh! wish i wasn't losing weight this way though.

thank you.. and your 100% correct.

yea, sorry was very vague. it's causing me so much pain, stress and anxiety that i can't eat. no appetite.

wow. good for you!!! thanks for the feedback... soooo frustrating. and for some reason my Dr only does 1cc per month. which will take me 8 mths to get where you are.. if that's "my sweet spot" of course. i'm gonna say something on 3/3 when i go for my 3rd fill..

Hey Bill, I'm from LI myself.. so i know all about the shoveling.. ugh! well, we have some similiarities... I had my 2nd fill on 1/27 and for about 4 days i know what you mean about the 1/2 taco thing.. but after the 4th day i felt like i never even had a fill!!! so frustrating and much much slower of a loss than I expected. I think it's great you are exercising... a slice of pizza to me is not harmful if you run 15 miles a day or even every other day. personally, I will still eat pizza, or chocolate every now and then because I refuse to feel like I am on a diet for the rest of my life. I know i will fail if i think that way. For me the purpose of the band was to help cut down on portion size. Granted I most definitely watch what i am eating the majority of the time. I think it's a little unfare for your wife to come down on you so hard.. but then again.. she's probably just trying to motivate you in her own way. I'm sure you have talked to her already.. but I would tell her how that bothers you. you need ALL the support you can get.. but positive support. Keep up the good work. I think your doing a good job... :thumbup:

Ok so.. i had my 2nd fill a week ago. up until maybe sunday i felt great restriction.. it was obvious i couldn't eat as much. i was full faster and longer.. one of those things you never want to end. well... it ended. because since sunday i have noticed i am hungier, and not as full as quick. why??? is this normal? i'm afraid my band has a leak or something. does this happen to anyone else? maybe my brain is playing tricks... who knows. i still have lost only 15 lbs since surgery 11/23/09

thanks for the reponses.. There is no doubt i every now and then make a bad food choice. For the most part i have changed how i eat, and incorporated more veggies.. When it's close to "that time of month" I lose all will power for a few days... i am definitely i need of a fill... more like several... i have an appt weds.. but i am allowed only 1cc at a time each month. so apparently i wont have proper restriction for possibly another 4 / 5 mths.

How do you know if your streching your pouch? i have a 12 CC band and a total of 3.5cc's right now. i feel like i can eat anything.. not exactly the amount i used to eat.. but maybe close to it. for example.. yesterday i was starving.. i ate 1 slice of pizza (no crust), 1 pepperoni wheel, and 1/2 of a small calzone. that's a lot, and a lot of bread.. but i wasn't overstuffed.. and i didn't PB. so how do i know if i am hurting myself? i obviously need a lot more restriction.. is there warning signs of streching? thanks

Ok.. so i was banded Nov 23rd. i have lost only 15 lbs so far. In about 1 week it will be 2 mths since banding and I feel like i don't even have the band. I still eat whatever I want basically.. granted portions are slightly smaller.. but even so, my weight loss is at a complete stand still. I am only blaming myself because I dont always chose the right food choices.. but i do for the most part eat better and less. This week i have been starving!! and i can get anything down sooooo thats not good. I really am determined to work at this.. but my tool ain't co-operating with me so far.. lol. If I were atleast a little less hungry and full a lot faster, I know it would be cake for me. I guess it's because I may be one of those people that need A LOT of restriction to suceed. right now I have a 12 CC band and 3.5 CC's of Fluid. Any suggestions, Idea's, words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. thanks!! :thumbup: