OH Juli

I'm just being a smart alec, but a stupid person might not get they are being poked fun at. But yeah, people get indignant for MRDD folk and the phrase "that's retarded". As for ugly people, that's just unfortunate. And the joke doesn't go beyond one or two lines, well because there's just not enough fodder. However you can take a fat person put them in a scene and get many laughs from it, from a broken chair, to giant panties, to whatever... And I'm an advocate for saying, deal with your stuff and don't expect the world to bend not to hurt your feelings, because if you wait for the world to meet you, you'll be waiting a long time. On the other hand, it sucks to be poked fun at. And being quiet about it when you don't want to be quiet isn't acceptable either. So if you're pissed speak up. And if you see someone being hurt, speak up for that person too.

BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB Missed you too, Buddy. Oh, BG, I wanted to tell you that I rode part of that very same windy ride last week Thursday and it was actually pleasant. I can't imagine how enjoyable it would have been if the weather wasn't brutal. Are you finding us a June date to ride in South MI together?

Duh, there's her banner ad below. Well above as I type but below as you read this. I'll check it out. Thanks.

I think there's a line we tread as women, as American woman (pardon me other women, but speaking from my own experience here to my yankee sisters) who are or have been of size, between fat acceptance and a desire to not be fat. Certainly there's a place for advocacy for fat people. We/they are not any less human because of our/their size. Treating someone as less than because they are different isn't okay on any level. But it's still considered reasonable to treat fat folk badly. We question fat folk advocating for themselves and we question them laughing at their own pain. It's institutionalized to the point that a self loathing fat person thinks they deserve to hate themself and they deserve the scorn of others. I don't have the answer...but talking about bad media, pizza Hut had a commercial where the baby sitter was ordering pizzas on the phone and the chubby boy walked in and she said, "Better add to the order." Because he obviously was going to eat vastly more than what she had ordered. I called the company and complained. Didn't get very far, but I feel better for it.

TammyJ Is it a video? How do you do it? Is it via the internet? I want details. That's fantastic that you're finding a great workout. J

It is a beautiful day in OH-IO. I feel for ya, C. I'm on the fence about riding or running today. I've gone back to running. I took off a few months but I'm loving it again. I like it because it's quicker and if my schedule is full I can still get it in. Gearing up for run takes less time as well. I've got plans tonight so it very well may be a run day. Anyway, I have two, count them two 60 mile rides this weekend. One on Saturday and one on Sunday. I'm gonna be smokin' come TOSRV in two weeks! W00T

Okay, My gay sistah, btw, I love that you put your partner out there in your initial post. Got to love the out people. Thanks from all of us. I wanted to write sooner but had other obligations...I hope you don't mind me coming late to the conversation. Others have touched on hormones being released and emotional eating. I was initially struck with how it seems like you are greiving. You've given up your comfort mechanism and you can't go back. Ever. Not that you want to, but it's real and final and done. Now you need to find a new way to cope. What's a rational person to do? Temper tantrums seem reasonable to me. Well, so long as you don't hurt anyone or yourself. And this will be a short lived phase. I don't know if medication is the solution or if really wrapping your head around the tantrums will be effective for you, but certainly try different methods. I mean you've got to live in your skin and people do have to live with you. One effective way to work your way through the rage is to just own it. Lay on the floor and kick and scream like a 3 year old. You might look foolish, but it feels great. I did it once when my kiddo was having a fit and I was going to beat the tar out of her. So instead I took a clue from her and did the same thing she was doing. She thought I was nuts. I thought it was effective at getting out my stress and no one got hurt. As for the crying jags they will become fewer and longer spaced inbetween. It's happening for the same reason a child has fits. You don't have the words to describe your emotions, and without the words you don't have a way to process the concepts. This is from some business model I came across but a way to get answers and solution is something like the 6 Whys or the 6 questions. Example: 1. Why am I sad? I'm sad because this man has cancer. 2. Why does cancer make you sad? This person will die. 3. Why is death sad? People I love will be gone from me. 4. Who do you see passing soon? Grandma, grandpa 5. What can you do to connect with them? Visit write a letter, etc. 6. What is stopping that from happening? Make a plan.... I don't know what to say other than be kind to yourself right now. You need not add guilt or other stress to an already stressfull situation. Ask your partner for a little understanding and maybe an end date that until you meet it she'll be flexible with your bad behavior. Then she gets to say enough is enough. Keep on writing. I'm sure many other people will propose solutions that will help you out. One of them is bound to give you peace. Juli

On another thread we started talking motivational quotes. If you have some favorites add them to the list. Hopefully you'll find a few that are meaningful and helpful to you. My favorites right now are: "Winning is never accidental. To win consistenetly you must have a clear plan and intense motivation." Lou Holtz "Obstacle are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal." Henry Ford "The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth.'' Anon "I am not interested in the past. I am interested in the future, for that is where I expect to spend the rest of my life.'' CF Kettering "Knowing what to do and not doing it doesn't get you very far.'' J. Pfeffer

Hi Marchies. I've been reading but way busy. I hope everyone is well. Juli

It was a three tiered caked. And pink. With yes many many candles.

I'm glad you bought the purple dress, BG. Whew, I'm just getting caught up reading. TX, you look great! Sorry you felt like poo. I hope the unfill/refill works for you. I like your positive thinking about being able to eat well during your 150 miler. HP, Sorry your mom surgery didn't go according to plan. I'm glad she's home. You'll get back on your bike in no time. C, How is work? You are back now? Right. The party was FUN. And my house is nearly back in order. Alison got DRUNK, which was pretty funny. I'll see about posting pics of the cake ablaze! Yes, they put on 40 candles. I was throwing off heat! Got to write a paper. School stinks like always. XO. J

Where are Stacy and Clinton when you need them! That is not an accurate statement! just kidding. If you feel good wear what you want. I've bought a few dresses for spring. I can't do tights/hose so I'm waiting for the bare leg time of year. I promise to shave and lotion though.

There are so many from collar bones to being more bendy (flexible) because my big giant belly was in the way, and now it is not. My neck is thinner. I had a fat neck. Who knew? Keep track of these things. They make you happy when the scale stops moving. ;0)

Hi Trell, Welcome. Don't let the insanity scare you off, we really are a nice bunch of people. We REALLY like cycling. Some of the humor gets naughty or gross at times, but please hang out and jump in. Where I work out doesn't have spinning. I know next fall when the biking season ends in Ohio I'll join a gym that does have spinning. Everyone says it can really transform your body. Congrats on the band. Turler, also known as C, is on here and was just banded on the 10th. Welcome!

I've just helped make 100 fortune cookies. Hand made fortune cookies are a pain in the ass. Of course we had to make a few naughty ones too. heee heee

orange is my fav. I've had punch too, not so good.

Mine didn't even come out my womb, let alone be able to nurse her. Well since she's not got my DNA I obviously can't love her.

orange rocked my world.

I'm feeling particularly hate-full right now. I'd be inclined to say, "I see your mouth moving, you must be saying something but all I hear in my head is, 'shut the eff up'." Turn and walk away. Don't let people make you feel bad. I know that's easier said than done, but he's a dick and looking for a reaction from you. Don't give him the satisfaction of getting one.

I want to ask people how much money they make when they ask me how much weight I've lost. Then I want to ask them if they plan on making more. Or better yet, I want to say, "Wow I would have never guessed you made so much!" Then of course I want give them opinions like they shouldn't even try to make a penny more because they look so well off. Maybe if time allows and I haven't picked up any non verbal cues to tell me to go away I'll bend their ear for a good long time about my attempts, half hearted or not, in regard to how I personally have tried to earn more and failed. Or I'll share horror stories about others I know who did the same thing but died due to a non compliance issue with their attempt to work similarly. I suppose my point is people ask horrible questions, give unforgivable opinions, and share personal details in regard to weight that they would never ever do about personal statistics, such as income. It's a number that certainly has impact on how we live, but it's not the beginning and the end of who we are. I'm just being cheeky, but I swear I'm going to do it. :biggrin:

I like to think of them a delicious nuggets of caffiene.

It works made into spread, but no, you can't chew it well enough, or maybe it's bites that are habitually to big. It gets me nearly every time.

It is hard because it's designed to be. If it were a fad diet so many people who are not good candidates would get it. Jumping through hoops is par for the course for many of us. But it is worth it. Find a way. You will, it's worth it. Make yourself a priority in you life and boom you'll be banded! Good luck.

I drink cosmos. They have just a splash of cran juice, enough to make em pink. Just be aware of the calories you are consuming, is the overall message. You'll be fine. Smoking like you said, is rough. But if weight loss is part of a healthier better you, I expect you'll drop the habit at some point. There comes a point in time where you're like, this just doesn't make sense anymore. Good luck.

You are one of us.