luluharper1981

"I am by far skinny. I still weigh 228lbs. My problem is that my husband weighs 350lbs and will not do anything about it. When we got together we were both smaller. He weighed about 240. He has no control of food what so ever. He has eaten 3lbs of fudge this week and a whole pie. (we went to amish country last saturday) It makes me angry. Even before i had the surgery I had some control. I am so scared that I am going to wake up one morning and not find him attractive. He is the love of my life and my best friend. I don't want this to hurt my marriage but I also want to stay physically attracted to him. I have tried to get him to walk in the evenings with me and I cook mostly healthy meals." The message above is one I posted a few weeks ago. I am hoping that my change will make him want to change.

I also carry my Lapband Card with my surgeons info on it. Along with my Red Cross card that states my blood type.

I also know 2 people who had bypass done. One of them has gained a good bit of weight back. They also have to take supplements the rest of their lives. I think the risk of streching your stomach back after bypass is greater than with lapband. I dont regret one minute of having my band. I too dont understand why someone would choose bypass over lapband.

I am having the same issue. I stuck between 227-229. I feel like I am losing but the scales are not showing. I am getting frustrated with this. I am going on vacation in 2 weeks and hope that I see a difference on the scale!

Ok, I know this sounds wrong but I need some advice..... I am by far skinny. I still weigh 228lbs. My problem is that my husband weighs 350lbs and will not do anything about it. When we got together we were both smaller. He weighed about 240. He has no control of food what so ever. He has eaten 3lbs of fudge this week and a whole pie. (we went to amish country last saturday) It makes me angry. Even before i had the surgery I had some control. I am so scared that I am going to wake up one morning and not find him attractive. He is the love of my life and my best friend. I don't want this to hurt my marriage but I also want to stay physically attracted to him. I have tried to get him to walk in the evenings with me and I cook mostly healthy meals. HELP!!

We have actually discussed him having the lap band, but he wont take the time to go to the dr. He makes an attempt to eat deceit sometimes, the biggest problem he has is eating in the middle of the night. He does go get his physicals every year and his family doc tells him all the time that he needs to loose weight. I tell him that when we start a family i would like for both of us to be healthy. His best friend died at 28 from a heart attack (very overweight). I dont want to loose him for something that we can prevent. Thanks for the advice!