StephOnee

thanks a lot monkeyy lol I completely understand your not wanting to go out b/c of the weight..this has also happend with me (feeling like i have lost who I used to be...it's really sad)! I have my own theories on what's going on with my BF, and my mother and many of my other really good friends who know the relationship have confirmed what I have been thinking. I just posted the blog to get an outsiders view, and y'all have listed the same exact reasons that myself and my friends have been thinking. Truth is I don't always feel that our relationship is "right," and I feel so bad about this...I'm sure he feels it to. It's going to be a difficult road, but I know what I want and I deff. wont let him talk me out of it. I'm just going to see where time takes us. thanks again for all of the advice =]

DeeDee & Kiz you have some excellent explanations for the way he is reacting and I appreciate your responses! y'all have given me a lot to think about! And in response to restless monkey, I have talked to him about the situation and the only answers I can get from him is that he likes me the way I am now (but I feel that this is a cover for what he really feels, especially since he never wants to talk about it.). How can he be happy with me or the way things are if I am not even happy with myself? I do appreciate everyones efforts to help me out, I will try to talk to him again...see what I can get this time ( maybe take a different approach).

Hello my name is StephOnee, I am new to the site and I just wanted to say hi. I started seeking information on Lap-Band about a year ago, and I am finally about to start my journey. I have been on a weight loss roller coaster for about as long as I can remember. I had brief sucess with appitite suppresing pills, but as soon as I stoped using them I pit falled further than ever! I am pretty young and I know that being 20 years old and feeling like I'm 50 isn't the best way to go through life. I knew that I had a problem when I stoped enjoying life. I can't wait to start living life again..my new life will begin on April 6, 2009 [well hopefully we haven't exactly set the date in stone yet, but that's the date I'm hoping for]. The only thing I'm truly concerned about is having excess skin once I have lost all my weight. Has anyone experienced having excess skin after major weight loss? let me know