flabuless

babygirl...you are not alone...but we will get there...

hi ya KoobiesMum ohhh you make me feel soo special! of course you can ask questions fire away...you can either im me or email me

thanks michelle... I love how he treats me, he has really helped me grow as a person and has been a sort of mentor over the past few months. I am extremely attracted to him, perhaps I am 'in love' with him...If things keep on going as they are now I certainly could be very soon...I haven't been able to sleep or eat for that matter over the past few days. but the situation is just too confusing at the moment...for me to really work things out..I am still healing from my past relationships...and the fact that what he is offering is not a long term commitment more fly in and fly out... but strangely I am ok with that. Hmmmm...more thought needed on this..I am pretty conflicted if you cant tell already!!! He has certainly done me a world of good over the past few months...I am thriving under his gentle loving care...hehehe! Perhaps I do deserve to be loved after all Becky

hi ya puddin...just found your thread..and I love it! I am struggling with how I am going to be when I am slim too...I am now starting to receive heaps of attention from guys mostly sexual but we wont go there... However, there is one...that I have been friends with for some time who seems to like me for who I am weight and all...and he is constantly encouraging me to be myself and be self empowered. (hope he never reads this) anyway the other day he drops a bombshell that he is 'in love with me'...now I gotta tell you I never saw that coming. I am still very vulnerable from the end of my own marriage 18months ago, so it is really hard for me to actually believe that what he is saying is genuine. I am still working through my own feelings for him and how I feel about his feelings for me...so I am atloss to know what will happen their...but it got me thinking... here is a little something I wrote earlier...about my fears about this very thing. ""Resist the temptation" they say. Well, I live on the corner of temptation right between carrot cake boulevard and ice cream parade…as Oscar Wilde so aptly puts it “The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it…I can resist everything but temptation.” So they call me a slob, they say that I have no will power, that I lack discipline, that I don’t WANT it enough, even, that I am weak person. Don’t they know that apart from the fact that food, and resisting the urge to indulge, is one of the most difficult addictions to recover from next to smoking and drugs. For us 'fat' sufferers there is no ‘fatotine’ Patches, no replacement drugs available to bring us down gradually from the euphoric affect food has on our well being. Dieting is rough. Especially when you have lived the better part of your life as a fat person. Overcoming the mind barriers and resisting the, ever constant, urge to ‘sabotage’ your progress is hard work. There are deeper forces at play. The fear of the unknown: what will life bring on the other side of large… How will I relate to people when I don’t have my weight to hide behind. Will they accept me, will they think I am beautiful, and will men be attracted to me. At the moment, I have an excuse to explain away all of the above. 'They don’t except me, because I am fat.' 'They don’t think I am beautiful, because I am fat.' 'They are not attracted to me, because I am fat.' But once my weight goes so does my excuse. Once the weight is gone, I will be vulnerable, naked, exposed. You see, not only do I have to resist the temptation, but I also have to constantly fight my mindsets, my fears, my insecurities. I have to break through the barriers to come to the point where I can confidently say 'I deserve to be slim', 'I deserve to be noticed', 'I deserve to be admired' even 'I deserve to be loved'. Its so much more than just resisting the temptation. Its much more than just being disciplined. It’s about allowing myself the opportunity to be who I was meant to be and rid myself of the ‘safe’ façade (my weight) behind which I have found a comfort zone." I am still battling through those emotional scars... I know I am getting more beautiful every day with every pound lost but do I deserve to be admired, loved... etc do I deserve the attention that this wonderful fella is giving me at present...It just seems too hard to accept. I still view myself as unloveable...that it blows my mind that someone else (a man) could actually care about me in that way! I just don't know. becky

Laurend...I totally get you..it is hard! I am starting a Finding Flabuless blog site...for me to rant and vent about the issues of weightloss etc...I think you might appreciate what I have to say in the introduction go to http://www.snugglesnkuddles.com/intro/intro.html becky

About 20lbs for me to drop a dress size...like you lianna I seem to carry more weight on my stomach, hips, thighs though my waiste is actually quite trim..so the trouble I find is finding clothes that fit around my hips and thighs usually hang dreadfully around my waiste... hehehe

hi Meli...great idea hehehe! I am working on it after reading about this very problem months ago. The software for an online clothing swap for dieters is still being worked on but it will be available soon...I promise.

He He He I hear the chorus beckoning me to HURRY UP... an online Clothes swap is still in the works still just finalising software issues but it will be here soon...I promise. :girl_hug: becky

Hi again guys...I really wanted to resurrect this thread cause there are so many new people now and I am so curious to know whats behind their name so keep it coming aye? :girl_hug: becky

Welcome to LBT KoobiesMum Best wishes on your investigations...I look forward to getting to know you more. :girl_hug: becky

Wow! what a journey for you...I gotta hear more about this one...Congrats on making the steps to re-control your life...You are a legend. Welcome :girl_hug: becky

Welcome Alynmez I have also had my band in for over year...and it has been a slow progress for me but way worth it...I wouldn't have it any other way...Finding LBT has been a big part of my success to date there are wonderful people here that always have an encouraging word to say and that goes a long way in keeping me motivated to stick with the program. I look forward to hearing more about your progress... :girl_hug: becky

Welcome Sami Gosh, I think we have ALL been there! but for me I just battled through and I have never regretted the decision I made to have lapband surgery...it has been challenging at times...working through my own mind barriers has been the hardest thing. but slowly but surely I am breaking through. This is a great place for info, advise even just a supportive clap or pat on the back so you have come to the right place...I am looking forward to keeping updated on your progress...so dont be a stranger now! you are 'home' here. :girl_hug: becky

Welcome Amanda Congrats! Welcome to the beginning of your new life. I am looking forward to catching up with you and hearing all about it. :girl_hug: becky

Welcome to LBT jhlcomp. I had my surgery 17months ago and I don't regret it...it has been hard at times sticking to the program...I just love food too much me thinks...but it is still working for me...slowly but surely...and I wouldn't have it any other way...Best wishes on your investigations. Keep us posted! :girl_hug: becky

Welcome steph...best wishes on your dr's visit tomorrow...and we look forward to hearing of your progress. You have taken a very positive step to the beginning of the rest of your fat free life.Congrats :girl_hug: becky

Welcome to LBT trackster76...When I joined up I found heaps of info at my fingertips on this site...and anything I didn't find I just posted and there was always someone around to point me on the right direction. This is a fantastic community it has certainly helped me through good times and bad so I am pleased that you have found us. I am sure you will be very comfortable and at home here with any questions you might have. :girl_hug: becky

Welcome to LBT maryH you have come to the right place...we are a very supportive community and will be there right through every stage of this journey for you...It is fantastic that you have great support from your husband...between him and us we will keep you motivated and excited about the new life ahead of you. :girl_hug: becky

Ha Ha Hi guys thanks so much for wondering where I am!!! It is soooo nice to know I am missed. I haven't been able to come on line due to my computer breaking down... My darling 1yr old daughter accidentally poured a cup of Water over my laptop keyboard some time ago and over christmas/new year it decided to give up the ghost and stop working!!!! I have been waiting for my accidental insurance to cough up a new computer which they have as of a few days ago so now I am going through weeks and weeks of emails that I haven't been able to receive until now. i am a self confessed computer/internet addict (cant go a day without my computer!) so the past few weeks away from y'all have been really fustrating GRRRR. But I am back now and once I catch up on all my emails I will start going over all the fabulous posts I have missed out on so you will see me back here soon! But thanks guys so much it is so nice to know that I am missed. I also received a few emails from other members after reading this thread telling me I was missed so this thread was a really nice thing to do. Y'all have made me feel really special! Update on me! well there is no update really I have been having a really bad few months and haven't lost a thing since november :cry ....Totally my own fault....Eating far too much....Not exercising....Making bad food choices! But I am back into my routine now so hopefully it will start reflecting on the scales soon so that I can amend in my specs. Hope to hear from you soon. Email me if you like...I love to receive emails! Big hugs :kiss2: becky

hahaha! now you have just touched a sore spot...na only joking! The truth is that over this christmas period and for the last few weeks I have gone up and then down again...to my dismay I am still sitting at 250lbs...Grrrrrr! better days to come I hope. becky

If lapband surgery was for the super rich I sure wouldn't have had it!! It does help of course to have insurance...I could never have afforded it otherwise. As to having it out...this baby and me are friends for life. I wouln't trust myself to do something so extreme as to remove it...thats just asking for trouble...I suspect the pounds would start creeping up again in no time at all. Welcome to lapband talk best wishes in your research and life changing decision. Keep us posted we are always her for support, encouragement, advise or if you just want to vent! becky

Welcome! As awful as it might sound...try going for some walks! It really helped my excruciating gas pains...I couldn't breath deeply at first caus it hurt so much but as I went for walks it got better and better and I was able to breath deeper and deeper. Best wishes and keep us posted. becky

Welcome Tony! Sugarplum is a very good friend indeed to entice you here...sounds like you have come to the right place. Best wishes on your decision... becky

Ginger Welcome and best luck with your decision making. becky

Hi ya katie...I had my lapband over a year ago now and I have as much a head full of hair as I always did. Think positive, chances are you will be a lucky one too. Keep us posted becky