jojo41

To be honest your "friend" sounds a little rude and selfish......to change the subject of your surgery to talk about herself..rude, rude, rude and selfish!!!

Sarah bluebell....I have done exactly the same thing. I spoke to the clinic and they made all my appointments in advance I could have booked a surgery date in late June but I thought it was too quick so my surgery date is 17th July. On my first post i said the same thing....that i was soooo nervous and embaressed that I felt look backing out but since I've found this site i am becomming stronger every day and now I'm feeling excited about the surgery,still nervous, but excited. Read as much as you can on here (you may wish to avoid some of the more negative comments) and I promise you will feel stronger every day. good Luck Mate!

I would try and avoid this person for a while. Who needs that kind of pressure? It's hard enough to lose weight without being judged and critisized by so called "friends". I think 29lbs is a very significant weight loss.....just think 4 more pounds and you'll have under 100lbs to go! Keep your chin up!

I have finally bitten the bullet and have booked into the Obesity Surgery centre on the Gold Coast. I have 2 weeks before my first appointments with the nurse and dietician and I'm so nervous and so embarrassed about having to finally admit that I have this "big" problem that I can't fix myself. Did anyone else feel like this? Was anyone else so nervous before their surgery that they just felt like canceling their appointments? Help!

Mini me......I have a similar story. When I was 12yrs my mother took me to the doctor who happened to weigh me and I was 51 kilos (112lb). I'll never forget my mother rolling her eyes and saying to the doctor "she can't be 51kilos I'm only 50kilos!". That night at the dinner table it was this HUGE topic of conversation. "She takes after your family they're all fat," my mother kept saying. When I woke up the next morning my mother insisted I hop on the scales and get weighed. Again she rolled her eyes, clicked her tongue and told me it was disgusting that a child weighed 51kilos. So my mother decided the best way to help me loose weight was to put me on the scales every morning before school so she could make sure I didn't put on any more weight, this humiliating task took place every morning for 2 years. I think this is why I have a morbid fear of the dreaded scales! Mind you I'm not the only one who is now fat, my mother is also well over 200lbs. Anyway that's all in the past and I don't blame her, she did the best she knew how. She'd never had a weight problem at the time and back in 1977 there wasn't as much info as there is now. Only just over 2 weeks before my first apoointments with Nurse & Dietician......I m starting to look forward to it.:clap2:

What a great thread! I am fat beacause I LOVE food. I am fat because I rarely exercise. I am fat because I eat when I'm bored. I am fat beacause I eat when I'm stressed. I am fat beacause I eat when I'm happy. I am fat because genetically I'm not "blessed" with "skinny genes"....both parents are fat as so are most of my relatives. I am fat because I love going to restaurants often. I am fat because being of Italian heritage food is considered a big priority in my family, I can still hear my mama and nonna "manga,manga" (eat,eat) or "have some more!". I am fat because I have no idea about portion control. I am fat beacause I think about food morning, noon and especially at night. I am fat beacause I can't say no. But I won't be fat forever!

Hi Samee and Fleur......I'm not a Brissie girl but do I live on the northern Gold Coast (close enough!). I am getting banded in July and until recently have been feeling sick with nerves but after finding this site I'm finally starting to feel a bit better about the whole procedure.:confused:

Yes .....I also have the dreaded PCOS :angry .....I have struggled with my weight, irregular periods and some excess hair growth all my life (I actually didn't start menstruating untill I was 19yrs due to PCOS) however I always managed (through cigarettes, black coffee & starvation) to keep my weight within a healthy range. Then when I had children, gave up the whole strvation/smoking merry-go-round my weight balooned and now at the age of 41 I have finally decided to get "banded" and now I'm starting to feel like there could be a light at the end of the tunnel.:clap2: Cheers Jo

Thanks for all the replies and support. I feel alot better knowing there are lots of people like me. I think my biggest problem is I've always been very independent and am a little annoyed that I haven't been able to fix this weight problem myself. I just have to learn to swallow my pride and realise it's not such a bad thing to ask for help sometimes. I'm sure all your words of encouragement will make me stronger. Thanks all.