Woodys

"Only You" by the Platters....the best ever "first dance" song. Carol

Donna.....what the heck are you doing? Listen, I know all too well about food addiction, I live and work in my fine dining restaurant 24/7....hubby is a professional chef.....I am around food ALL THE TIME. In my opinion, you have gone to great lengths to get this under control....i.e. the band. Why do want to sabotage this.....I disagree with the others......you are clearly setting yourself up for failure.....why? I struggle all the time....but to come this far, I wouldn't think of falling into any of my old habits....I know that that is easier said than done. I don't think smoothing it over and saying "be good from now on" is appropriate support.....just makes it easier for you to fail again. You need to think of the consequences actions like this can carry and why you got the band in the first place. You need to get a grip girl! Carol

Try and relax, there could be many reasons that he said such hurtful things, of course that doesn't make it acceptable. I have lashed out at my husband on occasion and have sincerely regreted everyword, I have done it without just cause. Sometimes we are in moods and just can't help ourselves, sum it up to human nature.....still doesn't make it right though. Hang in there....he may come to his senses and all will be good again. If he is willing to talk this out I would definately address how he measures your worth....why does everything always have to come down to money? Carol

When I left my clinic where I had my surgery I was given a folder with post-op diet and other info, some regarding fills. Did you not get anything like this from your place of surgery or lapband Dr's office? Mine says: "Please eat a light breakfast on the morning of your fills. Also, remember that you will be on liquids for 24 hours after your adjustment. Please remember to bring a bottle of Water to your fill appointment, you will be asked to drink from this bottle before you leave the Clinic to make sure your band is properly adjusted." Carol

I never understood suicide, maybe that's why I have always viewed suicide as the Coward's way out....maybe that view and my opinions come from ignorance on the subject. Everyone lives a different life, and maybe when they have reached their depths of despair they don't see any other option. I have been down pretty low sometimes but never reached the depth of despair that would cause me to even think about suicide. But when it comes to being overweight, there are options.

Buffie: I can't stress enough how much Yoda is right, do what the PROFESSIONALS instructed you to do, they have a reason for it. Everybody is different, so what may have been okay for someone else, may not be okay for you. This is not a situation where there is room to generalize. I have my "patient file" here from the TLBC....I want to share something with you that may help to explain why the diet is designed the way it is. The following is an excerpt from the Lapband instruction book (produced by the manufacturers of the band) that I have to pass onto my GP when he gets ready to do my first fill: "Immediately after surgery you will be put on a diet. For the first three weeks, you will only be allowed liquid food. For another two weeks you will be restricted to mashed food. Thereafter, you will gradually be able to introduce normal food into your diet. Your Doctor or your dietician will provide you with a diet plan for this period. The diet is necessary to enable the body to heal. During the healing process, tissue adhesions develop and help fix the band in place. Patients who eat solid food too soon after their operation run the risk of dislocating the band, thus developing an enlargement of the new upper gastric pouch. This leads to poor weight loss and in some cases the need to reoperate." Therefore: Follow the Dr's orders. And be patient.....only good can come from this if you pay attention to your body and follow the program. Good Luck Carol

www.fitday.com It is a great tool...will provide line graphs of your success to date towards your goal, it also has a data base of food items, if what you ate isn't in it you can add the items through the custom feature. You can track your weight/ goals/food/moods/ journal/ exercise/measurements, etc. I think to own the software its only about $20.00 and you can download it, the paid version comes with more features.....I love it. Good Luck Carol

Hi Buffie.....are suffering from head hunger or stomach hunger? Actually, that soon after surgery I didn't desire food at all. It was even hard for me to take the amount of clear fluids that are listed on the post-op diet....still...at 11 days post op all I can get down is about 4 each 1/4 cup servings of creamed soups on the full Fluid diets and 1/4 cup a day of no fat yogurt. However, I drink lots of Water with liquid Vitamins and tea through the day and have the odd popsicle and no sugar added Jello. I do get head hunger every once in awhile. I live/work in our restaurant so I'm around food 24/7 and sometimes certain aromas will trigger head hunger....and this is an old habit for me, eating even when I'm not hungry.....but, this passes almost as fast as it comes. I think its important to realize that you had a life before the band and eating was a very big part of it. There are many habitual behaviours that you will have to overcome..........and you will. Carol

For me....well, I am so conscious about personal hygiene...it was becoming more and more of a struggle to clean myself on the toilet. Then one day, I just couldn't do it, I had to step into the shower to clean myself properly. I totally grossed myself out. I couldn't believe that, for the sake of food, I had reduced myself to this. It was totally unacceptable to me, I hated everything about it. It upset me so much that I just slumped on the bathroom floor and cried my eyes out.....everything, all horrible thoughts, came to my mind at once....the fact that I hate squeezing into chairs and sitting uncomfortably, wearing unflattering clothes because I'm constantly trying to hide the fact that Im obese, feeling sorry for my husband because even though he has never uttered one single word about my size, I felt he deserved better, thinking about loving to dance but being exhausted half way through my favourite song. I reflected on the many many times sitting in my arm chair and eating until I literally could not put one more morcel of food in my mouth.....I would eat enough at one sitting to feed a family of four. But, it all came back to what pushed me to the floor in the first place, I was mortified. I started a healthy eating plan that very day, its close to the W/W plan and researched then lapband.....it wasn't hard to make the decision, I didn't care where the money was coming from, I was having this procedure. Carol

Hi Stephanie...yes, if no complications set in you will be able to work...no heavy lifting or high stretching, but if I judge it by my own experience you'll be just fine. Carol

Good going Buffie! I have a huge bruise from my IV too. It is true that you feel rushed.....I'm not sure what I really think about that because I didn't really have any reason to spend any time with the Drs, I had no more questions for them and just wanted to get on with it...so, for me it worked. I was feeling great by the 5/6th day.....was doing most everything and not suffering too much at all. 7th day took all my steritapes off and inspected my incisions.....I'm 10 days post op now and still sore and tender around the largest incision where I understand the port is....usually hurst when I sleep the wrong way or poke it too much trying to find the port. Glad that it is all working out well for you. Carol

I am 10 days post-op as well....all my incisions are tender to the touch, however....my largest incision and port area hurt as well....but only when I lean on it the wrong way in bed or poke it too much. I'm not sure I can feel the port or scar tissue though. Carol

Puddin Pie...sorry for the delay in replying.....here is the website http://www.tcclinic.com/ We have to pay only GST in Canada for this type of expenditure. Good Luck. Carol

I have a tanita, it measures weight and body fat.....it is right on....the scale never waivers. I have a ladies fitness centre and just to test the accuracy I had 3 members bring in their digital scales and I took mine from home (same model)......only one members scale was out consistently after weighing 5 people. Carol

Hi: When I reached a certain weight I lost all interest in my general appearance....stopped wearing make-up except when going to special functions, didn't really care what colour or style my hair was in which was usually a pony tail, didn't care about clothes just as long as they didn't make me look fatter. My personal hygeine never changed but I stopped doing things like waxing my brows, shaving my legs on a regular basis...did it only when I absolutely had to, etc. I am now 8 days post-op and I noticed this morning that my attitude is starting to change....this morning I got up early to give myself enough time to pay attention to nails, hair, shaving, make-up, jewelery......when I came downstairs my husband made a double-take.....cause its been sooo long. Did this happen to anyone else? Carol

Wow pfunkem......what HAPPY face....keep smiling. Carol

As long as it doesn't involve cottage cheese then I'm having fun. I get really bored with TV too.....I love to put on my favourite CDs and blast them....then, I'll find something that has been badly neglected and fix it.....like the "junk drawer"......my "panty" drawer...etc. Carol

The most important day of my life was the day I met my husband, I have a small butterfly tatoo over my right ankle that displays that date....so....... wear your tatoo proud, I know how you feel. I'm thinking of another when I reach goal.....will the 2nd most important day of my life. Carol

I am my own worst enemy.....my jobs have always been more "all consuming" than they needed to be. I won't deligate....I can't get past the mindset that nobody can do a job as good as me so I better do it myself to make sure it gets done right. Carol

Puddin Pie....its Canadian dollars. This place has a website, when I get back to my other business I will look it up and post it. Carol

I have an unfair advantage.....should I drop out? I was just banded on the 8th so I have had benefit of the pre/post-op fast. Carol

As I write this you will be on your way to the clinic. Please let me know how your experience was. woodys@sympatico.ca Ask any questions for post-op help, we'll help you the best we can. Talk to you lighter :cool: Carol

For me, the embarrassment phase is over, its more anger I have over shear ignorance. To eat is a biological need. Sure, we can control the choices we make on what we eat, but we have to eat to live. Somehow, somewhere, sometime, food has to pass our lips. An alcoholic does not need booze to keep his body alive, nor a drug addict. We have the added burden of necessary temptation because we MUST eat if we want to stay on this earth. Ignorance vs our guilt of non control.....When I think about this I still get so angry, I can't even believe that it really happened. I was banded last Thursday. When in the waiting room there were quite a few other patients either waiting for their consultation, fill, surgery, whatever.....we were all big people. There were two Sisters, one waiting to go to OR for her procedure and the other there for support. When the one left the room for her procedure the other started to speak out in the waiting room. She was "normal" size. She was speaking to whomever would listen to her but loud enough that the entire room could hear her. Her conversations went like this "I hope this helps my Sister, I don't understand why she can't exercise willpower, all it takes is a little willpower......just tell yourself you are not going to eat that and then don't, anyone should be able to do this, its not that difficult, everyone should be able to use their willpower, whenever I have a dress size to lose I just willpower myself to eat only what I can, we all should be able to do that, we should sit and meditate and talk to our fat cells....will them to push the fat out and away"....and it went on and on. No one would speak, anyone's attention she got would just not affirmatively at her.....I couldn't believe what I was witnessing. My anger over ignorance made me speak out....I told her that this was not the place for talking such rubbish, that she was being clearly insensitive and inappropriate, that anyone in this room has the will power to lose one or two dress sizes and that her personal situation does not compare.......I also told her that if this is the kinda of support that she is going to give her Sister then "God Bless her poor Sister". Then I got called to OR.....couldn't wait to get away from her. Carol

maybe we shouldn't have spoiled it for the rest of them...have this thread deleted and then post the website again...see if anyone else can figure it out. Carol

our posts must have crossed paths....I was just about to add....everytime you go back to try again they change the symbols so that you are sure to get a different one on your next answer. Clever.