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Pattman....be careful not to analyze this to death, that in itself may drive her away. Carol

What an interesting thread. Re: "not thinking a spouse should be turned on by anyone other than thier SO".....to me that goes completely against human nature. As sexual human beings I think at one time or another we all get that little tingling and twinge from someone other than our spouse...as far as I'm concerned its totally natural and harmless and no reflection on your SO at all....just more or less says that you still have the capabilities and desire to be sexual with your partner. My husband looks at every female within his view......I don't say or think anything because I enjoy looking at good looking men, especially those with nice butts.....however, that doesn't mean......100%.....that I have a thought even close to my mind that I want to do anything further than just look. Well....if it was John Travolta I may reduce that to 65%!...LOL And as far as porn goes..........go for it if it helps you maintain a good sex life with your partner...I don't see any harm in that either if it helps you get aroused.....more people than we seem to realize need help in this department...especially when menopausal. And it isn't the women on the screen that causes arousal, its the sexual acts. If we all relaxed in these areas a little then maybe there would be less cheating going on. So.......as the old saying goes....."whatever floats your boat". And as far as people cheating because they don't get what they need at home....give my a friggin break on that one. The cheaters I know are self absorbed selfish conceited A$$es......no one, even their spouse could ever give them enough of what they need because they want it ALL, and how can they measure what they do or don't get when they are so in love with themselves. This isn't always the case......but from what I know it mostly is. Carol

My husband was supportive right from the very beginning. The way he and I figure it is......only I know best what I have been through that didn't work and what I had to experience while doing it. Only I know best what is still to try and knowing if I would be able to make it work. Only I know best how I feel being a big person. Only I can make the decision on what I want to happen to my body. Carol

I own a fine dining restaurant and a small lady's gym like Curves. I preached for years to anyone who asked me for dieting advice or to the ladies at the gym that you never weigh yourself more than once a week. But.......since I was banded in June I can't stay off the scales! I am going against my own advice. I weigh myself once a day.....just like another post said....to make sure that my consistant loss is real. I am enjoying this constant loss so much that I can't wait to see the scales the next morning. Shhhhhhhhhhhhh......don't tell anybody! Carol

I was 184 when starting the challenge, was 168 on the 5th......down 16. Sorry for not reporting on the 5th......I forgot. Carol

Freedom Carol

My port is directly underneath my right breast. I have had two fills so far from my GP who has never done this before and I didn't feel a thing. I didn't even feel the needle going in. He doesn't feel that such a large needle is necessary and used a much smaller one than recommended....he hit it bang on both times and I didn't feel a thing. Carol

There is nothing wrong with having a few drinks occassionally...however, don't forget that while under the influence of alcohol our better judgement is quite distorted.......for me it means that I do not have the control I need when it comes to making the right choice when eating....watch out for this! Not only could the calories from the alcohol get you, but the bad food choices as well. Carol

I don't do the shakes either. I'd rather chew my Protein than drink it. I have no problem getting in my required amount of protein through solids rather than the shakes and this suits me just find. Also, and this might be a "head" thing....but I find the actual "act" of eating........sitting down to a plate of food....helps me get through the day. Just my opinion. Carol

My goal weight is 125, it is based on 7 years ago when I reached that weight. I was very comfortable with how I looked with or without clothes and how I felt as far as my health and energy was concerned. Carol

LOL....."arse"....I haven't heard that expression since my Mom passed away in 86. I don't think ignoring them is an option that would work....would be very hard to ignore that crap. I'd go straight to the police and let them know that you mean business....would be even better if you could get some support and backing from some of the other neighbours. Carol

I believe that, to a degree, we are all a product of our environment. This child probably hears the adults in his life ridicule obese people and maybe even disabled....I've heard that many times too. When he mimics them they probably don't correct him out of their own ignorance. The only thing that bothers me when I hear a child ridule someone else is that he is not being taught otherwise.....he is merely doing what he knows. However, when it comes to adults it isabsolutely infuriates me and is totally unacceptable....no matter how ignorant they should know better.......whatever they choose to believe they should still show more sensitivity to the feelings of others. Carol

I had an incident in my restaurant today that just made me fume. Firstly, I've been banded since June 8th and with the pre-op/post-op diet have dropped about 30 lbs. I was once carrying 250 lbs on a small 5' frame....so I know what its like to be a heavy person. By no means is this point of view, or any of my comments coming from the fact that I am now banded or losing weight, I would have felt exactly the same months ago when I was up to 250. A man, woman, and their daughter came for lunch today. The man and the daughter weighed about the same, I would estimate approx 400 lbs. The mother was average weight. The daughter was approx 25 but you could tell she had a slight mental disability. When it came time to order the Father did all the talking, he asked me "do you have french fries?"....I replied "no sir, this is fine dining, we don't even have a fryer"......he said "my daughter only eats french fries, do you have any kind of fried potatoes, or maybe something like onion rings or chicken fingers will do?"....I repeated, "sorry sir, we do not have a fryer, even if we did, this is not what our restaurant is all about, we do not cook fried food". We have a sandwich on our menu we call a "Grilled Cheese", but its done with a gourmet flair.....Pancetta, thinly sliced tomato and red onion, and Gruyere cheese on home baked brioche. That is what they ordered for their daughter along with our housemade beef barley Soup. For a girl who only eats fries, let me tell you, she had no problem at all eating this lunch....and seemed to have been enjoying it, without any fuss or bother. So why....was the Father so insistant on ordering her fries when it was so easy to get her to eat something else? Then, when everyone was finished the man and the woman didn't want anything else, I asked the daughter and she said she was full...then the Father spoke up....."do you have ice cream?"...."yes sir, we make our own".....he said in return...."bring my daughter an order of ice cream".....the daughter commented again that she was full but he insisted that I bring the ice cream for her. Of course, because it was right in front of her she ate it. What is this man doing to his daughter?....she obviously is not capable of making most decisions like heathier eating choices for herself so the parents do need to help her order her food....but why these choices when obviously she will eat other foods. And why order stuff she doesn't want, especially when she is full. I really felt for her.....because her weight problem will only get worse considering these circumstances. :think Carol

I quit drinking all together, not only because of the calories but because alcohol could distort you better judgement......once under the influence it isn't hard to make bad food choices.....that only adds insult to injury! I have my purse packed with raspberry flavoured crystal light, the single packs. When I'm in a social situation I ask for Water with lime in a red wine glass and then I douse it with the crystal light......I feeling like I'm playing the part but without the extra calories or buzz on. Carol

Hi: My husband has a reconstructed leg that doesn't bend at the knee. He can not get down on the floor to do certain exercises. We know of exercises he can do with dumb bells for the chest and arms but we need to know of exercises for the abs and back that he can do while sitting. Does anyone have any ideas? Carol

My Dr. decided not to use the needle recommended by the clinic who did the surgery. Instead he used a regular needle that would be used for a flu shot, as an example. I never had anything to numb the pain and I didn't feel a thing, I didn't even feel the first prick of the needle. He didn't find the centre of the port right away and hit metal a few times and I didn't even feel that. I had 5 cc's and it took me over 1/2 hour to drink 1/4 bottle of Water so he took 1 out. Its been one week and I don't feel like 4 ccs is enough so I'm going back in 2 weeks for more. Carol

Somebody would know...ME...I couldn't live with my conscience....I like to sleep at night. Carol

Christmas is the most important occassion to my family, (I made an earlier post explaining why)....so, of course I want to particpate in this challenge.....I'm going for the big-un!!!!!!!!!!!! My Christmas wish is to be at goal by Dec 25! Need to lose another 48 and I know I can do it....I'm really good at losing, just not so good at staying there but now I have the band........yipee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Carol

Thank you very much everyone for you help, hubby is anxious to rid himself of the beer belly.....he did get rid of the beer! Carol

Dody....if it offends you that some threads are off topic....then why do you visit them and even take the time to respond? Doesn't make much sense to me. Anyhow....since I'm not totally consumed by my band and like to read other topics this goes to the rest of you....I am enjoying this thread and reading other's opinions and perceptions of cheating. Carol

Neither of us have cheated. I have heard my husband say on occasion when the topic of dicussion is about someone we know cheating on the other...."I would never do that to Carol because I know just how much it would devastate her, I would never want to hurt her like that". It is my biggest fear, I love my Al so much I can't stand to even think that he has touched another woman or had an intimate conversation with someone else. Even though I trust him, losing him to another woman is a real fear of mine......I hope my weight loss helps me be more confident that this will never happen.....even though Al has never said one negative word about my weight problem and has greatly supported me with everything I have ever done. Carol

Well put Leila! Carol

Please Jack, you need to continue. I know enough of what you know and, pleeeeeeeeeeease, this thread and the other colon cleanse thread really needs to be Enlightened....I look forward to your other post. Carol

What underwear.......don't we all wear thongs? Carol

Thanks Leila for the kind comments regarding my post. As far as closing this thread.....Why? You don't thing that this forum's membership is mature enough to duke it out and fight their own battles....and then come to an amicable conclusion? Oh well, whatever! Carol