FuriousAbyss1947

HELLO TO ALL! I am a 22 year old guy with the band. i got the band 8 months ago. i wore a size 52 jeans that where tight, now im size 44 that are getting too big. i am 6ft 3in and was 380lbs, now, i am 293ish. to be honost i have a mix of extreme happiness and extreme anger. when it comes to being happy, wow, it is great. i can buy cLothes that are not from MENS BIG AND TALL, i can fit soooo much better in the chairs at movie theaters and the chairs at college. i have energy and 10X the confidence to approach women and people in general! BUT, i am so angry at times.......i see people from my past...mostlygirls from Highschool. these are the cheer leader types. the really "hot" girls. the girls that where only friends and no chance of being my girl-friend. they see me and say, "OMG is that you, gimme a hug, wow you look great, gimme a call this weekend, how are you" hahahaha this one girl i used to have a crush on even said "you are turning in to a hot guy" like im a mutant, ever changing for thier pleasure. when i was " really fat" i always wondered what is what like to be thin, i never was thin my entire life. i havent been under 300lbs since i was 15 until recently. i was always a funny guy trying to get people to like me, i wanted them to try to ignore my weight and focus on my personality. it workd to a point, but now.......that im getting thinner....i dont know what to think any more. all these people from my past are so nice to me, even my friends of many years give me more respect now that im loosing weight. IT MAKES ME SO MAD. its like i had the plague before and now, i am cured.... i never told any one of the band....i lied, i told people that i had my gaulblatter taken out. no one ever figuerd out i had the band. i told them i was taking health seriouly now. they bought my lie, the only people that know are my parents, not even my grand parents. i feel ashamed i got it done. i feel that i shouldof been healthy by myself.....believe me.....i dont regret getting the band, but i feel like im living a lie....im walking around with a huge piece of my self that i cant share with the people in my life. i had the courage to get the band, had the courage to stand up for myself and fight back when i got picked on in school, people realized that i wasnt i person to mess with and gained either their respect or fear....i hate it came to that.....but i wasnt going to become a door step for anyone....now that people respect me for my weight loss and my personality. i dont know how to handel this new life style. for the first time in myife people are judging me for me and not my weight..... im having trouble dropping my guard and letting others in to see me for me. For example, i met this great girl at college, i never told her about my weight loss so she could just see me or me. she is so pretty, and all i can think out is "would she of liked me 87lbs ago" so in my infinate "wisdom" i stopped talking to her:frown:. i cant getover that fact that, in my past, she would of just kept walking rigt past me. i am having trouble trusting people. i want to reach out to others now, dont get me wrong i had plenty of friends in highschool and college, but now, i dont know how to handel my self. i want to be social and fun and the guy people flock around, but i am loosing my self. i am a brain in a new body, its like an baby learnng to walk, i am in the fetal stages of my growth. i am growing but not ready to come out yet. i guess i need to start telling people i had the band, i almost did once to the girl from school, but i couldnt. i got to let go of this anger and be happy because im becoming healthy. but i must admit........my motivation for weight loss is anger and hate twords people. every pound i lose is because i am motivated by the people i dispise. every time i work out, i think of the people that give me their fake complements. ahhhhhh, i dont know what to do. i am still losing weight, but im having a hard time adjusting to my new me. any one got any thoughts? any thing would be appreciated.......this is what i am......this is what i have become.-FURIOUS ABYSS:thumbup:

hey- i deff see where you are coming from, there are thyroid probs, specific health probs that women only get that help get them heavy, like my moms polysistic ovary problem, just from my situation, i became what i was because i was lazy and ate wrong, and i see way too many people do what i did. the band is the tool for this problem, thanks for the kind words, stay strong-Furious abyss

oh yes, this dog will have his day, haha

hey- first off Jachut, you look fantastic, you motivate me, you are a poster child for the LapBand. You play to my interestes when in comes to the unconsciousness and Darwinism "survival of the strongest", im a psychology major at school. i completly understand that people gravitate in the direction of thinner people. i mean, why do we like super models.....cuz they are thin for a start. but what im hung up on is how people can look you in the eye and say "yeah im your friend" and then treat you so much better when you are thinner. i feel betrayed to a degree. but i must disagree with you on a point, i dont think being fat is a illness. the reason i was so fat was because i ate way too much, i didnt exercise, and didnt give a sh!t abot my self or health. i didnt care about my self, in return, others didnt care about me! now that i care for myself to a high degree, now others do. i do walk taller and more confident now. and maybe others are feeling this vibe anD reacting differently. i was always the fat jokester, now that im Cutting weight people see me differently. THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS, LKE I SAID...YOU MOTIVATE ME.STAY STRONG-FURIOUS ABYSS :w00t:

THANKS FOR THE KIND WORDS- i do notice when i see people from the past and hear their superfical comments, i work out like a fiend and channel my anger and aggression. on the topic of the girl.........haha well its a little too far gone with that situation. that ship has left port awhile ago, ill be walking alone for awhile, but thanks again, STAY STRONG-Furious Abyss:thumbup:

hey- i deff respect what you say. i came off alittle harsh. i do feel isolated at times, most of the time. i guessi shouldnt say dont tell people. i am just very uncomfortable talking about it. thats why im on here trying to find people like you all for support...i have noo where else to go i guess. maybe one day ill tell the people in my life, but ive been fat my whole life and 87Lbs llighter now.....its like a dream.....sometimes ill think ill wake up and none of it happend. i had a dream one night that i put all my weight bacK on, in the dream i was in such turmoil and anger. im starting to live my dream and life now. i guess go with your heart and if you feel comfortable telling people....THATS GREAT:lol:, but i have more evolving to do and more emotional growing to do with my changing body, this isthe the path i chose to walk, and im doing the best i can:thumbup:-FURIOUS ABYSS

thanks for the reply....i know she doesnt deserve what I did, she didnt even know i lost all that weight so far.......im just going through very odd times, and handle my new situation poorly sometimes. i am more confindent now, but i was always a jokster and and funny guy who liked attention, it just feels so odd that people are viewing me differently, im the same person, then again maybe im not, i dont know, i am working on changing myself for the better, thats why i got the band, i guess its going to take time and empathey of others. once again thanks for the reply, stay strong-FURIOUS ABYSS

HEY- IM A 22 YEAR OLD GUY, WENT FROM 380 TO 293 IN EIGHT MONTHS, THE LADIES HAVE BEEN MUCH MORE RECEPTIVE TO ME NOW.....GOOD THING RIGHT?, HAHAHAHA WRONG. The girls i used to know are like ahhhh you look so good, im like what was wrong with me before. every new girl i meet im like wuld they of liked me 87lbs ago. i admit it, i am very effing angry with people. read my post "THE ABYSS IS FURIOUS.....HELP WITH PEOPLE" that has my whole story. i am just real parinoid with people now, i feel like no matter what i do i will be judged for either being FAT OR THIN. hahaha, i just wish people, and these girls in my life just would see me, fat or thin, LATER ON AND GOOD LUCK-FURIOUS ABYSS

hey-im your age, and thought about telling people.....im my personal opinion.....DONT....im a guy and....lets just say in my circle of fiends it wouldnt of went over to well. my mom had it done and told people and they seem to treat her like she had a surgery to cure a cancer or illness. i just told people i had my galblatter out. yes, i am ashamed of the procedure, and a failure for not loosin weight myself. but im 87lbs lighter, and feeling like a million bucks, and my friends, the guys and girls, are not any wiser to my big lie....i do feel a little bad, but just look in the mirrior and feel better about it. I am just trying to be honost-FURIOUSABYSS

hey, I was banded on may 6th, 2008, i was 21 at the time. the pre-procedures where a ECG "eco-cardio grahm" A complete blood count. the psych evaluation is quick and easy fo me. it is just to see if a person has any body image issues and unrealistic goals...like weighing 50 lbs or something like that. the band was the best thing i eve did....for real. i lost 87lbs in 8 months....my first month....i lost 30lbs....a pound a day. i weighed 380 im down to 293...i wore a tight size 52 jeans now roomy 44. i was wearing 5xl-4xl tee', now im down to 2xl's. i workout 4-5 times a week, but diet is the most important thing! it is important to stick to the diet and eat consistantly. i had probs with portion control.....i loved food more than myself...now....i have trouble eating a 2000 calorie diet. like i said its the best thing iever did. STAY STRONG, STAY MOTIVATED, AND STAY TRUE TO YOUR SELF. if you ever wana talk, I am more than willing to help."if the road is easy, the destination is not worth the walk" -FURIOUS ABYSS

I have no regrets. I even feel like i am cheating in a way....meaning this is way to easy, its like a get out of jail free card. i thought when i had it done 8 months ago, "this is going to be hard, i might fail", hahahahah, i was so wrong, the band is easy, dont be worried, the only thing i regret was not doing it sooner, i was always fat and had poor diet, i went from 380 to 293ish in 8 months. i work out 4-5 times a week, and do not cheat on my diet. this life changing procedure is worth it. the only regrets people have are the mistakes they made in the pasy, having the band gives you the tools to re-build yourself. it gives you a second chance few people have gotten in the past. we are lucky to live in an age where this procedure is possible. Please....i hope you do well."IF THE ROAD IS EASY....THE DESTINATION IS NOT WORTH THE WALK"-FuriousAbyss1947

what up bro, I am the son of the woman in the previous post. Listen.....I know there is much more fear than just the procedure itself. there is fear of the actual change in life style. no more good foods, soda, beer, bread, and any other nasty food we all love will be gone. but, i have lost almost 90lbs in 8 months. i was 380lbs, and loved food more than my own life. that has all changed. i almost get sick thinking of the foods i used to adore. in the first month of being banded i lost 30lbs, a pound a day....i am 22 years old. but i didnt mess around. i work out and exerise 4-5 times a week. i am millitant when it comes to food and exercise. the amount of work you put into the band you get back 10fold in health. dont be worried the surgery is cake, almost little pain, mostly gas. but i would take ten times the amount of pain......because it is worht it. the band is the greatest tool for weight loss. motivation, sacrifice, and courage are all words needed to describe the lap band journey. once you get it over with the procedure.... is when the the real work begins. STAY STRONG....STAY MOTIVATED...AND STAND TALL. IF THE ROAD IS EASY...THE DESTINATION IS NOT WORTH THE WALK. if you want to talk about this more i would be more than happy. i want to see you do well, so dont hesitate to talk to a person that has been in your shoes and walked the line.-FuriousAbyss1947