OKay I am not the one that is having the lap band, my hubby is, but I have had surgeries in the past with lifting restrictions when ours were little. The best I could do was sit on the couch and have them crawl up to me there and explain to them that I could not lift them for a little while, they were really carefull not to hurt me, didn't go anywhere with them during the time I could not lift them, if I did I had someone with me to lift them. Hope this helps.