amylou28

My mom had the surgery about 9 months ago.. she lost about 30 lbs and that was it. They keep telling her she has to eat more, but she won't, somehow she has it in her head that if she eats less that she will loose more weight, there is just no talking to her. I found out today she ate.... one piece of bologny, three bites of salad, which she threw most of it up bc the salad didnt' want to stay down bc she just got a fill last wk, and about four bites of potatoe soup... and yes oh yes that's it.. that's all she wrote folks... and that is a typical day and that is if she eats anything at all during the day. She did say that she was taking penut butter to wk with her so she could eat a spoonfull during the day instead of trying to do a whole meal. I don't know how else to tlak to her or what else to do for her. They did the calorie calculation test on her and told her she needed at the very least 1600 calories a day... as soon as she left the office she huffed and said yea right there's no way!!!!! I am starting to worry about her organs.. she is already starting to loose her hair. She is beautiful and wasn't that over weight at all to begin with!!!! ugggg:mad:

Thank you so much guys.. I really do appreciate it. I will use whatever works..but ultimately you are right it is up to her. She has to chose to do the right thing, maybe all her hair will fall out before anything major can go wrong. Thank you again for all your imput! God bless you all! And good luck on each of your journeys!

Thank you guys... I have tried to explain to her for years about metabolism.. I have tried and tried to talk to her, but talking does nothing to explain to her. She even had the caloric intake test and even when the dr's told her she needed more calories she didn't believe them. We thought that the lap band would make her eat more often.. bc that is what she did.. starve all day then binge and eat too much at the end of the day. But now she just doesn't eat hardly at all!!! Now she is just malnurished.... her hair is falling out and all she has to say is "i'm just not getting enough protein"... I told my dad he had to do something with her and he said I tried but she won't listen to me either, but honestly like someone else said I can't make her choices for her. I just don't know what to expect next. If she loses all her hair what will happen after that? It is freaking her out a little that she is losing her hair.. I kinda played on that the other day... she said she didn't want to lose her hair and I told her she was going to lose it all if she didn't start eating more. She said she had started taking penut butter to wk and eating a spoon full for lunch...yea that's right one spoon full of penut butter and then maybe a couple of bites of something for dinner...that's it....I don't know her vanity is about all the leverage I have right now....But I'll take whatever works... and no she won't let me go to any dr's apts with her at all.. bc she knows I'll tell on her!