juliegeraci

I don't have implants so I can't answer but I did have a tummy tuck. I lost 6.5 lbs of pannus. I have heard some people lose 10 lbs or more though. Boy girl, you must be 5'2". Good for you!

Ghost, thank you for the post. It is so good that I am not alone in my feelings. I have only had sexual chemistry 3 times in my life. Once with my high school sweetheart. Another with a man I dated who was separated from his wife and my affair a few years ago. I really miss that connection. I have tried everything to bring a spark into my life with Paul. I have tried therapy, marriage encounters, weekends away, etc. I really miss that part of my life. I hope with my new life and therapy I can reach some decisions. Paul is one of my dearest friends and I hate to lose him. They say you can be married to your best friend but its just like kissing a stranger. Weird.

I so cannot do scrambled eggs. Sometimes I push it and have an omelette but it is very few bites. I typically PB it. I eat everything else pretty much.

How much can you consume at once? How is your restriction? Are you eating 800-1k calories, no more than 1200. Ask yourself these serious questions. I eat 1-3 oz at a time with good restriction. It took me 35 minutes to eat 3 oz of chicken breast, 5 sliced tomatoes and about 1/4 cup of salad the other day. Today I am tight so I had 3 pieces of melon (took me forever to eat) almost all a tortilla with some cheese melted, 10 crackers, some carrots and 4 bites of scallops with rice. On the days I am not tight, I eat more. My docto says that is fine. I plateaued for 7 months. Finally with a good fill and joining Weight Watchers I am losing again. I typically eat high protein, fruits and vegies with limited carbs. Good luck.

Girlfriend I so get it, hang in there. I just lost 6 lbs but hadn't loss anything since January. I had to get the right fill level, join Weight Watchers and just try harder. You can do it, I believe in you.

Not that it is right or anything and I am not here to defend myself but I had an affair 3 years ago my husband is aware of. He quickly lost about 70 lbs. Since then he has gained most of it back now that he thinks things are okay. I stopped smoking, I have lost weight and I am stopping all alcohol to lose the last 20. I am not in love with him and that is the problem. He is such a great friend that it tares me up inside. I hope I can make it through this okay. I got a new counselor for the both of us. Wish me luck.

Get a fill first. Eat 800-1k, no more than 1200 a day and you will lose.

6-8 almonds usually do the trick for me and they are very nutritious.

I follow the Weight Watchers core program which is high protein, fruits and vegies. The only free carbs I am allowed are brown rice, white and red potatoes, whole wheat pasta. I get roughly 1700 calories a week extra for whatever I want. I am losing roughly 2-3 lbs per week. It unlimited protein, fruits and vegies.

I went through the same thing. It is better to be a little looser to get your solid protein in. You can go 3-4 hours if you get your solid protein in. Protein shakes for me were typically and hour or so.

Sorry to hear about the infidelity. It can be overcome so be patient. My husband told me this a.m. that you don't change when you lose weight. My physical attraction to him has definitely changed that is for sure. I daydream about finding someone healthier that can live my lifestyle with me. I dream of better sex and everything. I haven't been in love with him in probably 5 years.

How much food can you consume at one time. I am losing quite nicely on 1-3oz of protein at a time. The only time I PB is if I eat too fast. On a good day I can intake 1/2 to 3/4 cup in about 30-40 minutes. On a tight day its more like a few bites. Doc says to eat more on my loose day. I do follow the Weight Watchers core program which is high protein, low carb, fruits and vegies. Also, how many calories a day are you intaking? You should be at 800-1k, no more than 1200 a day. Let me know how your restriction is too. Julie

I was told it takes 6-9 months to go back. With that being said make sure you are wearing your under garmet 24x7. If it doesn't go back in 6-9 months you may need a tummy tuck. Julie

Good for you. I told my husband that I have changed now that I am thinner and he said I haven't changed at all. What does it mean when you no longer like the same things, feel better about yourself and are no longer attracted to your husband? BTW this has been going on for about 4 years. My transition started way before being banded.

16 more to go. Almost there.

I love my husband like a brother but nothing more than that. That is why it is so hard on me. Now that I am feeling better about myself I day dream of meeting someone I am more compatible with in a sexual way, connected way. He is also emotionally abusive to the children so that is another subject. We are going to go to marriage couseling again. We have just about done everything, This is the second time in 3 years for couseling.

I would call today. Typically 2-3 days later and it doesn't loosen up is a bad sign.

Thanks for the input. My husband has my name tatootted all over his body if you know what I mean. He is great if I was 80 and needed my diaper changed. As far as romantic love we have some serious sex issues. He has errectial dysfunction and needs to be on meds to last more than 1 minute. This is of huge concern of mine because I am very sexual. The affair didn't help with this matter of course. The kids will be okay but I need hin to change, I just am not sure what to do other than therapy. I told my family today what was going on so that is good. i am mostly concerned about my older son who has dabbked in drugs. I meet his new counselor on Friday, My continued committment are my kids and my sobriety first (alcoholism) coupled with some individual therapy and marriage counseling, This is a huge breaking point for me. I almost left my husband 3 years ago so it is startng all over agai but I am much more serious this time.

I've been having trouble in my marriage for about 4 years. I love my husband dearly but I don't have a real love connection with him. They say you can stay married if you are just friends, but it is very painful for me because I can't get to that level I want to. I don't want to make love anymore. It feels like I am kissing my brother. I have one teenager by a previous marriage who lives with us. I also have a 7 year old. My husband is a less that perfect father. He is a screamer and has difficulty disciplining the children. It really affects me. We have been in marriage counseling before and even did a Marriage Encounter retreat last year through the Catholic Church. I did have an affair 3 years ago so that too affected my marriage. My husband is a goof man its just that magically soulful connection is what I want. Am I dreaming or what? It is so painful for me because he is such a hard worker.

Hi Nancy, it is really bad. I woke up this a.m. at 7a.m. having him yelling the f* word left and right to my 7 year old. This is going to stop soon. It is not healthy.

Thanks Nancy. I had a long discussion with a friend of mine today about how unhealthy my husband is compared to me and how it has affected our relationship. I work for a company that has great mental health benefits. I will call them tomorrow to get with a good therapist. I am not the same person I was 10 years agoi when I was married. The infidelity was just a small part of what has been going on for quite a few years. My 16 year old son yesterday told me my husband should have never been a father because he is so verbally abusive. He doesn't treat me that way, just the kids. It is the way he was raised. To scream, yell and swear at the kids. I will keep you all informed. Please keep the emails coming.

Therapy for myself might be a good idea. Its hard too because I still have feelings for the other man even though we can't be together. I went to confession during my marriage encounter weekend and the priest was so kind to me. he must hear this every day . He suggested that I meet with a priest at my local church too.

I too am an 11. The only thing I noticed was the shoes aren't as tight now. I tried on some sandles I have owned for a few years and they fit me across the strap much looser.

I went from 285 to 216 and went from size C to B. I will be barely a B when I get to goal.

I lost 60 lbs at my 2 year mark, probably 50 the first year. I am about 20-25 lbs from goal still. It sounds like you may want to get another fill especially if you can eat high quantities of foods. I do the WW core program and am losing 1-3 lbs per week following that. I can only eat a couple oz of protein at a time so I have perfect restriction. How much at one time do you eat? 1/2 cuo? 1 cup? If you eat more like 1 cup and really aren't losing then you neef a fill. I eat 1/4 to 1/2 cup at a time. It took me 40 minutes yesterday to eat 3 oz of chicken and about 1/2 cup of salad.