j in nj

Hello, My name is Jennifer. I am 35 yrs. old. i have 2 daughters, one 7 and one who just turned 13 months. I am overweight..serverly! I weigh 315 lbs. I have always been fat. I have met with the dr. 2x and i am just waiting for a surgery date. I really don't know if i am making the correct decision to be banded vs. the bypass. I am having a difficult time and really haven't followed the pre surgical diet yet. I need to start with a gym early in the morning. Anyone else in my shoes? I never thought i would be here! ever. but i am tired of struggling for everything i deciede to put into my mouth and lose hardly any weight. Can someone give me some advice. Was it hard getting started? or did you really wait to get started after you were banded? I am getting really scared about the restrictions on everything please help!

Thank you everyone for your responses! You truely are a bunch of wonderful people. I can't believe i actually have to do this. Some people abuse alcohol, some drugs, mine is food. I eat happy or sad, but mostly when i am stressed. I shove anything in my mouth. My worst enemy is my 2 fingers...as i;ve been told. I have a 13 month old and a 7yrs. girls. I am constantly tired. I went through hell and back to have the baby, 3 1/2 yrs. of infertility(unexplained). i even had a doctor who wouldn't treat me back then, b/c 275 was too heavy for his stat's. I was embarrassed when i had my c section b/c they had to tape back my stomach. I was black and blue for months! again, very degrading. I wish i was 275 again anything from where i am at. I have good moments in the morning and it gets worse durning the day. I am having difficulty with the pre op diet and i am fearful about that. If i can't totally change my ways before the surgery what is going to happen to me after? I am picking the band b/c of safety reasons and i feel it won't put my family out too much. It is the first selfish thing i am doing for myself. I am out on maternity leave so money is tight, but it is something I need to fight my own demons with. We are using our tax money to pay for some of it. We worked out an agreement to pay monthly payments on what the insurance doesn't pick up. My question to you is this: Is it hard after the surgery to follow the fdiet if you didn't totally follow it pre op? Does it make it easier? Are you able to function. I will have help for the first week, but the 2nd i am pretty much on mhy own. I want to do this before my older daughter gets out of school. Any opinions would help. Just waiting for a date to start my new life off. I also want to evently walk in to Victoria Secret to buy something for myself and not have them think its for someone else. I just want to buy normal clothes and fit on amusement rides with my older daughter